Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child

144: Is Your Kid Going to Outgrow Meltdowns?

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Tue, 19 May 2026 00:00:00 -0400

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Have you ever wondered: “Will my kid outgrow these meltdowns?”

It is the question almost every parent of a sensitive, emotionally intense child asks, and the honest answer might be hard to hear.

Kids do sometimes outgrow the outward meltdowns. The hitting, kicking, and screaming can quiet down with age. What does not go away is the emotional intensity underneath. That is the part most parents are not warned about.

When a child never learns to tolerate discomfort, they find other ways to turn the volume down on uncomfortable emotions. That can look like numbing out to screens, food, substances, or self-harm as they get older. None of that is what we want for our kids, and a feelings chart or a calm-down corner won't fix it.

This episode breaks down why co-regulation matters more than coping skills, why your own childhood makes this harder than it should be, and what it actually means to sit in the muck with your kid without rescuing them from tough emotions.

If you are walking on eggshells and hoping the meltdowns disappear on their own, listen before bedtime tonight.

You’ll learn:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:29] Will my child outgrow the meltdowns? The honest answer

[02:38] How unfelt feelings turn into numbing behaviors later in life

[03:34] Why screens shut off your child's emotional processing system

[06:06] Coping skills often fail before any feelings have been felt

[06:52] Co-regulation: how kids actually learn distress tolerance

[10:13] Why your nervous system reads your kid's meltdown as a threat

[11:54] The gutter guard role: allow the feeling, stop the harm

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143: Why Your Child Is Still Having Meltdowns Despite Play Therapy

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 08 May 2026 00:00:00 -0400

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I didn’t expect my own child to be the one who challenged me the most.

I could stay calm with teenagers screaming at me in residential treatment, but I found myself completely thrown off by my own toddler in a lunch line at a Great Harvest Bread Company. That moment forced me to see something I had been missing, even after years of training.

I had spent my career working with kids who were labeled “difficult,” and I knew how to connect with them in clinical settings. At home, the meltdowns felt constant, unpredictable, and personal in a way I wasn’t prepared for.

What I started to notice in my play therapy practice changed everything. Kids would hold it together with me for 45 minutes in session, then fall apart at home. Parents were left wondering why their child was still having hours-long meltdowns at home despite doing great in therapy. This is where my understanding of child meltdowns, highly sensitive kids, and parenting strategies that actually work at home began to shift.

If you’ve been thinking, “I’ve tried everything, and nothing is changing,” this will help you understand why knowledge alone isn’t stopping the meltdowns, and what’s been missing from the way most of us were taught to parent.

You’ll learn:

[00:00] Introduction

[03:24] The parenting assumption that completely blindsided me

[04:18] What a meltdown during a lunch date taught me about myself as a parent

[07:55] How mentalization work slowly rebuilt the way I parented

[09:34] What my therapy kids were hiding from me the whole time

[12:20] The uncomfortable pivot that changed everything I offered clients

[14:02] The holes in every parenting framework that pushed me to build my own

[19:17] Shutting down my waitlisted practice to bet on something unproven

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Holiday Rewind: 3 Tips for Smoother Holiday Gatherings with Your Highly Sensitive Child (Even When Meltdowns Happen)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 14:53:43 -0500

Holiday gatherings can be joyful — and for highly sensitive kids, they can also be a lot. The noise, the people, the excitement, the expectations. This re-released episode revisits a topic so many families struggle with: holiday meltdowns that seem to pop up right before (or during) events.

In this episode, we talk through how to support your sensitive child around holiday outings — from gentle preparation beforehand to what actually helps when emotions start running high. You’ll hear practical, parent-friendly strategies that focus on regulation, connection, and flexibility.

Because big feelings don’t mean you’re doing anything wrong — they mean your child’s nervous system needs support. With a few simple shifts, holiday gatherings can feel more manageable, more connected, and a little less overwhelming for everyone.

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Holiday Rewind: The Real Reason You’re So Exhausted: Unpacking the Invisible Mental Load of the Holidays as a Parent to a Sensitive CHild (& 3 Tips to Make This Season Feel Lighter!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 10 Dec 2025 09:00:00 -0500

The holiday season is here again — and while it’s full of magic and meaning, it can also feel like a lot, especially when you're the one quietly coordinating all the joy. Gifts, gatherings, school events, traditions… the mental load piles up fast.

So this week, we’re re-releasing one of our most-loved holiday episodes — all about three simple, doable ways to lighten that invisible load. These strategies will help you protect your energy, stay present, and actually enjoy the season you’re working so hard to make special.

Because the truth is: the moments that matter most aren’t the perfectly planned ones — they’re the connected ones. So grab something cozy to sip, take a deep breath, and let’s make this holiday season feel more manageable, meaningful, and doable.

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Holiday Rewind: From Toddler Tantrums to Big Kid Meltdowns — How to Handle the Season’s Big Feelings Like a Pro

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 05 Dec 2025 09:00:00 -0500

The holidays feel magical for kids, with nonstop activities, treats, and excitement. But all that joy can also stir up tantrums, meltdowns, impulse-control struggles, and plenty of big feelings for sensitive little ones. So this week, we’re re-releasing an episode that so many parents found grounding and helpful the first time around.

You’ll get practical, doable strategies to support your child through the holiday whirlwind by tuning into their cues, planning ahead, and knowing when it’s time to pivot or head home before things unravel.

And here’s the truth: it’s rarely if a meltdown will happen during the holidays — it’s when. When we expect some bumps in the season, we’re so much more prepared to meet them with calm and connection. This episode will help you feel ready for whatever the festivities bring.

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Why Is My Child So Ungrateful? The Real Reason Sensitive Kids’ Big Emotions Look “Ungrateful” — and How to Teach Real Gratitude (Without Forcing It or Taking It Personally)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Have you ever spent a whole day pouring into your sensitive child, only for them to fall apart the moment you walk through the door? It stings — and it’s easy to think, “Why does this feel so ungrateful?” In this episode, I’m unpacking what’s really behind those big emotions, and why they’re not actually about gratitude at all.

We’ll look at why sensitive kids often melt down after something positive, why it can come across as entitlement, and how emotional overload plays a much bigger role than we realize. Once you understand what’s happening underneath, those confusing reactions finally start to click.

You’ll also learn how gratitude develops differently in sensitive kids, plus simple, gentle ways to nurture real appreciation without forcing it or taking their overwhelm personally. Because even when their feelings spill over, their gratitude is still there — it just needs space to show up.

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How to Support Your Highly Sensitive Child Through a Big Transition Like Moving — 3 Things We Accidentally Do That Make Transitions Harder (and the Approaches That Truly Ease the Shift)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Nov 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Big changes are tough for sensitive kids — even the exciting ones. And without meaning to, we sometimes make those transitions harder by over-preparing, over-explaining, or hyping things up in hopes it will make them easier.

Whether it’s a move, a new sibling, or a big end-of-year transition, sensitive kids feel every ripple. And sometimes, the more we prep or talk about what's coming, the bigger those emotions grow.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what actually helps: the steady, low-pressure steps that give sensitive kids the safety and confidence they need to handle big shifts. If your child struggles with change, this episode will feel like a deep exhale.

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Why Mornings Go Off the Rails — 3 Reasons Your Sensitive Child Melts Down (and What to Do Instead)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Nov 2025 09:00:00 -0500

If mornings with your sensitive child feel like an emotional rollercoaster — one wrong move and everything spirals — you’re definitely not alone. Maybe they wake up already grumpy, refuse to get dressed, or melt down over something tiny. You start the day exhausted before it even begins.

In this episode, we’ll talk about why mornings go off the rails so often with sensitive kids — and why your best efforts to stay calm, be logical, or “just get through it” don’t always work. I’ll share 3 key reasons behind those chaotic mornings that might surprise you.

Then we’ll get into what you can do — 3 simple, connection-focused shifts that help you move from walking on eggshells to starting the day on the same team. Because even the hardest mornings can become moments of growth and connection.

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Parenting Reflections: When My Daughter’s Hair Clip Meltdown Wasn’t Actually About the Hair Clips — How I Resisted the Urge to “Fix It” While Parenting My Highly Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 24 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0400

If your child has ever completely melted down over something tiny — like the wrong cup, the favorite shirt that’s in the wash, or in my case this week… hair clips — this episode is going to feel very familiar. Because it’s never really about the thing, even though it really feels like it in the moment.

I’m sharing a real morning from my own house — one that reminded me how quickly I can slip into trying to fix or prevent instead of pausing and seeing what’s actually going on underneath the reaction. Even with all the tools, that pull is still strong.

So if you’ve ever wondered, “Why are we melting down over something so small?” — this episode will help you start to see these moments differently, and remember where our influence and power truly live as parents.

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How Kids Actually Learn to Regulate Their Emotions — and Why It Matters So Much for Highly Sensitive Kids (Hint: It’s Not What You Expect!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 15 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0400

We all dream of the day our kids can handle their big feelings with ease—when their emotions don’t rule the day, and they can take life’s bumps in stride. But how do kids actually get there?

In this episode, we’re diving into what helps children truly build emotional regulation skills—and spoiler alert—it’s probably not what you think. There’s a missing piece in the way most of us imagine emotional growth, and once you understand it, everything about those tricky moments starts to make more sense.

Join me as we explore what’s really behind a child’s ability to stay calm, bounce back, and handle life’s ups and downs—because this one shift changes how you see every emotional moment that unfolds in your home.

