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029. The Secret Life of Cerebrospinal Fluid w/ Dr. Mauro Zappaterra

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 02:45:00 -0700

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Mauro Zappaterra—Harvard-trained physician, researcher, and truly one of the most heart-centered scientists I’ve ever met. His work has changed the way we understand not only fetal development, but consciousness itself. Together, we explore the powerful, often overlooked role of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) and amniotic fluid—what I now see as the brain’s hidden river and the womb’s sacred mirror.

Dr. Zappaterra takes us into the third ventricle, a deeply intuitive space in the brain where CSF flows and dimensional awareness begins. We talk about how this fluid supports our nervous system, carries emotional and energetic imprints, and can become a tool for healing if we learn to attune to it. For birth workers, parents, and anyone on a path of remembering, this conversation reveals the deep intelligence stored within us since before birth.

We also explore the emotional signature of amniotic fluid—how a mother’s or surrogate’s internal state imprints the developing child, and how that connection lives on far beyond the womb. You’ll hear how interventions like epidurals can shift the natural flow of this system, and what we can do to reconnect with it holistically.

This episode is about remembering that we are fluid beings, deeply connected to something ancient, sacred, and intelligent that has always been within us.

Inside this conversation:

What CSF reveals about our emotional and spiritual state
The third ventricle as a portal to higher consciousness
The lifelong bond formed in the amniotic field—even with surrogates
How to tune in to the subtle energies of your own neurofluid system
What we lose when we ignore the unseen—and how to reclaim it

Chapters:

(00:01:13) Introduction

(00:01:59) The Brain’s Hidden River: Dr. Mauro Zapaterra’s Exploration of Cerebrospinal Fluid

(00:17:10) The Neurofluid Connection and How the Third Ventricle and CSF Support Consciousness and Dimensional Awareness

(00:25:29) The Untold Power of Cerebrospinal Fluid, A Hidden Key to Anatomy and Awakening

(00:35:41) How Cerebrospinal Fluid Shapes Fetal Development and Reflects Maternal Emotion

(00:47:17) How Amniotic Fluid Creates a Lifelong Connection Between Surrogate and Child

(00:55:00) Steps to Connect with the Stored Intelligence in Your CSF

(01:12:01) Why We Resist the Unseen and How to Attune to Subtle Energies

(01:17:21) Epidural Interventions and Their Influence on Cerebrospinal Fluid and Holistic Ways to Rebalance

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028. How to Truly Understand Your Child w/ Kirk Martin

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 03 Jun 2025 03:10:00 -0700

What if parenting wasn’t about control—but connection? In this powerful episode of Born to Know, I sit down with Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm, who has helped over 1 million families across 20+ countries transform relationships with even the most strong-willed children. His work has brought peace to homes challenged by ADHD, anxiety, defiance, and explosive behavior—not by forcing change in kids, but by guiding parents back to themselves.

We explore why micromanagement blocks emotional maturity, how parental anxiety fuels disconnection, and why conventional milestones—like reading at age 4—are often arbitrary distractions from a child’s true development. Kirk offers tangible tools for letting go of control, building emotional safety, and raising kids who trust themselves.

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to “fix” your child, this conversation invites a shift: what if your child isn’t broken… and never was? Learn how curiosity, autonomy, and deep respect can replace punishment, pressure, and power struggles. This is for parents raising ADHD kids, spirited learners, and beautifully “different” children who don’t fit the mold—and never should.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:26) Redefining Parenting: Kirk Martin on Healing, Connection, and the End of Power Struggles

(00:07:26) The Mimicry Effect: Why Children Reflect the Behaviors They See in Parents

(00:09:00) Stop Micromanaging, Start Empowering: Kirk Martin’s Phrases That Build Confidence in Kids—and Calm in Parents

(00:14:29) Letting Go of Control: Practical Tools to Support Your Child Without Micromanaging

(00:18:30) Let Them Choose: Why Choices Help Kids Understand Themselves

(00:23:57) Freedom Doesn’t Breed Rebellion: How Respecting Your Child’s Choices Fosters Self-Awareness and Lifelong Authenticity

(00:28:21) The Power of Being 'Weird': Why Authentic, Strong-Willed Kids Grow Into Exceptional Adults

(00:32:00) Misunderstood in the Classroom: Why Strong-Willed Kids Resist Traditional Schooling—And Still Grow into Bold, Creative Leaders

(00:38:00) Raising Creative Kids: Why Boredom, Nature, and Peer Connection Matter More Than Constant Entertainment

(00:45:09) Teaching Trust, Not Obedience: The Hidden Costs of Conventional Schooling and the Power of Autonomy at Home

(00:50:15) How Parental Anxiety Shapes Children and Disrupts the Parent-Child Connection

(00:54:27) The Phrases that Shape Us: How Parental Words Resonate Into Adulthood and Impact Self-Worth

(01:00:05) Nurturing Curiosity: Why Focusing on Your Child’s Strengths Outshines Any Report Card

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027. Unlocking AI's Higher Purpose w/ Laura Matsue

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 27 May 2025 05:35:00 -0700

In this powerful episode of Born to Know, I sit down with Laura Matsue—a psychospiritual coach, evolutionary astrologer, and healer whose work has transformed my understanding of soul growth, trauma, and the future of AI. From the very start, Laura’s story of her reverse nodal return sparked a profound psycho-spiritual awakening that sets the tone for a conversation that will truly change your life.

We dive deep into Pluto in Scorpio’s generational call for soul-level healing and trauma transformation, exploring how evolutionary astrology reveals our karmic contracts and soul lessons through the North and South Nodes. You’ll discover how the Saturn-Pluto conjunction marked a cosmic turning point, triggering the global pandemic and reshaping social and cultural beliefs on a profound level.

We also unpack the echoes of Orwellian propaganda and energetic influence in the COVID era before moving into the astrology behind the AI revolution with Pluto in Aquarius. Laura sheds light on the hidden toll AI takes on creativity and consciousness, and how this technological shift challenges us to reclaim real human connection.

For parents, this episode offers insight into raising children in a digital world and reviving creativity through real-life exploration. We close by exploring somatic healing, recognizing dissociation, and building stronger relationships through body awareness.

If you’re ready to rethink AI and spirituality, prepare for spiritual growth in the digital age, and awaken your soul’s journey—this conversation with Laura Matsue is your gateway. Tune in and get ready to transform your perception of yourself, the cosmos, and the future.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:25) From Breaking Point to Healing: How Laura Matsue’s Reverse Nodal Return Sparked a Psycho-Spiritual Awakening

(00:05:17) Pluto in Scorpio: A Generation Born for Soul-Level Healing and Trauma Transformation

(00:07:54) Understanding the Soul’s Journey: How Evolutionary Astrology Reveals Our Karmic Contracts and Life Lessons

(00:11:42) The North and South Nodes in Astrology: Gateways to Our Past Lives and Soul Evolution

(00:14:07) Cosmic Turning Point: How the Saturn-Pluto Conjunction Heralded the COVID Era

(00:17:28) From Liberal to Conservative: How the Pandemic Reshaped Social and Cultural Beliefs

(00:25:58) Echoes of Orwell: Pandemic Propaganda, Energetic Influence, and the Power of Repetition

(00:32:43) Pluto in Aquarius: The Astrological Blueprint Behind AI, Social Shifts, and the Transhumanist Agenda

(00:38:48) Artificial Intelligence, Real Disconnection: The Hidden Toll on Human Creativity and Consciousness

(00:43:23) Raising Kids in a Digital World: Reclaiming Childhood from Screens and Reviving Creativity Through Real-Life Exploration

(00:49:22) Awakening the Body: How to Recognize Somatic Signs, Heal Dissociation, and Build Stronger Relationships

(00:56:11) How to Connect with Laura Matsue and Her Offerings

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026. Before Birth, After Death & What Hypnosis Reveals w/ Sam Joshi

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 20 May 2025 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I sit down with hypnotherapist Samanvaya “Sam” Joshi to explore what really lives beneath the surface of our everyday awareness. We dive into Quantum Healing Hypnosis—a gentle yet profound process that opens the door to the subconscious mind, where old stories, past lives, and even pre-birth memories are stored. Sam shares how we can access the root of emotional pain without force, without faith, and without needing to “believe” in anything. This approach does not need to conflict with dogmas, as the goal is to uncover what already resides in the unconscious mind.