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Parenting Reflections: Lesley’s Story of Growth and Grace — From Single Mom Facing Big Meltdowns to Building a Calm, Connected Blended Family

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 10 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0400

This week’s episode features Lesley, a mom whose parenting journey took some unexpected (and beautiful) turns. When she first joined the program, she was a single mom navigating intense meltdowns with her 5-year-old daughter—big emotions, hurtful words, and all the overwhelm that came with them.

Just days after deciding to join, life surprised her with an engagement—and suddenly, she was preparing not only to find more peace at home but also to blend a new family. Through the program, Lesley learned how to handle her daughter’s meltdowns with more connection, calm, and understanding, even as so much in her life was changing.

Her story is a powerful reminder that growth doesn’t wait for the “perfect time.” Sometimes, it happens right in the middle of big transitions—and that’s exactly what makes it so transformative.

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Why You Can’t Reason With a Dysregulated Child (& What Actually Helps in the Moment!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 01 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever tried to explain something perfectly clearly to your child—only to be met with tears, frustration, or a complete meltdown? It feels like the more sense we try to make, the less sense it actually makes to them.

That’s because when kids are emotionally activated, logic goes right out the window. Their brains simply can’t take in reasoning in those heated moments, no matter how convincing or calm we think we’re being.

In this episode, we’ll dig into why logic doesn’t work when emotions take over, what’s really going on in your child’s brain, and how to respond in a way that brings more connection (and a lot less power struggle).

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Parenting Reflections: How My 4-Year-Old Learned to Ride a 'Big Girl' Bike—And Why Building Frustration Tolerance in Small Moments Made All the Difference

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 26 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0400

This week, I’m sharing one of those small-but-big parenting moments: my 4-year-old daughter learning to ride her two-wheel bike. It was both ordinary and magical, watching her step into something brand new with so much determination.

I’d spent time preparing her for what it feels like to learn something new—the ups, the wobbles, and even the possibility of frustration. When the moment finally came, all of that groundwork quietly guided what happened next.

Sometimes, our job isn’t to guide every step—it’s to nurture, plant the seeds, and then step back so our kids can discover what they’re truly capable of. This was one of those moments I’ll never forget.

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Why “Just Stay Calm” Doesn’t Work During Your Child’s Meltdowns—And What to Focus on Instead

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0400

We’ve all heard the advice: “Just stay calm when your child is melting down.” But if you’ve ever tried it, you know it’s not that simple—and there’s a reason for that.

In this episode, we’re unpacking why staying calm can feel so hard in the moment, what’s really going on inside us when our kids are overwhelmed, and what makes a difference in finding our way back.

It’s not about perfection—it’s about something much more powerful that can change the way we show up for our kids (and ourselves) when things get tough.

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Parenting Reflections: From Vacation Chaos to Calm at Home: How Emily Went from Cutting a Family Trip Short to Celebrating Milestones and Peaceful, Connected Moments

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 12 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0400

What do you do when your child’s meltdowns get so big they disrupt everyday life—even cutting a family vacation short? That’s where Emily found herself as a mom of a highly sensitive child. Between the constant meltdowns and the stress of preparing for kindergarten, she was stretched thin and exhausted.

In this honest conversation, Emily shares what life was like in that season—balancing two kids, noticing the differences in parenting styles between her and her husband, and wrestling with the fear that she might be to blame for her child’s sensitivity. She also talks about the mindset shifts that changed how she approached these challenges and gave her family new hope.

If you’ve ever wondered how you’ll get through another meltdown—or felt like you just don’t have anything left to give—you’ll find comfort and connection in Emily’s story. And if you’re in the same boat, I’d love to help. Schedule your free breakthrough call today to explore whether this program could be the right fit for your family.

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Will My Sensitive Child Ever Outgrow the Meltdowns? Here's Why Emotional Sensitivity Doesn't Just Disappear (& How to Help Your Child Cope Instead)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Ever find yourself wondering if your highly sensitive child will ever “grow out” of the meltdowns? You’re not alone. A fellow mom asked this exact question after feeling stuck in the cycle of escalating emotions, hitting, and endless late-night worries about the future. It’s the question that so many parents quietly carry: Will things ever get easier?

In this episode, we’ll unpack what’s really going on underneath those big emotions and talk about what growth actually looks like for sensitive kids. You’ll hear why some of the hardest moments are also opportunities for connection, and how your response can make all the difference.

Because here’s the thing: parenting a sensitive child isn’t about waiting for maturity to magically arrive. It’s about learning to sit in the muck together, transforming our own triggers, and modeling the calm we want to see. And when we do that, we begin to see hope — real, lasting change.

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Parenting Reflections: How I Prepared My Sensitive Child to Handle the Middle School Transition with Confidence

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 29 Aug 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Starting middle school is a big milestone, and for a highly sensitive child, it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, I share how my oldest son’s recent transition went surprisingly smoothly—and the preparation that made all the difference.

I’ll walk through what we did ahead of time to help him feel ready and confident, and why that kind of preparation is so powerful for sensitive kids facing big changes.

But here’s the thing: he didn’t always transition so effortlessly. I’ll bring you back to his rocky move from 2nd to 3rd grade to show just how far he’s come. My hope is that this story reminds you that even when transitions are tough, the right support can help our kids truly thrive.

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When Back-to-School Feels Like Too Much for Your Highly Sensitive Child—Here’s What’s Really Going On (& How to Support Them Through the Transition)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 20 Aug 2025 08:00:00 -0400

The back-to-school transition can feel like a mountain for sensitive kids—new routines, new faces, and new expectations all at once. And it doesn’t have to be a big milestone year for them to feel the weight of it; even returning to the same school can stir up nerves and overwhelm. What feels exciting to some can feel completely daunting to them.

In this episode, we’ll explore why this shift is such a big deal for sensitive kids, what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how you can see the transition from their perspective.

You’ll also get simple, practical ways to help your child feel supported and secure during this change. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about perfect mornings—it’s about finding your own rhythm together.

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Summer Rewind Series: How to Communicate Effectively with Your Sensitive Child’s Teacher for a Successful School Year with Jess Hammond – Part 2

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 13 Aug 2025 18:17:10 -0400

In this final Summer Rewind episode, I’m joined once again by veteran teacher and fellow parent Jess Hammond for the second half of our honest, two-part conversation. This time, we’re talking about helping kids build independence with their schoolwork—and what to do when they hit a wall.

We also wade into the tricky waters of homework—what’s helpful, what’s not, and how to advocate for your child if they need extra support, like an IEP or 504 plan.

If school has ever felt like a daily struggle—or even if you're just trying to keep up—this conversation is full of real talk, relatable stories, and gentle reminders that you’re not doing it wrong.

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Summer Rewind Series: How to Communicate Effectively with Your Sensitive Child’s Teacher for a Successful School Year with Jess Hammond – Part 1

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 06 Aug 2025 08:00:00 -0400

In this 5th episode of our Summer Rewind Series, we’re bringing back part one of a heartfelt, insight-packed conversation with one of my closest friends—a teacher with 23 years of experience and a parent to two elementary-aged kids. Her dual perspective is one every parent needs to hear.

We talk about how to build strong connections between parents and teachers early in the school year, navigating ADHD as both a teacher and a parent, and what educators really wish parents knew. If you’re raising a highly sensitive child or just want a smoother school year, this episode is full of wisdom and encouragement.

This conversation was too good to fit into one episode—so we didn’t! Be sure to catch this week’s replay, and come back next week for part two of this thoughtful, relatable, and refreshingly real discussion.

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Summer Rewind Series: Beyond Sleep Training or Co-Sleeping Forever: Finding the Baby Sleep Middle Ground with Rachael Shepherd-Ohta

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 30 Jul 2025 08:00:00 -0400

We’re continuing our Summer Rewind Series by bringing back another favorite episode—because baby sleep struggles never really go out of season. If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “how do I get my baby to sleep?” at 3am, you’re definitely not alone. Baby sleep can feel like one of the hardest parts of parenting, and the pressure to pick a “side” only makes it harder.

In this episode, I chat with Rachael Shepherd-Ohta, certified sleep specialist and the voice behind Hey, Sleepy Baby, about finding that often-missing middle ground. She shares real-talk about what’s normal, how to get more sleep, and when it might be time to check in with your pediatrician.

Here’s the thing: baby sleep is a developmental milestone, not a skill you can force. But if no one in your house is sleeping, you’re not stuck. There are gentle, supportive sleep solutions that actually work—for both you and your baby.

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Summer Rewind Series: Intuitive Eating for Kids: How to Help Picky Eaters & Heal Food Trauma with Bekah Groop

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 23 Jul 2025 08:00:00 -0400

This episode is the third in our Summer Rewind Series, where we’re bringing back past favorites to revisit with fresh perspective. If you’ve ever struggled with picky eating, mealtime stress, or worries about your child’s nutrition, this conversation is one you’ll want to hear.

In this replay, I chat with peaceful parenting educator and mom of three, Bekah Groop, about how to raise intuitive eaters and reduce the pressure around meals. Bekah shares her experience as an eating disorder survivor and offers compassionate, practical advice to help you shift mealtime from chaos to connection.

We dive into how our own food stories—and the impact of diet culture—can show up in our parenting, and how healing ourselves can help us support our kids in developing a healthier, more joyful relationship with food.