We talk about healing the inner child, remembering our soul’s path, and how hypnotherapy can help rewire patterns that began before we could speak. There’s a beautiful intersection here between science and soul—between the brain’s neuroplasticity and the timeless wisdom that lives within us. If you’re curious about the deeper layers of healing, or if you’ve ever wondered what your subconscious is trying to tell you, this conversation is for you.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:44) Eyla’s Inner Journey: Hypnosis, Past Lives, and Healing with Sam Joshi

(00:03:44) Unlocking the Subconscious: Sam Joshi’s Approach to Quantum Healing Hypnosis (QHHT)

(00:09:00) Opening the Door to the Subconscious: The Power of Relaxation and Trust in Hypnosis

(00:13:00) From Seeker to Healer: Sam Joshi’s Journey to Dolores Cannon and Hypnotherapy

(00:20:12) Soul Bonds in Hypnosis: Discovering the Invisible Thread That Connects Us

(00:22:48) No Faith Required: Breaking Down Skepticism and Unlocking the Power of Hypnosis

(00:29:45) The Lost Voice Within: Healing the Inner Child and Rebuilding Trust in Ourselves

(00:41:44) Past Lives Revealed: How Hypnotherapy Opens the Door to the Soul’s History

(00:50:14) Rethinking the Afterlife: Escaping the Constraints of Heaven and Hell

(00:56:23) Layers of Memory: From Pre-Birth Consciousness to Infant Pain Recall

(01:02:58) The Path to Empowerment: Taking Responsibility for Your Spiritual and Physical Journey

(01:09:02) Unlocking Life’s Full Potential: The Alchemical Power of Hypnotherapy

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025. The Energy of Beauty: Beyond Surgery & Filters w/ Dr. Cameron Chesnut

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 13 May 2025 02:00:00 -0700

In this powerful episode of Born to Know, I speak with world-renowned facial plastic surgeon Dr. Cameron Chesnut, MD, FAAD, FACMS, FASDS, MDS—celebrated globally for his astonishing outcomes from minimally invasive procedures that leave his patients looking natural, rejuvenated, and seemingly untouched. He is renowned for his progressive use of regenerative medicine and postoperative recovery techniques, as well as his dedicated personal preparation for performance readiness. Known for his advanced holistic rejuvenation techniques, Dr. Chesnut merges science, art, and energetic healing to redefine beauty from the inside out.

We dive into the real meaning of beauty—beyond Botox, fillers, and surgical trends. From the long-term effects of facial injections and social media beauty standards to the role of fascia, posture, and hormonal balance in aging, this conversation uncovers how to achieve youthful skin naturally and restore confidence without relying on invasive procedures.

Dr. Chesnut shares his philosophy of conscious cosmetic transformation, how emotional expression impacts relationships, and why many procedures accelerate aging instead of reversing it. You’ll learn how to support graceful aging through anti-aging lifestyle shifts, energetic alignment, and truly informed consent.

Whether you’ve had cosmetic work, are considering it, or want to age with more self-trust and vitality, this episode offers a new blueprint for natural beauty, skin health, and holistic self-renewal.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:16) From Inspiration to Innovation: Dr. Cameron Chesnut on Choosing Cosmetic Surgery and the Balance Between Rejuvenation and Transformation

(00:06:28) What daily steps can people take to be proactive in their aging physical process

(00:08:20) The Energy of Youth: Reconciling Cognitive Dissonance for Radiant Aging

(00:12:53) Frozen Signals: How Botox and Expression-Suppressing Procedures Impact Relationship Dynamics

(00:17:01) Filtered Faces: How Social Media's Beauty Ideals Drive Young Women to Early Cosmetic Intervention

(00:24:30) The Psychology of Beauty: How Cosmetic Transformations Are Shaping the Teenage Mind

(00:30:13) Beauty with Consequences: The Lifelong Implications of Cosmetic Procedures and the Need for True Informed Consent

(00:32:31) The Problem with Perfection: How Dr. Chesnut Counters Unrealistic Beauty Trends with Subtle, Natural Results

(00:35:08) Structural Beauty: Understanding Fascia’s Role in the Science of Rejuvenation

(00:38:49) The Face Reflects the Body: Reversing Wrinkles Through Posture and Lifestyle Shifts

(00:44:37) The Age Accelerator: Understanding Cortisol’s Role in Aging and How to Fight Back

(00:47:46) Dr. Cameron Chesnut’s Approach to Cosmetic Rejuvenation for Patients Facing Hormonal Aging

(00:49:54) Buccal Fat Reduction: The Trend and Its Long-Term Effects on Facial Aging

(00:52:26) Restoring Confidence: Dr. Chesnut’s Work in Reversing Failed Cosmetic Procedures

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024. Consent Isn’t What You Think It Is w/ Dr. Betty Martin

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 06 May 2025 02:00:00 -0700

Today’s episode is truly something special. I’m honored to welcome the brilliant Dr. Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent, for a conversation that will change the way you relate to yourself and others.

If you’ve ever struggled with knowing what you really want, how to say no, or how to feel safe in your body and relationships—this episode is for you. We’re diving deep into somatic wisdom, empowered consent, and the radical truth of honoring your inner “yes” and “no.”

This isn’t just a conversation—it’s an invitation to transform. Tune in, take a breath, and get ready to reclaim your boundaries, your pleasure, and your power.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:44) From Somatic Experience to Empowered Consent

(00:02:69) How Embodied Awareness and Sexuality Inspired Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent

(00:12:49) Practicing the Wheel of Consent: Solo and Partnered Approaches

(00:14:29) What Opens Up for Couples Who Understand Consent, Negotiation, and the Difference Between Touch and Sex

(00:27:53) How to Teach Children Consent When It Comes to Touch

(00:35:19) The Space Between Intention and Desire: Rethinking How We Give

(00:39:09) Power vs. Protection: Finding Balance in Parenting Without Control or Permissiveness

(00:46:53) What Becomes Possible When We Expand Our Permission Fields in Touch, Intimacy, and Boundaries

(00:51:37) Listening to Your Body Isn’t Selfish: The Power of Boundaries and Honoring Your Yes and No

(00:56:52) From Transaction to Connection: Understanding the Roots of Conditional Relationships and Cultivating Compassionate Equality

(00:59:07) Unlocking Life’s Potential: The Broad Impact of Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent

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023. Unlock the Hidden Codes Behind Your Everyday Experiences w/ Robert Edward Grant

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode, I’m speaking with author, entrepreneur, and polymath Sir Robert Edward Grant. We discuss how life unfolds through patterns, not coincidence, and how your early experiences shape the story your reality tells.

Our conversation was wide-ranging, including everything from the unlikely mathematics of coincidence, how to support your kids’ somatic awareness, and the surprising role of acceptance in manifestation.

You’ll walk away with fresh insight into how to break free from the disempowering patterns you can’t seem to shake, reconnect with your emotional intelligence, and begin to consciously shape your reality.

Whether you’re navigating man-woman dynamics, craving deeper authenticity and self-trust, or curious about the pitfalls you should avoid if you want to raise sovereign and attuned kids, Robert’s rare synthesis of science, math, and mysticism opens new doorways to inner and outer transformation.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:20) Life Runs on Patterns: From Conception to Birth

(00:02:51) Is Anything Truly Random? Finding the Extraordinary in the Ordinary

(00:07:28) Blinded by the System: How Society Disconnects Us from Life’s Patterns

(00:11:03) Seeing the Unseen: How Robert Edward Grant Discovered Life’s Patterns Through Art and Music

(00:14:05) When We Recognize Our Oneness, Everything Changes

(00:16:00) The Feminine Illusion: Why Sensitivity in Men Doesn’t Always Inspire Confidence

(00:18:02) The Balanced Man: Why Embracing Both Strength and Sensitivity Matters

(00:20:55) When Boys Aren’t Initiated: Helping Young Men Navigate Masculine and Feminine Balance

(00:23:57) Feel It to Heal It: How Childhood Body Awareness Leads to Balanced Adulthood

(00:27:30) Raising Free Thinkers: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Teach Kids to Do the Same

(00:29:04) The Cost of Silence: How Emotional Suppression Impacts Mental Health and Relationships

(00:31:37) Releasing the Invisible Barriers: How to Free Yourself from Unconscious Blocks to Manifest Your Desires

(00:34:08) The Power of Acceptance: Letting Go of Resistance to Manifest Your Desires

(00:37:23) Why Robert Grant Rejects Vision Boards and What Truly Works to Manifest Your Desires

(00:38:46) “Awakening is the process of realizing that what you thought was the pain of your life can turn into the purpose of your life.” Robert Edward Grant

(00:43:06) Breaking Free: How to Release Family and Societal Limitations to Embrace Your True Authenticity

(00:46:13) Self-Love in Action: What It Really Looks Like in Practice

(00:49:39) Shifting Your Inner Dialogue: How to Reframe Negative Narratives and Create a Meaningful Life

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022. Becoming the Parents We Wish We Had w/ Sterna Suissa

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0700

In today’s episode of Born To Know, trauma-informed coach and parenting expert Sterna Suissa shares how parents—often unknowingly—pass down patterns of self-betrayal, shame, and disconnection to their kids.

We explore how seemingly small interactions shape whether a child learns to trust themselves or outsource their sense of truth, how you might be unconsciously teaching your kids entitlement, self-sacrifice, and poor boundaries, and why emotional outbursts are invitations for growth for both children and parents.

Whether you're a new parent, you’re knee-deep in teen years, or looking for closure around how you were raised, this conversation will help you foster a more emotionally intelligent relationship with your kids.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:00:53) Rooted in Reality: Sterna Suissa’s Work Reflects Parents' True Experiences

(00:01:30) Modern Rites: Helping Youth Transition to Adulthood Without Family Structures

(00:04:48) Why Kids Need Many Voices: Building Identity Through Diverse Relationships

(00:08:59) Inherited Wounds: How Unresolved Parental Struggles Echo in the Lives of Their Children

(00:13:25) The Truth About the Talk: How Lying to Kids About Sex Erodes Trust

(00:18:00) When Respect Hurts: How Forced Affection Teaches Children to Betray Their Boundaries

(00:23:43) The Backlash of Control: How Undermining a Child’s Autonomy Leads to Disconnection Over Time

(00:30:50) Raising Secure Children: How Parent-Child Dynamics Carry Into Adulthood and What You Can Do Today

(00:37:00) The Foundation of Trust: Creating Safe Parent-Child Relationships and Guiding Children Toward Discernment

(00:44:34) The Strength in Struggle: Why Allowing Children to Face Adversity Builds Resilience

(00:48:28) Is Sharing Truly Caring? Teaching Children to Balance Generosity and Self-Care

(00:52:45) The Transactional Mindset: Why Some Adults See Relationships as Exchanges

(00:56:25) When a Child’s Outburst Becomes a Mirror: How Emotional Reactions Invite Parents to Examine Their Beliefs and Triggers

(01:05:23) Teaching Kids to Heal: The Importance of Rupture and Repair in Childhood

(01:10:30) Laying the Foundation: How to Guide Your Child in Creating a Healthy Inner Blueprint

(01:13:00) Sterna Suissa’s Guidance for Parents Seeking to Reconnect with Their Child

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021. Why the 50/50 Model Might be Ruining Your Marriage w/ Rabbi Manis Friedman

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0700

What happens when women stop needing men—but still want love?

In this episode of Born to Know, Eyla Cuenca speaks with Rabbi Manis Friedman about the unspoken truths about modern marriage and relationships. Rabbi Friedman, a renowned author, rabbi, and social philosopher, uncovers how the societal shift towards egalitarianism has distorted marriage, family structures, and how we raise children.

You'll learn why 50/50 marriages might be setting couples up for failure and how societal pressure to be “equal” in everything can actually destroy the unique dynamics that make a marriage thrive. Rabbi Friedman reveals the natural, complementary roles of men and women in marriage, and why honoring these roles can restore deeper connection, respect, and intimacy.

If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing in your relationship, or if you’re stuck in a cycle of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment in work, partnerships, or purpose, this episode is for you.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:03:13) Marriage Pillars: Self-Dignity, Patterns, and Family Blueprints

(00:05:36) How a Child's Blueprint is Shaped by Family and Relationships

(00:07:23) The Dance of Life: The Roles of Men and Women in Healthy Relationships

(00:12:42) Why 50/50 Relationships Lead to Unhappy Men and Women Struggling to Nurture

(00:14:46) The Role of Women at Home and Work: Why They’re Set Up to Fail

(00:16:05) Raising Boys to Become Mature, Thriving Men

(00:17:52) How Society's Failure to Initiate Boys into Manhood Fosters Weak Men, Gangs, and Paranoia

(00:20:37) Emotional and Psychological Differences Between Men and Women: What Each Needs to Feel Whole and Secure

(00:25:09) How Mothering and Controlling Your Partner Emasculates Him and Destroys Romance

(00:27:18) The Issues with Modern Feminism and How It Creates Hard Women

(00:31:12) The True Meaning of Marriage: Why 50/50 Relationships Don’t Work

(00:33:41) Why Self-Love is Narcissism and How to Teach Kids the World Doesn't Revolve Around Them

(00:35:38) How Modern Isolation Fuels Narcissism and Self-Centered Behaviors

(00:37:58) The True Purpose of Marriage vs. the Purpose of Life

(00:43:52) How to Curb Self-Indulgence in Children Without Damaging Their Confidence

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020. Enjoy Motherhood, Receive Support & Break Free from Outdated Scripts w/ Pamela Silva

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0700

Pamela Silva—award-winning journalist, Univision host, and co-host of the Motherish podcast—joins Eyla Cuenca for a powerful conversation on birth, motherhood, and raising emotionally balanced kids.

Pamela shares her experience of being pregnant in 2020, the impact of generational patterns on mothering, and the emotional weight of expecting one kind of birth but being met with another. From emergency C-sections to redefining what it means to surrender, Pamela opens up about the unseen forces that shape the birth experience.

We also discuss conscious parenting, the art of reparenting ourselves, and how to practice discernment in the age of information overload. Plus, how to raise children who don’t perform for love, why modern motherhood feels so isolating, and how to reclaim community in a fractured world.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:23) Pamela Silva's Pregnancy Journey: Navigating the Challenges of the Covid-19 Pandemic

(00:04:23) The Impact of Covid-19 on In-Person Relationships and Interpersonal Connections

(00:05:59) Birthing: Overcoming Fears, Releasing Expectations, and Embracing the Reality of Emergency C-Sections

(00:09:00) The Impact of External Stressors on the Birthing Process and Dilation

(00:10:56) Each Baby's Birth: A Path Crafted for Their Unique Life Journey

(00:12:41) Eyla Cuenca's Theory: "How You Birth is How You Live" and the Transformative Power of Surrender

(00:14:53) How Transitioning into Motherhood Transforms Our Relationship with Our Mothers

(00:18:46) Reparenting Yourself: The Key to Becoming a Better Parent

(00:23:13) Conscious Parenting: How Granting Autonomy Fosters a Stronger Child

(00:26:43) The Power of Unconditional Love in the Parent-Child Dynamic: Moving Beyond Love as a Reward to Be Earned

(00:29:07) The Role of a Grounded Parent in Teaching Children Emotional Self-Regulation

(00:33:05) Alpha Women: The Power of Femininity and the Importance of Embracing Softness

(00:37:41) Balancing Giving and Receiving in Man-Woman Relationships

(00:39:26) Understanding Family Through an Anthropological Lens: The Importance of Female Friendships

(00:42:36) Pamela Silva’s Expert Advice on Becoming Discernible Consumers in an Age of Information Overload

(00:47:43) Navigating Modern Life and Motherhood with Mindfulness and Faith

(00:51:57) The Importance of Face-to-Face Connections in the Age of AI

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019. Decentralized Parenting: Raising Free Children in a Lost Culture with Dr. Tom Cowan

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 01 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0700

What if the very systems you’ve been told will set your child up for success are actually programming them for lifelong victimhood & dependence?

In this episode, I’m talking with Dr. Tom Cowan about the deeper forces shaping parental decision-making. We dive into unschooling, natural parenting, and the socially conditioned beliefs that make parenting much harder than it needs to be. We also discuss Tom’s new book, Common Sense Child Rearing: Unconventional Wisdom for a Nourished Childhood, and why curiosity is your best ally as a parent.

Tune in to learn how to decondition yourself from fear-based parenting, why forced learning backfires, and how you understand your child’s behavior while truly connecting with them.