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Summer Rewind Series: “How Do I Get My Partner On Board with Gentle Parenting?” with Bryana Kappadakunnel

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 16 Jul 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Summer’s a great time to slow down, reflect, and revisit some of the most powerful parenting conversations—and that’s exactly what we’re doing in the Summer Rewind Series. This week, we’re revisiting an honest and relatable episode all about navigating parenting when you and your partner don’t exactly see eye to eye.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re parenting on an island—one partner leaning into gentle, respectful approaches while the other pushes for punishments or control—you’re not alone. In this episode, Dr. Hilary is joined by fellow licensed therapist Bryana Kappadakunnel to unpack why these differences feel so triggering, how to handle disagreement with compassion, and the single most important thing couples can do daily to create alignment.

Because here’s the truth: it’s not your job to “fix” or “convert” your partner. But when you shift from control to curiosity and connection, the whole dynamic can change. Tune in for insight, validation, and some practical tools that just might help you find your way back to the same page.

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Summer Rewind Series: The Benefits of Unstructured Outdoor Play (& How to Get Your Child Outside!) with Allana Robinson

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 09 Jul 2025 08:00:00 -0400

We’re kicking off the Summer Rewind Series with some of your favorite past episodes—perfect for summer walks, long drives, or relaxing in the backyard. Even if you’ve heard them before, these conversations still hold so much value, and you just might hear something new now that you're in a different season of parenting.

Getting kids outside is truly magical. Fresh air can calm a fussy baby, support emotional regulation, and give you that much-needed reset during long parenting days. And when kids explore the outdoors without structured activities? The benefits multiply.

In this rewind episode, I’m joined by Allana Robinson—Registered Early Childhood Educator and Developmental Specialist—for a conversation all about the power of unstructured, independent outdoor play. We talk through the logistics (yes, including weather and safety), how to let go of over-structuring, and why outdoor exploration is so good for your child’s development. This one is a reminder that less really can be more when it comes to play.

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5 Sneaky Ways You’re Still Trying to “Fix” Your Highly Sensitive Child’s Feelings (Without Even Realizing It!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 16 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0400

You know your child’s emotions aren’t something to fix—but in those overwhelming moments, it’s easy to fall into sneaky habits that quietly send the message, “Let’s make this feeling go away.” Especially with highly sensitive kids, the urge to soothe or solve can show up even when you’re trying your best to hold space.

In this episode, we’re unpacking 5 surprising ways you might be unintentionally trying to “fix” your child’s feelings. We’ll talk about why society teaches us to suppress emotions, how that sneaks into parenting, and how to shift toward truly embracing your child’s full emotional experience.

Plus, if you’re still wondering whether your child might be highly sensitive, I’ll tell you how to take the free quiz that breaks it all down—so you can better understand your child’s sensitivity and feel confident supporting it. Let’s stop trying to fix the feelings—and start welcoming them, mess and all.

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Parenting Reflections: What It Looks Like in Real Life to Co-Regulate Through Big Emotions (Hint: It's Not Always Simple or Pretty, and You're Still Doing a Great Job!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 11 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Co-regulation with highly sensitive kids is powerful—but it can get really messy. In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to stay grounded when your child is overwhelmed, pushing you away, and drowning in big emotions.

I’m sharing a personal story from a recent parenting moment that reminded me how connection often starts in the mess. It wasn’t perfect, but by staying close and quiet, I was able to support my son in the way he needed most.

You’ll walk away with simple, practical tips to help you sit through the hard stuff, support your child’s emotional release, and tune in to what they really need—even when it’s tough.

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When Someone in the Family Is Struggling—Here’s How to Talk to Your Highly Sensitive Child About Hard Dynamics (Without Shame or Blame)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 09 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0400

When a family member is struggling—or no longer part of the picture—it can be hard to know how (or if) to talk about it with your child. But with highly sensitive kids who notice everything, silence often feels heavier than the truth. In this episode, we’re exploring how to gently and honestly talk about tough family dynamics in a way that feels supportive and rooted in connection.

Inspired by a listener’s powerful question, we’ll talk about what to say when a loved one cuts off communication, behaves unpredictably, or struggles with emotional regulation or substance use. You'll hear why protecting our kids from all hard things isn’t the goal—and how sharing just enough can actually help them feel safer.

If you grew up in a family that withheld information “to protect you,” this episode offers a gentle, honest way to start breaking that cycle—while honoring both your child’s sensitivity and their need for truth.

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Parenting Reflections: The Toughest Parenting Moment I’ve Faced in a Long Time—What Went Right, What I Did Wrong, & How I Moved Forward With My Highly Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 04 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Some parenting moments feel impossible—and in this episode, I’m sharing one of the hardest I’ve had in a long time. It was a perfect storm of exhaustion, overwhelm, and a tough transition for my oldest, who’s struggling with the shift to middle school. When a big emotional explosion hit right at dinnertime, I didn’t handle it perfectly—but what happened next changed everything.

I’m pulling back the curtain on what I did wrong, what I did right, and how I turned a moment of chaos into connection. Because let’s be real—parenting highly sensitive kids is a rollercoaster. The key is learning to see what’s underneath their big emotions so you can respond in a way that actually helps.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re getting it right, this episode is your reminder that even the hardest moments can lead to powerful breakthroughs. And if you want to better understand what’s really behind your highly sensitive child’s behaviors and unkind words, grab my free guide, 10 Things Your Highly Sensitive Child Needs You to Know—it’s a game changer.

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Has Your Sensitive Child Been Diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)? Here's Why I Don't Believe in That Diagnosis (& What’s Really Going on With “Defiant” Kids)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 02 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is one of those labels that can feel heavy and confusing—especially if you’re parenting a highly sensitive child who seems to check all the boxes. But what if the real issue isn’t defiance at all? In this episode, we’re breaking down what’s really going on with kids who show ODD symptoms and why so many sensitive kids fit this description.

Today I’m getting honest about why I don’t believe in ODD as a diagnosis—and hear why I think it does more harm than good. Instead of focusing on “fixing” challenging behaviors, let’s unpacks what’s driving them in the first place and what kids actually need when they push back the hardest.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated, or even judged because of your child’s big reactions, this conversation will be a breath of fresh air. Let’s rethink the way we see these behaviors—and discover a more compassionate, effective way to support our kids.

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Parenting Reflections: Kate's Transformation: From Overwhelmed, Co-Parenting Single Mom Facing Daily 90-Minute Meltdowns to a Calm, Confident Parent of a Highly Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 28 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Kate was at her breaking point. As a single parent navigating co-parenting while carrying most of the parenting load, she felt completely overwhelmed—especially when her highly sensitive daughter was having 90-minute meltdowns every single day. Daycare pickup was a battle, and nothing she tried seemed to help. She knew something had to change, but she had no idea where to start.

In this episode, Kate gets real about her journey from daily exhaustion to finally feeling calm and confident in parenting her sensitive child. She shares why she made the bold decision to invest in support—choosing her family’s well-being over saving for a car—and how that one choice transformed everything. Now, instead of walking on eggshells, she knows exactly how to handle the meltdowns, and parenting feels lighter, easier, and even enjoyable.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re barely hanging on, this conversation will feel like a breath of fresh air. Kate’s story is proof that real change is possible—and that you don’t have to keep doing this alone. Check the link below for your free breakthrough call, and grab your spot in the Chaos to Connection Program!

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The Real Reason You Keep Yelling at Your Highly Sensitive Child (Even When You Don't Mean To)—and the Game-Changing Shift That Will Break the Cycle for Good

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0400

You try so hard to stay calm, but somehow, the yelling keeps happening. You regret it, swear it won’t happen again—yet the next day, there it is. Sound familiar? The truth is, the real reason you’re yelling isn’t what you think.

In this episode, we’re getting to the root of those big reactions. I’m breaking down the hidden “traps” that keep parents stuck in the yelling cycle, why traditional advice falls short, and the key shift that actually makes a difference.

It’s not about trying harder—it’s about seeing what’s really keeping you stuck. Once you recognize the patterns, you can finally break free and show up the way you want to. Let’s dive into the shift that changes everything and create real, lasting change.

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Parenting Reflections: When I Yell or Lose My Patience as a Parent to a Highly Sensitive Child—The #1 Thing That Heals It All (And Works Anytime, No Matter When the Mess-Up Happens!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 21 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0400

We all mess up as parents—it’s inevitable. No matter how much we read, learn, or try our best, perfect parenting doesn’t exist (trust me, I’ve checked!). But here’s the good news: there’s one simple yet powerful thing we can do that truly changes everything, no matter how big or small the mistake.

In this episode, we’re talking about the most important tool you have for repairing those tough moments with your child. Because what happens after we lose our cool matters even more than the moment itself—and how we respond can either bring us closer or create more distance.

So if you’ve ever ended the day with that sinking feeling, wishing you could rewind, or wondering if you’ve messed up too much, take a deep breath. There’s no expiration date on making things right, and these moments—when handled well—can actually strengthen your bond with your child in ways you never expected.

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When Parenting Hacks & Scripts Fail and You’re Stuck in the Meltdown Cycle with Your Sensitive Child—Here’s The Missing Piece You Need to Create Real Connection

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0400

You’ve read all the parenting hacks, tried the scripts, and followed the expert advice—but somehow, things still aren’t clicking with your sensitive child. The meltdowns keep happening, the challenging behaviors don’t seem to change, and the connection you’re working so hard to build still feels shaky. So what’s missing?

In this episode, we’re digging into why hacks and scripts alone won’t get you out of the meltdown cycle—and the one key piece that makes all the difference. When this missing piece is in place, everything else starts to fall into alignment, creating more ease, more connection, and real, lasting change.

If you’re feeling frustrated that nothing seems to “work” with your sensitive child, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about the deeper shift that actually transforms your parenting—beyond quick fixes—so you can finally break free from survival mode and truly thrive.