Chapters:

(00:00) Start

(03:45) Introduction to Dr. Tom Cowan’s work

(04:01) Reframing the societal belief that parenting must be difficult

(15:32) Why overcoming personal difficulties is essential for children to grow into strong individuals

(20:43) Tom Cowan explains why helicopter parenting is a recipe for raising weak children

(28:47) Children learn through osmosis and copying their parents' behavior

(32:28) Debunking the myth that children don’t remember their birth

(35:12) Why you can’t dictate the “right way” for your children to live

(38:28) How to understand your child’s behavior and truly connect with them

(45:24) Tom Cowan's approach to healing the parent-child divide

(49:49) The impact of medical interventions during pregnancy and birth on the nuclear family

(56:10) How early schooling can undermine a child’s sense of individuality

(01:02:28) Why forced learning fails to produce lasting results

(01:08:38) Curiosity is the best teacher

(01:14:14) Understanding why your child is rebelling at school

Check out Tom Cowan’s new book: Commonsense Childrearing: Unconventional Wisdom for a Nourished Childhood

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018. What’s Really Behind the Health Crisis with Dr. Jack Kruse

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0700

Let’s examine the invisible forces shaping our health, energy, and fertility, shall we?

Today, I’m joined by neurosurgeon, inventor, and optimal health educator, Dr. Jack Kruse for an exposė on what’s really at the root of our modern health crisis.

We extend the conversation beyond the usual suspects, like diet or forever chemicals, and into the impacts of non-native EMFs (AKA WiFi exposure) on our energy, fertility, and overall health.

Inside this episode:

✨ What centralized medicine is getting wrong about fertility, autism, cancer, and other conditions

⚡ Sunlight sculps everything on the earth: here’s why you’re probably not getting enough

⚡A quantum perspective on surrogacy

⚡ How city life affects fertility

⚡The medicalization of motherhood & what it’s costing us

⚡ Practical ways to step out of the system and align your biology with nature

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction

00:02:16 The Accident that Sparked Dr. Kruse's Passion for Medicine

00:02:49 Why the Medical Paradigm is Fundamentally Flawed

00:05:39 Environment vs. Genetics: The Role They Play in Autism, Heart Disease and Autoimmune Disorders

00:24:56 Common Mistakes People Make During Pregnancy, Conception, and Birth

00:28:03 The Potential Dangers of Ultrasound on a Developing Fetus

00:37:59 Are Doctors Driven by a Hidden Agenda or Simply Misinformed?

00:49:42 The Steps to Assessing Whether You’re Ready to Have a Child

00:51:19 How to Cultivate Self-Sovereignty as a Parent

01:01:09 Is Surrogacy a Form of Child Trafficking?

01:04:35 Trauma and Attachment Theory: The Impact on the Fetus and the Gestating Surrogate Mother

01:07:24 The Cornerstone of a Healthy and Fulfilling Life

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017. The Living Language of Water: The Links Between Water, Memory & Birth w/ Veda Austin

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0700

Water is more than just H₂O—it holds memory, responds to intention, and may be deeply intertwined with consciousness itself.

In this illuminating conversation, Eyla Cuenca sits down with Veda Austin, a leading author, speaker, and researcher in water crystallography, to explore water’s role as a living intelligence and its profound connection to birth, healing, and human consciousness.

Veda’s work captures water’s ability to structure itself in response to energy, music, and even human thought. It begs the question: Could your relationship with water be affecting your health and emotions more than you realize?

And taking that one step further, if water holds memory, then so does amniotic fluid. We dive into how water within the body reflects life’s deepest processes—including fertility, birth, pregnancy and even how water communicates ancestral memory.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:45) How a tragic accident led Veda Austin to discover water’s hidden intelligence

(00:16:17) The historical and sacred role of water

(00:22:38) Gratitude as a path to healing both contaminated water and ourselves

(00:30:38) How body fluids can offer insight into our body's inner workings

(00:34:30) The effects of a vasectomy's restriction of bodily fluids on the overall system

(00:35:58) Memory and its transmission from mother to child through amniotic fluid

(00:56:59) Why the medical system's approach to pregnancy and childbirth is wrong

(01:01:28) How water’s fluid intelligence forms a deep connection between mother and child

(01:12:28) Why some young children retain memories of past lives

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016. Unlock Radiance: What You Must Unlearn about Self-Care w/ Gigi Vogel

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0700

What if the secret to vibrancy wasn’t in what you do, but in how you receive?

In this episode, Gigi Vogel shares what radical self-care looks like: bringing light to shadows, fine-tuning your inner vibration, and choosing transformation moment-by-moment. You’ll discover what it takes to create enough safety in your system to flow down, receive, and give from an overflowing well.

As the founder of De La Heart, Gigi is a powerful channeler of the art of intentional self-care. Gigi started her career in the rough-and-tumble world of fashion, finance, and international business. After years of this fast-paced and high-stress lifestyle took its toll, Gigi started looking for natural and accessible ways to restore balance to her everyday life.

After years of refining her unique approach to wellness, Gigi realized her calling: to share ancestral wellness rituals and help everyone discover the transformative power of self-care.

Our conversation explores the daily choices that cultivate radiance, how to create discipline and boundaries that create space for expansion and amplification, and reclaiming your voice, instincts, and preferences when choosing homebirth.

Chapters:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:00) Gigi Vogel’s method for creating an accessible lifestyle in daily life

(07:17) Steps to embark on inner work and unlock your true beauty

(09:19) Overcoming daily triggers for a more balanced and fulfilling life

(13:21) Why self-care is more than just a routine

(21:00) Making change stick: Why ultimatums don’t work and what does

(23:00) Unlocking new paths by staying curious and trusting your instincts

(29:13) Becoming a mother: How it transforms your focus and nurtures a new you

(31:25) Trusting your child's journey and embracing your natural mothering instincts

(35:33) Breaking free from social media dopamine addiction to carve out more space for self-care

(39:13) Steps to kickstart your wellness journey, feel more vibrant, and unlock your full potential

(44:41) Exercise can be pleasurable and natural—without the pain

(47:23) Unlock the flow state, embrace tranquility and gratitude, and surrender control

(54:04) Letting go of shame and guilt to fully accept and embrace who you are

(58:24) Finding safety in conception and birth by embracing honesty and listening to your inner voice

(59:35) Approaching life with inspired action and surrender

(1:00:34) Living a life of non-judgment while holding space for change and growth

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015. Rethinking Cancer, Birth & Chronic Illness with Dr. Melissa Sell

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 04 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0800

Many of us are taught we need to live with disease and simply pop a pill to manage symptoms—but what if there’s another way? In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Melissa Sell dives deep into the world of German New Medicine (GNM) and explains how it shifts the paradigm of health from the external to the internal world. We explore the profound impact that emotional and traumatic conflicts have on the body — ultimately leading to physical symptoms, chronic disease, and supposedly incurable illnesses like cancer.

Dr. Sell, a leading pioneer in the field of GNM, reflects on her own evolution from holistic health expert to GNM practitioner. We discuss how holistic health measures like clean eating and detoxifying the home often overlook the underlying cause of an issue — which lies beneath the surface in the subconscious, or even preconscious, mind. Dr. Sell sheds light on how our bodies adapt to conflict and how those adaptations manifest in pregnancy, birth, and childhood. You’ll discover that the root cause of illness goes much deeper than you may expect.

Chapters:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:03) Understanding The Deeper Roots Of Illness

(02:23) Dr. Sell’s Journey To German New Medicine

(10:33) Viewing The External World As The Enemy

(14:03) Holistic Measures Aren’t The Ultimate Solution: Learning A Different Way

(18:33) Where Faith Meets Medicine: The Power Of Listening & Surrendering

(21:23) Cancer Is Not A Punishment: Making An Allegiance With Cancer

(31:13) Generational Adaptations: Passing Down Programs From Parents To Children

(44:38) Self-Betrayal In Birth: Symptoms Stemming From Pregnancy & Birth

(53:58) Violent Acts Against Babies Disguised As Treatments

(1:00:24) What Is “Preeclampsia”?