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Parenting Reflections: How I Stopped Asking 'What’s Wrong?'—& Started Creating Safe, Low-Pressure Moments for Real Conversations With My Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 14 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Sometimes, the best conversations with our kids happen when we’re not asking direct questions—when we create space for them to open up on their own terms. Recently, I found the perfect low-pressure moment with my son, and what he shared with me was something I never would’ve gotten from a sit-down heart-to-heart.

In this episode, I’m sharing how I’ve learned to stop pushing for answers and instead make space for my sensitive kid to talk when he’s ready. I’ll walk you through what this looked like for us, how I practiced active listening (even when I wanted to jump in!), and why this shift has made our connection stronger than ever.

If your child shuts down when you ask, “What’s wrong?” or struggles to share their feelings, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how to create moments where your child wants to open up—without pressure, expectations, or an agenda. Just an open, safe space to talk.

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Are You Stuck in Survival Mode? 3 Sneaky Signs You’re Burnt Out Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child (And How to Break Free!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Mar 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Ever feel like you’re just getting through the days instead of actually living them? Like you’re running on fumes, reacting to every meltdown, and collapsing into bed without even remembering half of what happened? If so, you might be stuck in survival mode—and trust me, you’re not alone.

In this episode, we’re diving into 3 sneaky, but ever-so-present, signs that you’re operating in survival mode as a parent to a highly sensitive child. Because here’s the thing—what feels “normal” might just be burnout in disguise. And when we’re stuck in this cycle, we’re not truly present, connected, or able to enjoy parenting the way we want to.

So let’s talk about how to spot it, why it happens, and (most importantly) what you can do to break free. Because you deserve more than just surviving—and so does your child.

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Parenting Reflections: My Daughter’s Magical Birthday Ended in a Bedtime Meltdown—Here’s How I Stayed Grounded and Kept the Right Mindset (Without Unhelpful Thinking!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 07 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Birthdays are pure magic—but if you have a highly sensitive kid, you know all that excitement has to come out somewhere. My daughter just had the best Frozen-themed party, playing with her cousins and soaking up every special moment. But then… bedtime hit. And one tiny thing (a blanket not laying just right) led to a full-on meltdown.

In this episode, I’m sharing what was really going on beneath the surface, how I handled it, and the mindset shifts that helped me show up in a way that actually helped my daughter. Because when big days end in big feelings, how we respond matters so much.

So if you’ve ever had a fun, joyful day end in tears and meltdowns, you are not alone. Let’s talk about why this happens, what your child actually needs in these moments, and how you can handle them in a way that brings you closer instead of pushing you apart.

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Why Your Sensitive Child Keeps Hitting (Even When They Know It’s Wrong) – & The #1 Game-Changing Shift to Gently Curb Aggressive Behaviors at Home

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 05 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0500

When your kid hits, it’s so easy to go straight to, “No hitting! Hitting is bad! We don’t do that!” But what if I told you that reaction might actually be making things worse? Yep, even though we’re trying to stop the behavior, we could be amplifying it without even realizing it.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why kids hit, why they often already feel bad about it, and how our go-to responses might be adding fuel to the fire. Your child isn’t hitting because they don’t know it’s wrong—they literally can’t stop themselves in the moment. So what if, instead of just shutting it down, we helped them through it in a way that actually works?

I’m sharing the #1 shift you need to make to see less hitting and fewer aggressive behaviors in your home. No shame, no endless power struggles—just a simple change that will make a huge difference for you and your child.

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Parenting Reflections: Emily’s Breakthrough: How the Right Parenting Framework Helped Her Family Move Beyond Yelling & Spanking to a Peaceful, Connected Home

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 28 Feb 2025 15:07:21 -0500

Emily and her husband were stuck in a cycle of yelling and physical punishment—approaching parenting from completely different perspectives. She wanted a more connected approach, while he believed discipline meant spanking. It felt impossible to get on the same page, until they took a leap of faith: an 8-week commitment to no spanking. What happened next completely transformed their home.

In this episode, Emily shares their powerful journey through my Chaos to Connection program—the doubts, the challenges, and the moment her husband saw that parenting without punishment wasn’t just possible, but more effective. With a clear framework, they created the peaceful home they had both been longing for.

If you’ve ever struggled with differing parenting styles or felt like change was impossible, this episode will give you hope. Sometimes, all it takes is the right framework to prove that connection works. Tune in to hear how Emily and her husband made the shift—and how you can, too.

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'Why Is My Child Suddenly Talking Like a Baby?!' What Makes Baby Talk So Triggering (& How to Respond to Your Sensitive Child to Support Healthy Development!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

When your highly sensitive child starts using baby talk, it can throw you off. Is this a setback? Anxiety? Something bigger? In this episode, we’re digging into what’s really going on, why it can feel so triggering, and how to shift your perspective so you see it as a window into your child’s emotional needs—not something to “fix.”

This topic comes straight from a listener’s question, and it’s one so many parents struggle with. In a world that pushes independence, baby talk can feel frustrating, even embarrassing. But what if, instead of seeing it as a problem, we saw it as a way our kids are looking for connection and safety?

Let’s talk about how to handle these moments in a way that meets your child where they are—without shame or worry. With a few simple shifts, you can respond in a way that builds emotional regulation, strengthens your bond, and helps your child feel truly seen.

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Parenting Reflections: How I Navigated a Sibling Struggle on the Way to School—And the Game-Changing “Reset” Shift That Turned It Around

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 21 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

It was one of those mornings—the kind where sibling arguments escalate, patience runs thin, and you’re stuck in the moment with no easy way out. On a walk to school, tensions were high between my boys, and I’ll be honest—I didn’t handle it well at first. But then, I made an intentional shift, one that changed everything. And here’s the thing: these shifts can’t just be surface-level fixes; they have to come from a deeper place.

In this episode, I’m sharing exactly what happened on that tough walk to school—what I got wrong, what I realized in the heat of the moment, and the shift that turned things around. We’ll talk about how easy it is to get stuck seeing only part of the sibling dynamic and why taking a step back can make all the difference.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the middle of sibling conflicts, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how to handle these tough moments in a way that brings more understanding, strengthens your connection, and helps everyone feel heard.

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The Invisible Mental Load of Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child – and 4 Shifts to Help You Lighten It

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Parenting is more than just the obvious tasks—it’s also the invisible mental load that weighs us down. From remembering appointments to keeping track of snacks, homework, and emotions, it feels like there’s always something to manage. In this episode, I’m sharing how overwhelming this can be and how it often feels like we’re carrying it all in our heads without a break.

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to carry this load alone, and it’s not sustainable to keep pushing through. Today I’m offering four key shifts that can lighten the load and help you create a more manageable routine that works for your family.

If the never-ending mental juggling is leaving you drained, you're not alone—and this episode is here to help you navigate it. Join me as I walk you through small changes that can make a big difference, and start creating space for yourself in the process.

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Parenting Reflections: Supporting My Highly Sensitive Child Through a Tough, Dysregulated Moment With a Simple (and Surprisingly Playful!) Approach

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 14 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Some nights just feel impossible—especially for our sensitive kids. After a long, busy day, my almost 4-year-old was completely unraveling. She was overtired, overwhelmed, and had just hurt herself in the car. Every little thing was setting her off, and no matter what I did, the tears kept coming.

In this episode, I’m sharing how I held space for her big feelings, even when it was hard. Most of us weren’t allowed to cry openly as kids, so watching our own children fall apart can bring up so much for us. But staying present in these moments, rather than shutting them down, is what helps our kids feel truly safe.

When nothing seemed to help, I made one final shift—and it completely turned things around. Listen in to hear what I did, why it worked, and how you can support your sensitive child through their toughest moments, too.

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Why Gentle Parenting Isn’t Working for Your Sensitive Child (& 3 Shifts to Help You Parent More Effectively!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Gentle parenting is often imagined as staying calm, speaking softly, and always keeping our cool—but that version of it just doesn’t work for highly sensitive kids. In fact, if you’ve ever tried to white-knuckle your way through frustration, you know it doesn’t help. Sensitive kids pick up on everything, and when we suppress our emotions, it can actually fuel more meltdowns, not prevent them.

In this episode, we’re challenging the idea that gentle parenting means never showing big emotions. It’s not about ignoring your feelings or forcing yourself to stay calm at all costs. Instead, it’s about being real—acknowledging your emotions, processing them in a healthy way, and modeling true emotional regulation.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at gentle parenting because you still get frustrated, this episode will be a game-changer. Let’s reframe what it really means to show up for our sensitive kids—without denying our own emotions in the process.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Deal When You’re Super Triggered: Here’s How I Recovered From a Tough Parenting Moment & Used It to Build Emotion Regulation

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 07 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

We all have those moments—something small happens, and suddenly, we’re way more upset than we “should” be. For me, it was a dirty towel placed back in the clean pile, and I couldn’t shake the frustration. Even though I knew it wasn’t really about the towel, I felt stuck in my reaction, and it was pulling me away from the kind of parent I want to be.

In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, why little things can feel so triggering, and what I did to reset (spoiler: it wasn’t just taking deep breaths). If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over something that seems minor, you’re not alone.

Parenting sensitive kids comes with big emotions—ours included. But when we understand our triggers and give ourselves space to regroup, we can show up the way we truly want to. Next time you’re feeling frustrated, try these simple shifts to reset, reconnect, and show up as the parent you want to be.