(1:06:03) The Initiation Into Motherhood

(1:12:59) Considering Artificial Conception & Surrogacy

(1:19:18) The Power of Acknowledging Past Trauma

(1:23:18) Initiating Your Journey Into German New Medicine

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014. Controlled Hardship: The Key to Raising Strong Men & Capable Leaders w/ Ali Awad

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 03:01:00 -0800

Many of us are raised to avoid hardship—but what if leaning into it is the key to success? In this powerful conversation, Ali Jamal Awad explains how controlled adversity, disciplined parenting, and financial intelligence create stronger men, better leaders, and more resilient families.

Ali reflects on his childhood, growing up as one of six siblings in a family where competition, responsibility, and faith played a central role in personal development. He shares why today’s youth are struggling with motivation, why the father figure is more important than ever, and how modern parenting is failing boys by removing necessary rites of passage.

More About This Episode:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:39) The Importance of Controlled Hardship

(03:15) The Decline of Masculine Leadership in Modern Society

(08:06) The Role of Fathers in Shaping Strong, Independent Children

(15:27) Why Boys Need Male Role Models & Rites of Passage

(24:16) How Delayed Gratification Builds Resilience & Financial Freedom

(32:23) The Truth About Generational Wealth & Financial Sovereignty

(39:19) Breaking Free from Money Trauma & Shifting Into Abundance

(47:26) How the Legal System Exploits Families & What We Can Do

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013. Healing the Father Wound, Understanding Narcissism & Finding True Inner Peace w/ Ehsun Anwar

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0800

Why do so many of us repeat the same patterns in relationships, career, and personal growth—feeling stuck, unfulfilled, or triggered? In today’s episode, Ehsun Anwar shares his incredible journey of transformation, beginning with deep suffering and evolving into profound self-awareness. Through his own healing, Ehsun has guided thousands of individuals and couples to recognize and disrupt the subconscious patterns keeping them trapped in unhappiness.

We dive deep into the father wound, exploring how early experiences of criticism, neglect, or emotional absence leave lasting imprints on our identity, behavior, and relationships. Ehsun also challenges modern perspectives on narcissism, shedding light on how it’s both misunderstood and deeply rooted in survival mechanisms passed down through generations.

More About This Episode:

(00:00:00) Introduction & The Problem with Modern Perspectives on Narcissism

(00:10:15) Breaking Free from Emotional Patterns & Trauma Responses

(00:18:30) How Narcissism Can Be Misunderstood: From Survival to Healing

(00:26:12) The Role of Breathwork & Body Mapping in Emotional Healing

(00:34:18) Victim Consciousness: Why It Feels Safe & How to Let It Go

(00:43:07) The Importance of Boundaries in Healing Relationships

(00:50:32) Cultivating Inner Peace & Releasing the Pain of the Past

(00:58:54) Macro vs. Micro Perspectives on Narcissism & Planetary Healing

(01:00:52) Final Thoughts & Where to Find Ehsun

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012. Neuroception, Emotional Addiction & The Hidden Pleasure of Victimhood w/ Dr. Kelly Brogan

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0800

What if the obstacles in your life were actually self-created loops of perception? In today’s episode, Dr. Kelly Brogan takes us on a profound journey of self-inquiry, examining the ways we unconsciously create and sustain victimhood in our lives, relationships, and even parenting.

We explore the psychological and physiological patterns that reinforce victim consciousness and how the body craves certain familiar emotional states—even when they don’t serve us. Kelly shares a powerful dream that illuminated her personal victim patterns, demonstrating how we often seek validation for our pain rather than true resolution.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction & Dr. Kelly Brogan’s Work

(00:02:34) The Uber Dream: How We Unconsciously Create Victimhood

(00:05:19) The Hidden Pleasure of Feeling Wronged—Why We Cling to Victim Narratives

(00:07:34) Emotional Addiction & The Sensory Dimension of Conflict

(00:12:32) The Role of Neuroception: How Our Bodies Interpret Safety & Threat

(00:16:28) Self-Gaslighting: The Internal Betrayal Keeping Us Stuck

(00:18:52) Reclaiming Perception: The Power of Seeing What’s Always Been There

(00:25:17) Saying No Without Justifying It—How to Honor Inner Truth

(00:32:05) The Paradox of Conscious Parenting—When Holistic Becomes Controlling

(00:37:19) Motherhood, Martyrdom & Devotion—Redefining What It Means to Show Up

(00:47:09) Breaking Free From Control—Letting Children Have Their Own Journey

(00:55:23) Letting Go of Rigid Identities—How Sobriety Exposed Hidden Resentment

(00:59:58) The Final Takeaway: Reclaiming Power by Rewriting Our Own Narratives

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011. The Mind-Blowing Science of Flower Essences with Katie Hess

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Mon, 20 Jan 2025 15:44:00 -0800

Bring ease to your conception, pregnancy, & birth journey with Eyla’s carefully chosen & personally tested Lotus Wei products and exclusive bundles.

Katie Hess is a flower essence expert and founder of Lotus Wei.

In this episode, you're going to learn how flower essences can address emotional and physical imbalances, why the mother’s healing journey can transform her entire family, how subtle fears influence everyday decisions and ways to unravel them, how plants connect with humans through unseen energy exchanges, and practical steps to identify the flowers or plants that can best support your well-being.

Katie Hess is an expert in flower alchemy - using the healing power of flowers to awaken our true potential. She travels in search of rare flowers with the healing qualities most needed today, from the forests of British Columbia to sacred sites in India, rainforests in Costa Rica, hot springs in Iceland and the jungles of Taiwan. Katie captures the activating life-force potential of flowers and translates it into an accessible method to bring more happiness into our daily lives.

One of the most sustainable forms of natural medicine, flower remedies are known for their short-term benefits like clarity, focus and sleep, with long-term benefits of rapid personal growth.

Having gathered empirical research from thousands of private clients, Katie created a flower essence library with over 150 elixirs now used by people in more than 50 countries.

Rough Timestamps:

[03:21] How Katie discovered flower essences

[06:15] The world’s openness to natural healing now

[09:13] Benefits of radiant energy flower essence

[10:16] Physical, emotional, and spiritual impacts of plants

[12:17] Preventing ailments with regular flower essence use

[13:43] Katie’s personal back pain story

[15:07] How flower essences stabilize and energize

[16:15] Mothers’ healing transforming family dynamics

[20:22] How flowers interact with human energy

[23:20] The role of crystals in amplifying plant energy

[26:18] Tips for connecting with the plant world

[29:14] How flowers appear where they’re most needed

[32:37] Katie’s thoughts on the secret life of plants

[34:02] Cleve Baxter’s plant experiments

[36:51] Building relationships with plants in urban spaces

[40:05] Understanding aversion to certain flowers

[42:16] Flower essences for transition and grief

[45:19] Addressing PTSD and stored trauma

[48:25] Working with subtle fears through flower essences

[51:28] Recognizing and unbraiding emotional roots

[54:20] Shaping life paths by releasing stuck fears

Find more Lotus Wei on their Instagram, Facebook and YouTube.

Resources Mentioned:

The Secret Life of Plants by Peter Tompkins and Christopher Bird | Book or Audiobook

Lotus Wei Fertility Bundle | Website

Lotus Wei Pregnancy Bundle | Website

Lotus Wei Miscarriage Bundle | Website

Lotus Wei Birth Bundle | Website

Lotus Wei Postpartum Bundle | Website

Lotus Wei Healer + Birthworker Bundle | Website

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010. How to Build Containment and Trust with Om Rupani

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 07 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0800

Step into the art of Containment with our beloved mini course, Containment: Finding & Creating Safety and use code: BTK10 to get 10% off.

In this episode, you're going to learn what containment means and why it’s essential in personal and relational dynamics, how men and women can create healthier interactions through understanding boundaries, how agency and consent transform challenging dynamics into healing opportunities, why men struggle to step into their dominance, and practical advice for improving relational dynamics, whether in parenting, partnerships, or professional settings.

Om Rupani is an expert and teacher in the field of man-woman relating as well as the founder of Om Rupani's School for Dominance & Submission and leader of BDSM trainings, workshops and communities.

Timestamps:

[03:16] What is containment?

[06:48] The importance of containment for children

[10:16] How boys learn containment from older men

[12:01] Why men benefit from role models

[14:30] The concept of coolness in masculinity

[16:34] How lack of boundaries affects relationships

[18:22] Why containment improves relationships

[22:32] Why consistent containment is necessary

[24:15] How gratitude affects relationships

[26:51] The difference between consensual and non-consensual dynamics

[30:10] Why BDSM is about mutual self-interest

[33:13] How to avoid using BDSM as therapy

[37:02] The role of consent in BDSM

[38:47] Why agency creates healing in BDSM

[40:20] Why trust matters in BDSM scenes

[43:09] Why good doms must manage their energy

[45:39] Why reciprocity is essential in relationships

[47:00] How men can learn to provide containment

[50:32] Why some men resist stepping into dominance

[53:36] The cultural challenges men face in embracing dominance

[55:28] Why the “nice guy” energy is problematic

[58:02] How communication prevents breakdowns in BDSM

[60:18] How non-consensual actions affect birth experiences

Want to hear more conversations like this one? Om Rupani's School for Dominance & Submission is a private online community of like-minded people.

To learn more from Om Rupani, visit his YouTube Channel or Online Workshops.

Resources Mentioned:

Prerequisites to Ecstasy by Om Rupani | Book

Om Rupani Podcast | Spotify or Apple

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009. "The Girl Boss Energy Isn’t Sustainable" - Dawn and Elyssa

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 31 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0800

Dawn and Elyssa are Co-creatrixes of All Connected Agency, where we provide High potency marketing for high vibe sales, branding and websites for disruptive thought leaders and visionary wellness brands.

In this episode, you're going to learn how Dawn and Elyssa turned career setbacks into opportunities to create a thriving agency, the importance of building a business that aligns with your energy and values, why simplifying your marketing can lead to better results, how to stop comparing yourself to others in your industry, and why nervous system alignment is key to sustainable business growth.

Hi I'm Dawn!

I’m a conversion copy chief, growth consultant, and funnel strategist with years of experience writing for iconic brands and humans – including Chanti Zak, Copyhackers, and Interact Quiz Builder. I’m passionate about nervous system recalibration, nerding out on analytics, and mentoring the next generation of copywriters as they master their skills.

I spend my free time practicing yoga, climbing rocks, reading fantasy novels, and dreaming about regenerative farming. 5-year plan?! Yep! I’ve got one of those! And it includes buying a sprinter van, outfitting it into a tiny home, and driving to San Cristobal.

Hi I'm Elyssa!

Pronounced "uh-leesa". I'm a conversion copywriter, brand voice & research expert, film aficionado, and earthy word nerd. With a masters in screenwriting from UCLA, a BA from Harvard, and nearly 10 years as an energy healer— I'm a bit of a mystic, a scholar, and a creative type all rolled into one. Which means I bring strategy, artistry, & intuition to bear when I create conversion-optimized copy, launches, funnels, + sites for incredible entrepreneurs like you.

I've written launches for best-selling authors, Hay House Writers, influencers & cutting-edge ecommerce wellness brands, content for an award-winning supplement company, ad copy for just about every industry under the sun, emails for self publishing imprints, and countless quizzes alongside Chanti Zak + Dawn Petrin.

I'm into meditation, movies, kindness, and tea 🍵

Together Dawn and Elyssa are also the cohosts of the Softpreneur podcast, yogi-fairy farmers in the making, growth marketers, branding and website experts, launch strategists, noses stuck in fantasy romance novels (and sometimes stuck up in the air with film snobbery, low-key tho, rom-coms and b-movies have our hearts toooo).

Timestamps:

[04:13] The origin of All Connected Agency

[06:19] Why spirit-first marketing matters

[08:31] Challenges of early entrepreneurship

[10:56] Balancing quality with online growth

[12:46] Falling back in love with your business

[14:45] Moving beyond the girl boss mindset

[17:19] Shifting goals to align with personal values

[19:43] Simplifying marketing strategies

[22:29] The role of comparison in business

[24:30] Why knowing your field is important

[26:46] Expanding through creative inspiration

[28:58] Leaning into authentic marketing

[31:14] Steps to move from consumerism to creation

[33:21] The value of business accountability

[36:23] Creating with heart versus strategy

[39:43] Navigating ups and downs in business

[41:04] Titration for sustainable growth

Find and follow @allconnected.agency, @dawn_petrin and @elyssajakim on Instagram!

Resources Mentioned:

Softpreneur Podcast | Spotify or Apple

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008. Why So Many Relationships Fail with Bishop RC Blakes, Jr.

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 24 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0800

Are you looking to uplevel, heal, step into your calling and serve your community with purpose and joy? Join us for the transformative Uncovering Birth Doula Training.

RC Blakes Jr. is a pastor, author, and teacher who focuses on empowering individuals through spiritual and personal growth.

In this episode, you're going to learn how to create personal initiation rituals to transition into adulthood, the importance of reparenting yourself to fill the gaps from childhood, how to align relationships with personal growth and purpose, why selflessness is a cornerstone for strong partnerships, and what it means to cultivate a "queen consciousness" or "king consciousness" mindset for individual and relational success.

RC Blakes, Jr. is the husband of Lisa Blakes and father of four beautiful children and three grandsons. He and his brother work together to oversee the New Home Family of Churches, a ministry encompassing six locations from Louisiana to Texas. He has been in ministry for forty two years and has been pastoring for 36 years. He serves as the Senior Pastor of the New Home Family Worship Center in New Orleans, Louisiana and Houston, Texas. RC has a Master of Theology from the Christian Bible College of Louisiana and is an internationally sought after teacher of the word of God.

His literary works include: The Father Daughter Talk, Queenology, Kingology, Imperfectly Holy, Me, My Mind, Wisdom for Women In Ministry, Soul Ties, and his newest release Training For Reigning. He and his wife, Lisa are also Authors of the book, "God's Playbook For A Winning Family" which has brought restoration to many families.

RC’s transparency and integrity have drawn thousands to his life application and empowering messages. People have gained a workable knowledge of the Word of God, as he expounds on the scripture and sheds light in dark areas. The ministry of RC Blakes is characterized as Empowering, Positive, Practical and Prophetic.

Along with the many hats RC wears, his greatest love is to serve mankind. His heart for the underserved, underprivileged and mistreated in this society has been demonstrated in his many community outreaches on a national level. RC believes the greatest office that anyone can hold is that of a servant. One of his greatest passions is working with his wife Lisa in the healing and empowerment of women across the globe.

Timestamps:

[05:05] RC Blakes shares his personal story of redemption

[07:39] Overcoming shame and rebuilding self-worth

[10:12] Importance of combining therapy and spirituality

[12:49] Letting go of relationships that hold you back

[15:07] Understanding the concept of queen consciousness

[18:49] Why individuality is essential before relationships

[21:21] Social media’s impact on personal identity

[23:16] How to create personal initiation rituals

[26:02] Reparenting yourself to fill childhood gaps

[27:33] Finding mentors and accountability

[30:24] Navigating relationships with misaligned partners

[35:00] Recognizing emotional unavailability

[39:02] Avoiding toxic cycles in relationships

[43:13] Family dynamics and preserving generational values

[46:51] Conscious planning before starting a family

[50:46] Building selflessness in relationships

[53:08] Defining roles for sustainable partnerships

[54:43] Aligning with values in relationships

If you want to learn more from RC Blakes, Jr, click here for lifetime access to his online programs.

To connect with RC Blakes, Jr, you can find him on Facebook, Instagram, Threads and YouTube.

Books by RC Blakes, Jr.

Queenology | Book or Audiobook

Kingology | Book or Audiobook

The Father-Daughter Talk | Book or Audiobook

Me My Mine | Book or Audiobook

Soul-Ties | Book

Imperfectly Holy | Book

Wisdom For Women In Ministry | Book

Training For Reigning | Book

God’s Playbook For A Winning Family with co-author Lisa Blakes | Book

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007. Reclaiming Our Forgotten Instinctual Movements with Bam Lionheart

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0800

Explore the power of Primal Movement and learn how it impacts birth and pregnancy in Eyla and Bam’s online course.

Bam Lionheart is a movement expert and founder of Primal Movement.

In this episode, you're going to learn how movement can alleviate chronic pain and stiffness, the importance of natural resting positions like squatting, how childhood habits influence adult movement and posture, practical tips to improve your work and rest environments for better alignment, and why movement is essential for overall health and vitality.