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The Truth About Meltdowns: Why They’re Not Just a Phase (& the Only Way to Truly Break Free from the Meltdown Cycle!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 05 Feb 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Many parents assume their sensitive kids will eventually outgrow meltdowns—but what if that’s just not the case? Today we’re diving into why big feelings don’t just disappear with time and why trying to fix or reason kids out of their emotions doesn’t actually help.

Meltdowns aren’t just overreactions to small stressors—they happen because kids have been holding in big emotions all day, and they don’t yet have the skills to manage them. The problem isn’t the feelings themselves but the lack of tools to process them.

So, what can we do? Tune in as we explore how to truly support our kids through meltdowns, helping them build the skills they need instead of just hoping they’ll "grow out of it." When we shift our approach, we create a space where our kids feel safe with their emotions—and that changes everything.

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Parenting Reflections: Brogan and Erik’s Journey: How They Went From Daily Meltdowns & Broken Furniture to a Thriving, More Connected Family (No More Walking on Eggshells!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 31 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Brogan and Erik felt like they were walking on eggshells in their own home. Their 5.5-year-old son’s emotions ran the house—meltdowns turned into full-blown chaos, furniture was broken, and they felt trapped in a cycle of frustration and helplessness. The arrival of their younger son only seemed to intensify things, and by the time he was two, they knew something had to change.

In this special client interview, Brogan and Erik open up about their experience in the Chaos to Connection program and the life-changing transformation that followed. They share how they went from dreading the next outburst to feeling confident in handling their son’s big emotions with calm and connection. What once felt overwhelming is now manageable, and their home finally feels like a place of peace.

Their story is proof that even the hardest parenting struggles can shift with the right tools and support. If you’ve ever felt like your child’s emotions are running the show, this episode will give you hope—and a glimpse of what’s possible when you lean into connection instead of control.

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What's the Difference Between High Sensitivity and Autism? Is My Highly Sensitive Child Neurodivergent? Understanding the Differences, Overlap, and Nuance to Best Support Your Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 29 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person? Is it the same as being neurodivergent or on the autism spectrum? These are tricky and sometimes controversial questions, especially when raising sensitive kids. In this episode, we’re unpacking what sensitivity really means and why it matters for kids and adults alike.

The thing is, labels aren’t about limits—they’re about understanding. By recognizing your child’s sensitivities (or your own), you can support them in becoming their best, most authentic self. Sensitivity isn’t a flaw; it’s often tied to incredible strengths and beauty.

Through evidence-based insights and practical guidance, we’ll explore how to truly support the sensitive people in our lives—whether that means helping kids manage big emotions or giving yourself space to recharge. With the right tools and a little compassion, sensitivity can be something to celebrate, not just navigate.

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Parenting Reflections: Why I Chose an Advanced Gymnastics Class for My Sensitive 3.5-Year-Old – Even Though It’s Not What Experts (Including Myself!) Typically Recommend

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 24 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Why would I enroll my 3.5-year-old daughter in an advanced gymnastics class when everything I believe—and most experts agree—says that activities at this age should focus on fun and exploration? Today I’m sharing the story behind this decision and why I chose to go against the grain.

This wasn’t an easy choice, and it certainly wasn’t about pushing my child to perform or excel. Instead, it was about following her lead, honoring her natural abilities, and recognizing when she was truly ready for a new challenge. Parenting sensitive kids often means rethinking the “rules” and trusting your gut, even when it feels unconventional.

And here’s the thing: While I still believe in fun, explorative play for young children, there are exceptions where a more structured path can be the right choice. It’s all about balancing their enthusiasm with the right support to help them thrive, even when it’s outside the usual mold!

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Extracurricular Activities and Sensitive Kids: When to Push, When to Pause, and Why It’s Worth It

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 22 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Extracurricular activities can feel like a battle when your highly sensitive child resists joining. Should you push them to participate, or let them sit this one out? In this episode, we’re diving into why extracurriculars are so valuable for sensitive kids, even when it feels easier to back off.

Big feelings like nerves, fear of failure, or overwhelm often come with trying something new—no wonder highly sensitive kids might resist! But these activities offer so much more: structure, confidence, and meaningful connection that can help them thrive.

Here’s the thing: those moments of discomfort can lead to incredible growth when handled with care. If you’re wondering how to navigate the push and pull of extracurriculars, tune in for practical tips and heartfelt encouragement to help your child embrace the benefits of sticking with it.

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Parenting Reflections: Surviving a 5-Week Break with My Highly Sensitive Kids: Tips, Tricks, and Moments That Got Us Through

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 17 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Winter break with highly sensitive kids can feel endless, especially when snow days extend time at home or school breaks stretch on. With my kids in year-round school, we’ve been navigating a five-week break, and I wanted to share how we’re making it through. From cozy moments to screen time challenges, it’s been all about staying grounded and finding balance.

I’ll share the strategies that have been keeping me (and my kids!) sane, from embracing a flexible routine to finding moments of connection that don’t involve elaborate activities. Plus, I’ll dive into how I handle screen time without the guilt, and what I’ve learned about making the most of those unexpected extra days off.

If you’re looking for practical tips and a dose of solidarity during this long winter break, this episode is for you. Let’s survive these extra days together while still finding joy in the season!

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How to Handle Power Struggles with Your Sensitive Child (Without Getting Pulled Into the Tug-of-War!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 15 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Power struggles with highly sensitive kids can be draining—but what if there’s a different way to handle them? In this episode, we’ll unpack why power struggles happen and what’s really going on beneath the surface. Hint: it’s less about “winning” or “losing” and more about understanding the underlying need for control.

These struggles often arise when sensitive kids feel the need to assert control, whether to feel secure or to avoid difficult emotions. While it’s natural for them to draw us into these moments, trying to overpower them isn’t the solution.

Here’s the thing: power struggles can be a chance to connect and guide your child instead of engaging in a standoff. Tune in to discover practical, effective strategies to step away from the tug-of-war, encourage cooperation, and make your child feel truly understood.

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Parenting Reflections: My Highly Sensitive Son Refused Soccer on Friday—Here’s How I Took a Step Back (& What I Learned About Connection)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 10 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Preparing for new activities with highly sensitive kids can be a rollercoaster of emotions—for everyone involved. This week, I’m sharing a personal story about getting my older boys ready for a soccer clinic they were excited to try. Despite their enthusiasm leading up to it, when the moment arrived, my oldest son completely refused to go.

In that frustrating and emotional moment, I had to pause, take a step back, and really consider what was happening beneath the surface. Was it anxiety? Overwhelm? Or something else entirely? I’ll walk you through how I handled it (and what I learned), offering insights for navigating similar situations with your own sensitive kids.

Sometimes, what looks like resistance is really just a sign that our kids need extra support. Join me for this honest reflection as we talk about staying calm, tuning into our kids’ emotions, and finding ways to move forward—without losing connection.

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Ditch “New Year, New You” Resolutions: 3 Simple Practices to Transform Your Parenting (& Life) Starting Today

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 08 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

New Year’s resolutions can feel like a recipe for burnout—big goals, grand gestures, and that all-or-nothing mindset that leaves us feeling defeated if we slip up. But what if we flipped the script and embraced a more sustainable, joyful way to welcome the new year?

In this episode, we’re rethinking resolutions and trading the pressure for practices that truly nourish us. From small shifts that spark gratitude to self-care habits that actually stick, I’ll share how to start the year feeling abundant and energized rather than overwhelmed.

Let’s leave behind the impossible expectations and focus on what really matters: creating space for joy, showing ourselves grace, and building a life we love—one intentional moment at a time.

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When Strangers, Family, or Friends Give Unsolicited Advice About How You’re Parenting Your Highly Sensitive Child: The #1 Mindset Shift You Need & How to Respond Confidently

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 18 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0500

It’s one thing to navigate the emotions of raising a highly sensitive child—but when someone else tries to parent your child or comments on how you’re handling things? That can feel downright triggering. Whether it’s a well-meaning family member, a friend, or even a stranger, these unsolicited opinions can leave you feeling judged, frustrated, or unsure of how to respond.

In this episode, I’m sharing the #1 mindset shift that can help you stay grounded when others question your parenting choices. We’ll talk about why these moments can feel so hard and how to handle them in a way that protects your child’s sensitivity while staying true to your parenting values.

From holiday gatherings to public outings, you’ll leave with practical tips for responding calmly and confidently to unsolicited advice. Let’s shift the focus back to what matters most—your connection with your child—and learn how to navigate these situations with grace and clarity.

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Parenting Reflections: The Holidays Aren’t Going as Planned—A Behind-The-Scenes Look at How I’m Handling It (& Why It’s Okay to Struggle When Everything Looks Perfect for Everyone Else)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 13 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0500

The holidays are filled with magic, but they can also be incredibly challenging—especially when life doesn’t go as planned, and you’re parenting highly sensitive kids. Today, I’m giving you a behind-the-scenes glimpse into what this season has looked like for my family.

From battling sickness to missing a beloved annual show and falling behind on decorating, it feels like everything is taking longer than I’d hoped. But I realized the truth is, the holidays don’t always go the way we envision, and that’s okay.

While it might seem like everything is picture-perfect for other families, the reality is often much messier. I’ll share how I’ve been navigating the chaos, finding little moments of calm, and holding onto joy amidst the overwhelm. Let’s explore how to show ourselves grace and embrace peace—even in the middle of the mess.

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3 Tips for Smoother Holiday Gatherings with Your Highly Sensitive Child (Even When Meltdowns Happen)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 11 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Holiday gatherings can be full of joy, but for highly sensitive kids, they can also bring a whirlwind of emotions—whether it’s anxiety about social situations or sheer excitement that leads to overstimulation. If your child has ever melted down on the way to a holiday outing (or once you’ve arrived), you’re not alone—and there are ways to navigate these moments with more ease.