Bam is a movement enthusiast, coach, and founder of Primal Movement. His teaching focuses on mastering human movement and the fundamental movements that all humans naturally do. He has been coaching for 10 years extracting his knowledge from world experience as a mixed martial artist, 911 EMT first responder, endurance running and swimming, weightlifting, surfing, dancing and more. Through his teaching, many clients experience massive pain reduction, a deeper connection with their bodies, and a refinement of their kinesthetic awareness. He believes everyone can heal and live a pain-free life by disrupting the status quo of how they move and relearning our human instinctual, natural movement patterns.

Timestamps:

[03:00] Why chronic pain is not a natural part of aging

[05:57] Similar patterns in different movement practices

[07:15] Why children are instinctual movers

[08:18] How modern conditioning limits natural movement

[09:28] Why sedentary lifestyles harm the body

[10:49] Movement as a fundamental part of human life

[12:46] The importance of kinesthetic intelligence

[14:27] How disconnection from the body leads to chronic pain

[16:23] How childhood conditioning disrupts body awareness

[17:53] Breakthroughs from reconnecting with natural movement

[19:16] Common issues like back pain and knee pain explained

[20:56] Why body alignment impacts chronic tension

[22:32] The body’s signals and why we often ignore them

[24:00] Misuse of the body and preventable chronic injuries

[25:05] Benefits of natural movement in daily life

[26:32] Active resting and its importance for alignment

[27:26] Why squatting is a natural resting position

[28:55] Resistance to natural movement patterns

[30:28] Squatting as the healthiest position for bowel movements

[32:13] Reclaiming natural positions despite discomfort

[33:19] How dietary shifts compare to movement changes

[34:45] Why discomfort can signal progress in movement

[36:13] How childhood shame impacts physical expression

[37:43] Viewing diagnoses as invitations to change

[39:30] The body’s ability to adapt and heal over time

[41:08] Questioning diagnoses and reclaiming mobility

[42:56] How movement can help arthritis and chronic pain

[44:06] It’s never too late to reclaim movement

[45:18] Why surgery should be a last option

[46:18] Exhausting holistic options before considering surgery

[48:15] The risks of using surgery for chronic pain

[49:30] The body’s natural ability to heal itself

[50:38] Passing down beliefs about movement to children

[52:05] How primal movement impacts emotional health

[53:09] Small changes in daily movement that make a difference

[54:50] Why daily movement matters more than gym routines

[55:15] Improving work environments for better posture

[56:47] Resting positions that support alignment and strength

[58:19] How small adjustments up level fitness results

Book a FREE 1:1 Assessment with BAM or take his FREE Introductory Course on Primal Movement.

If this work is something that interests you, get certified as a Primal Movement Coach.

Connect with BAM on Instagram.

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Want to learn about Family Constellations? Try our Systemic Facilitator and Family Constellations Training Program. By listening to this podcast, listeners get 10% off using code: EYLA10

006. Solving Generational Trauma using Family Constellations with Amerly Centeno

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0800

Amerly Centeno is a family constellations master with expertise in neuro-linguistic programming, transactional analysis, and psychotherapy.

In this episode, you're going to learn what family constellations are and how they differ from traditional talk therapy, why unresolved family patterns can influence your life and how to recognize them. You’ll also learn the role of saying "yes" to life as it is and its impact on personal growth, how rejecting or embracing your parents affects areas like money and relationships, and the importance of integrating both parental energies to unlock success and fulfillment.

The founder of Quanta Systemic Academy. Amerly Centeno is a Mother of 2, Athlete (triathlon), lover of the ocean, facilitator and master practitioner of Family Constellations and systemic therapy for over 20 years. Amerly brings intuition and compassion into a sacred space for upliftment, growth, and healing and she now trains facilitators in Family Constellations.

In Amerly's words:

On my journey, I've cultivated a blend of formal education, career experiences, and valuable tools that have shaped me into a compassionate and empathetic individual. I deeply value empathy, respect and non-judgment in supporting others.

To enhance my ability to serve you effectively, I've pursued education in various fields. I hold a degree in Social Science with a Major in training and development, along with an MBA focused on management and leadership and a Masters in Psychology.

My passion lies in helping individuals like you discover their full potential, embrace their destiny, and surrender to the essential next step. I firmly believe in the power of personal growth and transformation, as we came to this life experience gifted with all the resources we need to overcome challenges.

Timestamps:

[03:00] What are family constellations?

[04:13] How DNA stores family patterns

[05:47] Repeating unresolved family dynamics

[07:59] Philosophy behind family constellations

[10:17] How family constellations differs from talk therapy

[12:35] Restoring love and hierarchy in family systems

[14:50] The impact of rejecting life struggles

[16:20] Ethical considerations in fertility treatments

[18:47] Resolving family suffering through acknowledgment

[20:41] Saying “yes” to life as it is

[22:18] Judging parents and its consequences

[24:46] Turning childhood wounds into strengths

[27:29] Breaking repeating patterns in family systems

[30:06] Observing family relationships with clarity

[32:39] Recognizing the role of biological parents

[34:04] Importance of acknowledging both parents equally

[35:45] Effects of bad-mouthing the other parent

[37:26] Seeing relationships through your own eyes

[39:10] How entanglements affect sibling dynamics

[41:03] The connection between words and DNA

[43:14] Energy shifts through body awareness

[45:23] Physical sensations during emotional release

[47:02] Respecting individual timelines in healing

[49:13] Manifestations of rejecting parents

[50:19] Success and the mother’s influence

[51:06] Role of the father in life’s structure

[52:01] Integrating parents for personal growth

Follow Quanta Systemic Academy on Instagram and visit their website.

Resources Mentioned:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk | Book or Audiobook

HearthMath Institute | Website

Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.

Want to learn about Family Constellations? Try our Systemic Facilitator and Family Constellations Training Program. By listening to this podcast, listeners get 10% off using code: EYLA10

005. Why Hospital Birth Is Riskier Than Ever: Avoiding Unproven Interventions with Dr. Stuart Fischbein

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0800

Dive deeper into preparing for birth, navigating the system and becoming fully prepared for an empowered postpartum & parenting journey. Your peaceful pregnancy begins here.

Dr. Stuart J. Fischbein is a community-based obstetrician with decades of experience attending births. His current focus is on teaching breech and twin birth skills.

In this episode, you're going to learn about the six high-risk interventions commonly used on pregnant women that have never been tested or proven to be safe, why modern hospital birth models have worse outcomes than those of 50 years ago, the cascade of medical interventions that leads to unnecessary C-sections, why many birth complications are caused by the hospital environment itself and how women can make more empowered choices to avoid unnecessary medical interventions during childbirth.

Stuart J. Fischbein, MD, is a community-based obstetrician and an Associate of the American College of Obstetrics & Gynecology, published author of the book “Fearless Pregnancy, Wisdom & Reassurance from a Doctor, A Midwife and A Mom” and peer-reviewed papers: Homebirth with an Obstetrician, A Series of 135 Out of Hospital Births and Breech birth at home: outcomes of 60 breech and 109 cephalic planned home and birth center births.

After completing his residency at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles, Dr. Stu spent 24 years assisting women with hospital birthing and for the last 13 years has been a home birth obstetrician who works directly with midwives.

Since retiring from attending home births in 2022, Dr. Stu has turned his focus to travelling around the world as a lecturer and advocate for reteaching breech & twin birth skills, respect for the normalcy of birth and honouring informed consent.

He hosts a weekly podcast with co-host Blyss Young and together they offer hope, reassurance and safe, honest evidence-supported choices for those women who understand pregnancy is a normal bodily function not to be feared.

Timestamps:

[03:29] Dr. Stu’s experience with hospital and home births

[08:25] Common medical interventions and their risks

[13:19] Differences between home birth and hospital birth environments

[17:07] How interventions lead to unnecessary C-sections

[22:24] Importance of partner support during labour

[31:28] Vaccine safety concerns during pregnancy

[38:40] Breech birth misconceptions and why they are labelled high-risk

[47:14] How doctors' fear affects birthing choices and outcomes

Confused about medical information or hearing advice that just doesn’t sit well with your intuition? Work with Dr. Stu!

You can also follow Dr. Stu on Instagram.

Resources Mentioned:

Reteach Breech Training with Dr. Stu | Website

Home Birth Peer Reviewed Study by Dr. Stu | Article

Birthing Instincts Podcast | Website or Spotify or Apple

Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.

004. Are Your Fertility Problems Caused By A Lack Of Protein? With Lily Nichols

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 05 Nov 2024 07:00:00 -0800

Every woman deserves to start or grow her family on her own organic timeline. If you’re ready to take your fertility into your own hands, take my masterclass on Getting Pregnant After 35.