Today, we’re exploring how to handle holiday meltdowns, from preparing your child before the event to calming strategies if things go sideways. You’ll get practical, parent-friendly tips to help your child feel more at ease, create smoother experiences, and stay grounded—even if things don’t go perfectly.

Here’s the thing: whether your child is feeling overwhelmed or overjoyed, those big feelings can quickly turn into a meltdown. But with a few shifts in your approach, you can help your child regulate, support them through tough moments, and enjoy holiday outings together.

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Parenting Reflections: Tanya’s Transformation: How a Single Mom of 3 Ended the Meltdowns & Healed Her Relationship with Her Highly Sensitive 10-Year-Old (Plus – Hear From Her Daughter, Too!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 06 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Ever wonder how life-changing a shift in parenting can be? In this special episode, I sit down with one of my amazing clients and her highly sensitive daughter to share their inspirational story. This single mom of three was stuck in the meltdown cycle with her daughter, feeling overwhelmed and disconnected. But through the Chaos to Connection program, everything changed.

Hear firsthand how this mom regained calm in her household, rebuilt trust, and created a positive, thriving relationship with her daughter. Even more powerful? You’ll hear her daughter’s perspective—the challenges she faced, what she noticed changed, and how their bond has grown stronger than ever.

This heartfelt conversation is a testament to the impact of embracing connection over chaos and shows that no matter how hard things feel, there’s always a path to peace. And don’t forget – an extra month of live support is ALL yours when you book your breakthrough session in December, and decide to move forward with the program! Listen in for all the details!

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The Real Reason You’re So Exhausted: Unpacking the Invisible Mental Load of the Holidays as a Parent to a Sensitive Child (& 3 Tips to Make This Season Feel Lighter!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 04 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0500

The holiday season is here, and while it’s full of magic and wonder, it can also feel like a whirlwind of to-dos, especially when you’re the one making it all happen. From gift shopping to planning gatherings to keeping traditions alive, the invisible mental load can quickly become overwhelming.

In this episode, we’ll explore 3 simple and actionable ways to lighten your mental load during the holiday hustle. These strategies will help you shift the weight off your shoulders, stay present with your family, and actually savor the joy of the season. Because while the details matter, your connection with your loved ones matters more.

Take a deep breath, grab a warm drink, and join me as we reimagine how to approach this holiday season. It’s time to prioritize your own well-being, enjoy the magic you’re creating, and rediscover the joy of this special time of year.

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What to Do When Your Sensitive Kid Refuses to Say “Thank You”: 5 Tips for Building Real Gratitude (Without Forcing It & Causing a Meltdown!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 27 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

It can be tough when your child refuses to say "thank you" after receiving a gift or kind compliment. In those moments, it’s easy to feel the weight of judgment as a parent, wondering what others might think. But there’s more happening beneath the surface. Let’s unpack why these moments can be so overwhelming for your child—and why their reaction often feels so triggering for you.

You’ll learn 5 practical strategies to help your child express gratitude in ways that feel safe and authentic for them while keeping the moment connected and positive. Plus, we’ll talk about how to handle your own feelings when your child resists saying “thank you.”

And don’t miss this Black Friday special: If you book your free breakthrough session for December and we decide the Chaos to Connection program is a fit for your family, you’ll receive an extra month of live support. Schedule your free call today and take the first step toward a calmer, more connected family!

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Parenting Reflections: How I Messed Up with My Oldest This Week (& How My Mistake Can Help You Avoid Getting Stuck in the Disconnection Cycle with Your Sensitive Child!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 22 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

We all have those parenting moments we’re not proud of—the ones where we lose our cool or miss the mark. So today, I’m opening up about one of mine. It happened just this morning with my oldest son, and let’s just say I didn’t exactly follow the advice I so often share with clients.

I’m sharing this story because I know I’m not alone in these messy moments. Together, we’ll unpack what was really going on, how my own emotions got in the way, and the mindset shifts I had to make to recover from this situation.

And spoiler alert: it wasn’t about him being “mean” at all, but about something much deeper that I almost missed. So sit back, relax, and hear an honest reflection on what it means to parent imperfectly, even when you “know better.” My story might even help you find some reassurance, and hope that you can always turn things around.

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“My Child is a Sore Loser!”: 3 Strategies to Help Your Sensitive Child When They Can’t Handle Losing

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 20 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Losing is hard for any child, but for a highly sensitive kid, it can feel like the end of the world. If you’ve ever seen your child crumble after losing a board game or storm off the field after a tough match, you’re not alone.

In this episode, I’ll share 3 practical strategies to help your child handle losing without feeling defeated or like they’re a "sore loser." From building emotional resilience to reframing what it means to "lose," these tips will empower both you and your child.

Here’s the thing: the big emotions that come with competition can actually be wonderful opportunities for growth. Learning how to navigate losing is an essential life skill, and you can be the steady guide your child needs. By taking these steps, you can help them move from frustration to confidence—and even find joy in the process, no matter the outcome.

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Parenting Reflections: 5 Things I’m Doing Right Now to Avoid Overwhelm, Support My Mental Health & Show Up as the Parent I Want to Be

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 15 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Today I’m getting real about how I cope when the world feels chaotic. With recent events—especially the election and so much happening in our communities—overwhelm is all too easy to feel. Instead of letting the stress pile up, I’m sharing the 5 small but powerful things I do to keep my mental health in check, even when things seem out of control.

These aren’t quick fixes but simple habits that help me stay grounded and present for my family. From focusing on what’s right in front of me to setting boundaries around social media, each tip has become a lifeline when the world feels heavy. These small shifts have helped me show up with calm and clarity, even on the toughest days.

If you’re feeling the weight of the world right now, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how we can stay steady in times of stress, and remember—our mental health matters, especially when we’re raising little ones in a fast-paced world.

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When Things Feel Stressful, Make Your World Smaller: Why Raising Resilient Kids Today Will Make a Better Tomorrow

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

This week, with all the election energy swirling around, I couldn’t help but think about the world our kids will grow up in—and how raising resilient children can truly make a difference. In times of collective stress and uncertainty, like what many of us are feeling right now, our kids will face a future that’s bound to be full of challenges. But what if they’re equipped to handle it all, with the strength and emotional intelligence to weather whatever comes their way?

In this episode, we’ll dive into 3 powerful reasons why resilience is a gift that goes beyond just our homes. It’s all about creating a foundation that will not only help them as individuals but also foster positive change in the world around them.

You see, raising resilient kids isn’t just about making their own lives easier—it’s about planting seeds for a better future. Join me as I share why resilience matters so much, especially right now, and how we as parents can lean into this mission with confidence and hope.

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Parenting Reflections: Breaking the Disconnection Cycle: Hannah’s Story of Complete Transformation That Made Parenting ‘Wonderful’ Again

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 08 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Hannah was a mom who felt stuck in an exhausting cycle of disconnection with her two young kids, especially her deeply feeling 4-year-old. Despite all her efforts, she struggled to create the peace and connection she so wanted in her home—and felt frustrated and overwhelmed in the process.

In this episode, I chat with Hannah about her transformative journey through the Chaos to Connection program. She opens up about how things shifted from daily battles to a space where parenting finally feels wonderful, and her family is thriving in ways she never thought possible.

Hannah’s story is an inspiring reminder that a different way of parenting is within reach, even if things feel challenging now. If you're ready for this kind of change in your family, join us to hear how Chaos to Connection made all the difference for her and might for you, too!

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'My Sensitive Kid is Rude to Strangers!' -- How to Guide Your Child Through Public Encounters Without Tears, Screaming, or Embarrassment

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 06 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

We’ve all been there: you’re at the store with your highly sensitive child, and a friendly stranger says “hello” or asks a simple question. But instead of a polite response, your child might blurt out “no!” or “I don’t want to smile!” Inspired by a listener’s question, let’s dive into why these encounters can feel overwhelming for sensitive kids and why they react this way.

We’ll talk about what’s going on beneath those big reactions, how overstimulation affects them, and why small interactions can feel like too much, too fast. It’s often less about rudeness and more about your child’s need for safety in busy settings.

Here’s the thing: it’s easy to feel caught off guard in these tricky moments, making it tough to offer your child the comfort they need. But with a few simple strategies, you’ll be ready to handle these situations with ease. Next time a stranger stops to chat, you’ll know how to turn the encounter into a confidence-building moment—for both you and your child.

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Parenting Reflections: My Sensitive Child Hit, Spit, and Called Me Names -- Here's Exactly How I Handled It to Build Lasting Emotional Resilience

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 01 Nov 2024 08:00:00 -0400

We’ve all had those days when we’re pulled in every direction, leaving little time to connect with our kids. In this week’s episode, I share a personal win: the story of my 3.5-year-old’s meltdown after a day spent mostly apart from me. Between school, work, and conversations with others, I barely had a moment with her—until her emotions came pouring out.

When those big feelings surfaced, I was pleasantly surprised to find myself staying calm and grounded instead of immediately feeling triggered. I drew on everything I’ve learned over the years to keep my cool and be present as she let out all her bottled-up emotions.

Sometimes, parenting wins aren’t about what we fix but how we show up in the moment. I was genuinely proud of how I handled this situation, which goes to show the importance of allowing our kids to process their big feelings without shutting them down. It’s a reminder that sometimes simply being there for them is more than enough.

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5 Ways You Might Be Shaming Your Sensitive Child Without Meaning to (& What to Do Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 30 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever feel like you’re saying all the right things, but your sensitive child still seems upset? Sometimes, without realizing it, our words or actions can bring up feelings of shame. In this episode, I’m sharing 5 ways we might be shaming our kids without meaning to—and why it’s more common than we think.

We’ll explore the subtle phrases and habits that may leave our kids feeling invalidated or misunderstood. It’s so easy to miss these moments, especially when we’re busy, stressed, or just trying to help our kids cope.

Here’s the thing: shame can slip into our parenting in subtle ways, and for our deeply feeling kids, it can have a big impact. The good news? A few simple changes can make all the difference! Tune in for practical, easy-to-apply tips to replace those unintentional shaming moments with words and actions that build connection, safety, and true validation.

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Parenting Reflections: How I Use 'Micro Connections' to Keep My Sensitive Kid Feeling Secure (Without Hours of Play)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 25 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Sometimes, it feels like we need to spend hours playing with our kids to fill their "connection cup"—especially when they're having a tough time. But what if there was another way? In this episode, I'm talking all about "micro connections"—those small but meaningful moments throughout the day that can make a big difference for your highly sensitive child.

I’ll share a few recent wins from my own life, showing how just a few seconds of connection here and there helped my child feel more grounded and secure, without requiring hours of one-on-one time. These micro connections are simple but incredibly effective, and I can’t wait for you to try them out.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the idea of needing endless hours to connect with your child, you’re not alone. These moments can be a game-changer in filling your child’s emotional cup while giving you more balance in your day.

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When the “Calm-Down Corner” Isn’t Enough: How Overusing Coping Skills Can Fall Short for Highly Sensitive Kids (& What Can Help Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 23 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

We've all been there: trying to help our highly sensitive kids use coping skills, only to realize they’re still overwhelmed. In this episode, I’m sharing why coping skills don’t always work for sensitive kids—and how you might be using them wrong without even knowing it.

It’s easy to fall into the habit of asking your child to use a coping skill to escape big emotions, but that doesn’t teach them to truly cope. I’ll explain why it’s so important to let your sensitive child feel their emotions and how to guide them through those feelings.

Here’s the thing: Highly sensitive kids feel emotions more deeply than others, and relying on coping skills alone can actually keep them from learning to process those big feelings. But with the right approach, you’ll help your child not just escape emotions but navigate through them with confidence.

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Parenting Reflections: How I Realized My Sensitive Kid Was Overscheduled (& How to Find the Right Balance for Yours)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 18 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Let's talk about the challenges of overscheduling, especially when it comes to highly sensitive kids. Sensitive children need more downtime to unwind and regulate, and without it, they can quickly feel overwhelmed. But how do you find the right balance?

I’ll share my own journey with my now 10-year-old son, who, after years of trial and error, has learned to recognize when he needs a break. You’ll hear how he’s even made the tough decision to skip fun events (like beach trips!) to get the rest he knows he needs.

If you’re struggling with keeping your sensitive child from feeling overwhelmed, or if you want to help them learn to choose downtime when they need it, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about why less can sometimes be more when it comes to scheduling for sensitive kids!

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Why Transitions are So Hard with Sensitive Kids (& 3 Things You Can Do to Make Them Go More Smoothly)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 16 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Transitions can be challenging for all of us, but for highly sensitive kids, they can feel overwhelming and intense. In this episode, we dive into why transitions are so tough for sensitive children and how their emotions are magnified during even the smallest changes. It’s more than just shifting from one activity to another—it’s a full emotional experience that often leaves them feeling unsettled.

But don’t worry, today you will hear 3 key strategies to help make transitions smoother for your sensitive child. These tips aren’t about controlling the situation but about guiding your child through it with empathy and understanding.

So, if you’ve been struggling with those tough moments when it’s time to move from one activity to the next, this episode is for you. Listen in to find out how you can support your child and help them navigate transitions with more ease.

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Parenting Reflections: 3 Mistakes I Made as a First-Time Mom to a Highly Sensitive Child (& How You Can Learn From My Mistakes!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 11 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Becoming a first-time mom is hard enough, but when you’re parenting a highly sensitive child, it’s a whole different ballgame. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 biggest mistakes I made as a new mom to my highly sensitive child – and trust me, I’ve learned a lot from them!

From trying to fix every meltdown to worrying too much about every little thing I felt I did wrong, I made some missteps that didn’t serve me or my child. But through it all, I discovered key lessons that helped me become the parent my child needed.

Tune in to hear my story, learn from my mistakes, and find out how you can avoid these common pitfalls while raising your own sensitive child. You don’t have to figure it all out alone!

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3 Reasons Validating Your Sensitive Child’s Feelings Isn’t Working (& the #1 Mindset Shift You Need!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 09 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

You’ve probably seen it all over social media – people saying that validating feelings just doesn’t work for highly sensitive kids. But is that really true? In this episode, we dive into why so many parents are frustrated with the idea of validation and why it often feels like it’s not working. Spoiler alert: It’s not about what you’re doing, but when you’re doing it.

I’ll share the 3 biggest mistakes I see parents make when trying to validate their child’s feelings. These common missteps can actually make things worse, leading you to believe that validation is pointless. But the good news? A few small tweaks can make all the difference.

Tune in for practical tips on how to make validation work for your highly sensitive child and learn when it’s the right moment to step in. You’ll walk away feeling confident about using validation to strengthen your connection with your child, rather than leaving you both feeling more frustrated.

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Parenting Reflections: Anna & Josh’s Story: How They Broke the Meltdown Cycle and Stopped Walking on Eggshells, Rebuilding Peace and Connection in Their Home

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 04 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Anna and Josh were really struggling with their highly sensitive middle daughter. Hour-long meltdowns and endless frustrations had taken over their lives. They spent their days walking on eggshells, constantly trying to calm her down without much success.

After going through my Chaos to Connection program, they saw a remarkable shift. Their daughter’s meltdowns have drastically reduced, and they’re able to connect with her in ways they hadn’t before. The transformation has brought a new sense of peace to their home.

Listen in as Anna and Josh share how they’re now able to enjoy time with their daughter and family without the stress and frustration. If their story resonates with you, book your free breakthrough call today, and we’ll help you navigate your journey with your sensitive child.

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Why You Don’t Need Lectures or Consequences to Teach Your Sensitive Child Not to Hit, Kick, or Say Unkind Things

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 02 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

We’ve all been there—when our kids hit, kick, or say something unkind, the instinct is to lecture or give consequences. It feels like the only way to teach them a lesson, right? But what if that approach is actually reinforcing shame and leading to more negative behavior?

In this episode, I explore why traditional discipline techniques don’t work for sensitive kids and can actually backfire. Instead of lecturing or punishing, I share a different way to help our children process their emotions and learn without feeling guilt or shame.

If you’ve ever struggled with how to handle these tough moments, this episode will give you practical insights and tools to better support your child’s emotional growth. And if you’re looking for more personalized guidance, don’t forget to schedule a free breakthrough call!

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Parenting Reflections: How I Navigated a Tough Dinner Meltdown with My Sensitive Child (and Still Managed to Have a Good Time!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 27 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever worry about taking your sensitive kids out, knowing a meltdown might be right around the corner? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent experience from a family dinner that didn’t go quite as planned. With my 3.5-year-old having had a long day and pushing past her usual bedtime, I knew it could be a challenge.

But with the right mindset and a little teamwork, we made it through by taking turns stepping up with her when things got hard. It wasn’t easy, but going into the situation with realistic expectations helped us stay calm and connected as a family.

Join me as I reflect on how we managed the evening, what helped us keep our cool, and how these small moments can be opportunities for growth, both for our kids and us as parents.

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5 Ways to NOT Raise An Entitled Kid (& How to Build REAL Resilience in Your Sensitive Child Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 25 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In today’s episode, the focus is on a topic that’s on so many parents’ minds: how to raise resilient, sensitive kids without fostering entitlement. With all the buzz about kids today being “too entitled,” this conversation challenges that narrative and offers a fresh perspective. The episode explores why emotional expression doesn’t equal entitlement, and how building resilience is key to helping kids thrive.

You’ll hear 5 practical tips for avoiding entitlement while still allowing children to feel and express their big emotions. These tips are simple shifts parents can make to raise kids who are confident, grounded, and able to handle life’s ups and downs without feeling entitled to special treatment.

If you’ve ever worried about finding the balance between nurturing your sensitive child and avoiding entitlement, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to foster true resilience, not just in your child but in your parenting approach too!

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Parenting Reflections: What My 7-Year-Old’s Insights After a Tough Soccer Practice Reminds Us About Building Confidence in Sensitive Kids

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 20 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this Parenting Reflections episode, I share a surprising moment from my son’s soccer practice that led to a powerful parenting lesson. What started as an ordinary practice turned into a deeper conversation about what it means to be a good coach, and how we can better support our kids when they face challenges.

This experience highlighted the importance of validation, compassion, and positive reinforcement in parenting. It was a reminder that moments like these are key to raising confident, resilient kids.

Join me as I break down this eye-opening moment and explore how we can foster self-compassion and positive growth in our children.

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3 Tips for Smoother School Drop-Offs with Your Sensitive Child (Hint: It All Starts With the Right Mindset!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 18 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Mornings can be especially tough when it comes to school drop-offs, particularly for sensitive kids. In this episode, I’m sharing 3 tips to help make those drop-offs smoother, from preparing your child ahead of time to adjusting your own mindset and energy when you arrive. A calm, confident parent can make all the difference for a child struggling to separate.