In this episode, Eyla interviews Lily Nichols, a renowned dietitian and certified diabetes educator with deep expertise in prenatal and fertility nutrition. It’s a fact that what you eat impacts your fertility, so what does that mean for you? Is a plant-based diet the best? What is the role of protein? What are the common misconceptions about eating for fertility that you need to be aware of? Tune in to learn the answers to these questions and understand the incredibly powerful connection between what you eat and your reproductive well-being.

Lily Nichols is a Registered Dietitian/Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator, researcher, and author with a passion for evidence-based nutrition. Her work is known for being research-focused, thorough, and sensible. She is the founder of the Institute for Prenatal NutritionⓇ, co-founder of the Women’s Health Nutrition Academy, and the author of three books: Real Food for Fertility (co-authored with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack), Real Food for Pregnancy, and Real Food for Gestational Diabetes. Lily’s bestselling books have helped tens of thousands of mamas (and babies!), are used in university-level maternal nutrition and midwifery courses, and have even influenced prenatal nutrition policy internationally. She writes on her website.

Timestamps:

5:30 How protein stabilizes energy levels and improves performance.

9:01 Are you underestimating your protein needs?

12:37 The importance of animal fats in fertility and overall health.

20:14 Debunking the myth that low fat is best.

29:40 Why nutrition during preconception is critical for fertility.

47:03 How poor nutrition impacts the success of IVF.

50:13 Improving sperm quality by avoiding processed oils and sugars.

If you’re a health practitioner ready to up-level your knowledge of prenatal nutrition, visit the Institute for Prenatal Nutrition website and check out their mentorship program.

Connect with Lily on Facebook and Instagram.

Do you feel called to hold space for women through the arc of conception, pregnancy, birth and postpartum? You can become a doula in 5 months with Eyla’s online doula training, certification and mentorship program.

Resources Mentioned:

Books by Lily Nichols | Website

Explore a FREE CHAPTER of Lily’s Book, Real Food for Fertility | Free Chapter

5 Fertility Diet Myths | Website

Uncovering Birth’s Miscarriage Masterclass | Website

The Big Fat Surprise by Nina Teicholz | Book or Audiobook

Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.

003. Why It's Not Your Husband's Responsibility To Change with Kelley Cama

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0700

In this episode, Eyla interviews Kelley Cama, a relationship expert and creator of the Beloved Program. Kelley dives deep into the evolution of modern relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of communication and personal responsibility. She shares her transformation journey from struggling with relationship challenges to embracing femininity and building a successful marriage. Tune in to learn actionable strategies for fostering open communication, setting clear boundaries, and transforming your relationship dynamics. Kelley's insights promise to inspire and empower your approach to love and partnership.

Kelley Cama helps women become submissive in their relationships. She coaches partnered women to soften into their femininity and let their man lead, as well as coaches single women to attract their future husbands.

Timestamps:

10:32 Practice feminine communication to express unmet needs effectively.

13:18 Use both softness and strength to communicate in relationships.

23:01 Focus on filling your own cup to invite your partner to lean in.

32:01 Peel back layers of resentment to uncover the tender desire.

35:26 Approach your partner with softness to change defensive dynamics.

50:24 Communicate relationship needs with clarity and set boundaries.

58:33 Use feminine tools to step out of the victim mindset and alchemize relationships.

Ready to soften into your feminine essence and experience the relationship you dream of? Learn how through Kelley’s Intimate Coaching Program: How to Feel Seen, Safe, and Feminine in Love.

Connect with Kelley through her Instagram or through Matt & Kelley’s YouTube Channel.

Resources Mentioned:

Pastor RC Blakes Jr. | YouTube

Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs | Book or Audiobook

Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.

002. How to Touch Your Spouse, How to Be Better at Receiving & More with Whitney Lowery

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0700

Learn to speak your needs and feel safer in your body with the signature course from Uncovering Birth, Creating Safety in the Body. Use the code BTK10 for 10% off!

In this episode, Eyla sits down with Whitney Lowery, an embodiment facilitator who works with women and couples on self-awareness and personal sovereignty. Whitney shares some simple tools, like somatic exercises and grounding techniques, that will help you manage the inevitable stresses of today’s world plus enhance your relationship dynamics. Tune into this episode to learn all about balancing self-care with partnership responsibilities, breaking old patterns, and genuinely connecting with your own desires.

I am Whitney Lowery, an embodiment facilitator focused on helping women feel safer and more at-ease with pleasure, rest, and doing things their own way. The women I work with are great at pushing themselves onward and enduring lots of discomfort to achieve their goals. Relaxing only makes them more tense and pleasure is just another place to perform. Just another chore to check off the list making it another goal to achieve. The self-care they choose is mostly about self-improvement rather than joy or adding to their aliveness. Even embodiment is effortful and filled with the pressure to do it right and be good at it. I use moving meditations and simple exercises so women can practice sensing their body's feedback and moving for their body's pleasure rather than mirroring me or moving to my body's rhythm. It's like choosing your own adventure so I constantly give you options for personalizing things to your body's preferences. You expand your capacity to feel yourself, release built-up tension, and come home to your body.

Timestamps:

5:41 How to use different nervous system tools to manage stress.

7:09 Why grounding yourself before social interactions matters.

21:56 How to differentiate between pushing yourself to the edge and self-abuse.

24:37 Why microdosing discomfort can help you grow.

35:55 How to practice receiving in small, tangible ways.

43:51 Why recognizing entitlement dynamics can improve relationships.

52:19 How changing your behaviour can shift the dynamics in your relationship.

Whitney offers 1:1 Coaching for Couples to build deeper trust and intimacy, while also taking women on their own journey of discovery and healing.

Connect with Whitney through the Being With Your Body Website.

Work with Eyla 1:1 to understand your story better in an Alchemy Session. We visit from anything to birth trauma or releasing fear around conception, to birthing or postpartum. This also doesn't have to be about birth. Let's alchemize whatever block is coming up for you.

Resources Mentioned:

Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent | Website

The Art of Receiving and Giving by Betty Martin | Book or Audiobook

Connect with Eyla through the Uncovering Birth Website and her Instagram.

My Affiliates:

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001. Introducing Born to Know

eyla@uncoveringbirth.com (Eyla Cuenca) — Mon, 23 Sep 2024 05:54:00 -0700

Welcome to Born To Know with your host, Eyla Cuenca. For this premiere episode, she will explore the transformative power of self-responsibility and empowerment in childbirth and beyond. Eyla critiques the conventional medical system, urging women to take back their autonomy and make informed choices. As a certified childbirth educator and doula, she shares her insights on how reclaiming birth experiences can shift them from traumatic to empowering. Learn how delving into family systems and addressing deep-rooted traumas can lead to profound healing and personal growth. Join Eyla as she unpacks societal narratives, encourages introspection, and inspires a path toward authentic and fulfilling living.

Eyla Cuenca is a Childbirth Educator, Doula, health freedom advocate & birth trauma alchemist.

Her work is dedicated to offering guidance that supports women and men in returning to their deepest knowing about birth, individual sovereignty, and the body’s innate intelligence.

With a BA in Anthropology and Ethnographic photography from Bennington College, Eyla studied family systems and is passionate about helping change the conversation around the way women birth and initiate into the world. She brings an anthropological lens to her work, with an eye for institutional critique.

Eyla trained with the AAHCC founded by Robert A. Bradley, MD, where she specialized as a Birth Educator and Doula. Her work as a Guardian Ad Litem for the 11th Judicial Circuit of Florida as well as attending over 200 births as a Doula – in both hospital and home settings – brought her into health freedom and advocacy work.

Eyla thoroughly believes that it is everyone’s right to have access to empowering education from conception to parenting and that by using the tool of birth we can understand the origin of chronic illness, and access freedom, connection and the most authentic version of ourselves.

Timestamps:

5:57 Understanding the core of why trauma persists.

14:51 Making different decisions that align with your instinct.

24:24 Developing a healthy permission field for others.

30:31 Taking responsibility for your own choices and healing.

Want to connect with Eyla through education or training? Check out her offerings at the Uncovering Birth Website and use discount code BTK10 on any Uncovering Births Digital products or classes.

Another way to connect with Eyla is through her Instagram.