Sensitive kids feel emotions deeply, and their strong attachment to a parent can make it even harder to say goodbye. This episode breaks down why that happens and what you can do to support your child through it.

With the right approach, school drop-offs don’t have to be so stressful. Tune in to hear strategies that can help both you and your child feel more at ease when it’s time to part ways.

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Parenting Reflections: A Typical Day Parenting My 3 Sensitive Kids – a BTS Look at What Actually Matters (& Where You Can Save Your Energy!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 13 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

This week, I’m switching things up a bit and taking you behind the scenes of a typical day in my life. From the moment I wake up to the time my head hits the pillow, I’ll walk you through how I manage all the demands of parenthood, work, and life – and, spoiler alert, it’s not about spending hours on the floor playing with my kids.

Instead of the pressure to be constantly entertaining or engaging them, I’ve discovered something powerful: It’s not about the amount of time we spend, but the quality of those moments. I carve out intentional, meaningful connections that make me feel closer to my kids than ever, without having to be “on” all day long.

This episode is a reminder that true connection doesn’t require endless hours of play, but rather intentional moments that build strong bonds. If you’re feeling the pressure to do it all, this episode might just give you the permission to let that go.

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How to Communicate Effectively with Your Sensitive Child's Teacher for a Successful School Year with Jess Hammond -- Part 2

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 11 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In the second half of this insightful interview, the focus shifts to the heart of parenting and teaching. Discover ways to foster independence in kids with their schoolwork—encouraging it and handling challenges when they arise.

The discussion also covers the ever-debated topic of homework, offering perspectives on assignments and what truly supports a child's learning journey. Additionally, listen for practical advice on recognizing when a child might need extra support, like an IEP or 504 plan.

This episode wraps up the conversation with one of my favorite veteran teachers, leaving you with actionable takeaways to help your child thrive this school year!

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Parenting Reflections: How I Built Kindergarten Readiness in my Sensitive Kids (Hint: It Wasn't Through Flashcards or Letter Sounds!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 06 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Today I’m opening up about something that’s been weighing on me: the pressure to focus on academics at home. So many of us feel like we have to constantly teach our kids—whether it’s reading, letter sounds, or math—but I’ve learned that sometimes it’s okay to let that go, especially when it leads to resistance.

I’ve personally felt how tough it can be when kids push back on learning at home. Instead of forcing it, I made the choice to step back. Letting go of that pressure has been a relief for both of us, allowing space for connection rather than conflict.

Because here’s the thing: play is the real building block for learning and bonding with our kids, and it’s often overlooked. In this episode, I share how this shift has been a game-changer for me as a parent and has strengthened my relationship with my child in ways that an academic focus just couldn’t.

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How to Communicate Effectively with Your Sensitive Child's Teacher for a Successful School Year with Jess Hammond -- Part 1

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 04 Sep 2024 14:51:57 -0400

In this episode, I sit down with one of my closest, long-time friends, a dedicated teacher with 23 years of experience across almost every grade level. Together, we dive into the importance of building strong connections early in the school year between parents and teachers. She shares her unique insights, not just as an educator, but also as a parent to two elementary-aged children.

From an open discussion on parenting a child with ADHD to insights on how teachers manage tough situations, this conversation covers all the key topics you’ve been curious about. Whether you’re raising a highly sensitive child or simply aiming to kick off the school year smoothly, there’s something valuable in this episode for you.

And this is just the beginning! This conversation is so rich that we’re splitting it into two parts. So, tune in now for the first half, and be sure to come back next week for the rest of our discussion!

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Parenting Reflections: Amanda’s Story: How She Stopped Her Sensitive Child's Aggressive Behaviors & Cultivated Actual Calm in Just 4 Weeks

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 30 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, you’ll meet Amanda, a Chaos to Connection program client. She shares her powerful journey through the program, offering an honest look at the challenges of parenting a highly sensitive child. She opens up about her experience with her oldest child, who often struggled with big emotions that led to hitting and meltdowns.

But it wasn’t just her child who needed support—Amanda also recognized the importance of managing her own emotions. Through the program, she found practical strategies to stay calm and connected, even in the toughest moments.

This conversation is filled with real-life insights and relatable moments that every parent of a sensitive child will appreciate. Tune in to hear how Amanda turned chaos into calm, and if you are struggling, book a free breakthrough call to see how these tools can transform your parenting journey too.

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Mornings Made Easy: 5 Secrets for a Calm Start with Your Sensitive Child (Plus a Bonus Tip!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 28 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Mornings with sensitive kids can be tough, especially when the clock is ticking, and everyone needs to be out the door. In this episode, we’re tackling a listener’s question about handling those challenging school mornings. With 5 practical tips, plus a bonus strategy, you’ll find ways to be present with your child, allowing them to express their big feelings while still getting them ready on time.

These tips are all about finding balance—helping your child navigate their emotions without letting the morning chaos take over. From creating a calm routine to setting clear expectations, these strategies will help make mornings smoother for everyone.

So if school mornings have been a struggle in the past, this episode is here to offer support and solutions to help start the day on a positive note. Tune in to learn how to create a morning routine that works for you and your sensitive child.

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Parenting Reflections: The Bold Move That Eased My Sensitive Child’s School Anxiety (& Helped Him Go the Following Day With No Issue!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 23 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Today I'm diving into a personal story that I think many of you will relate to. Earlier this week, we explored how to support school refusal, and now I’m sharing how I put those strategies into action with my oldest child during his tough transition from second to third grade.

As a sensitive child who needs time to adjust to changes, the jump from one grade to the next felt overwhelming for him. I had an idea that seemed like a gamble, but I decided to take the risk. It turned out to be exactly what he needed, and this unexpected approach helped him prepare for the next day of school in a way that surprised us both.

Join me as I walk you through exactly what I did and how it played out. This episode is all about embracing the challenges of parenting sensitive kids and finding those moments where connection and understanding can truly make a difference.

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When Your Child Says ‘I’m Not Going!’: How to Support School Refusal in Sensitive Kids

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

This week, we’re diving into one of the biggest back-to-school challenges for sensitive kids: those tough mornings when they just refuse to go. After you catch last week’s episode on preparing your child for the school year, join us here as we dive into the emotional and sensory overload that makes school such a challenge for our sensitive kids. From absorbing stress from others to handling the chaos of a busy school environment, it’s no wonder they struggle with the transition.

In this episode, we’re tackling what to do when your child says, “I’m not going!” and you’re left feeling stuck. We’ll walk through practical, compassionate strategies to help your child feel more secure and ready to face the school day, even when the morning starts with tears and resistance.

If school refusal is hitting close to home, you won’t want to miss this episode. Let’s make those tough mornings a little bit easier, one step at a time.

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Parenting Reflections: My Top 10 Parenting Revelations: Lessons from a Decade of Motherhood

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 16 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this special Parenting Reflections episode, I’m sharing something close to my heart – 10 truths I’ve discovered in my first decade of motherhood. As my oldest just turned 10, I’ve been reflecting on the lessons I’ve learned along the way, from the importance of making real, meaningful connections with our kids to embracing the hard parts of parenting.

These truths have shaped who I am today, teaching me to be proud of the parent I’ve become and reminding me that we get the exact kids we need, even when doubts creep in. It’s about authenticity, self-discovery, and realizing that quality time is more about connection than the hours we spend.

Tune in to hear all 10 of these truths and how they can resonate in your own parenting journey. Whether you're just starting out or deep into the parenting trenches, these reflections will offer a fresh perspective and maybe even a little encouragement along the way.

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Navigating Back-to-School Anxiety: 5 Practical & Actionable Tips for Sensitive Kids

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Kicking off a special series on the back-to-school transition for sensitive kids, this episode dives into 5 practical tips to make the shift from summer to school smoother. From preparing emotionally to setting routines, these strategies will help set your child up for success as the school year begins.

Back-to-school season can be tough on sensitive kids, with worries and anxieties making the transition even more challenging. But by laying the groundwork early and creating a supportive home environment, you can help your child feel more confident and secure before the first day.

And if back-to-school meltdowns are a concern, don’t miss our previous episode on handling them, plus a free resource linked below. Stay tuned for more tips and support in the coming weeks to make this transition as stress-free as possible for your sensitive child!

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Parenting Reflections: Real Talk with My Husband on Parenting Sensitive Kids, Balancing the Mental Load, & How Marathon Training Prepared Us for Parenting

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 09 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this special Parenting Reflections episode, we’re shaking things up with a surprise guest – my husband! After the excitement of the 100th episode, we’re diving into an honest and candid conversation about the realities of parenting together, especially when it comes to raising highly sensitive kids.

We explore the challenges and decisions we’ve faced as parents, how we’ve navigated the mental load, and the ways we’ve intentionally built a true partnership instead of defaulting to one primary parent.

But the real fun? Hearing my husband share his thoughts on the art of "dad decisions" in the chaos of parenting. From paternity leave to making those big (and small) calls, he brings a refreshing perspective you won’t want to miss. Tune in to end this milestone week with a dose of humor, honesty, and heart!

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100 Episodes of Raising Resilient, Sensitive Kids: Our Most Downloaded Parenting Advice

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 07 Aug 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Raised Resilient family – we’ve made it to 100 episodes! This milestone is all about celebrating our journey together, and I couldn’t be more excited to share it with you. In this special episode, we’re diving into the top 5 most downloaded episodes – and let me tell you, they’re also some of my personal favorites. From tackling aggressive behaviors to validating big emotions, these episodes have struck a chord with so many of you.

Join me as we take a fun trip down memory lane, revisiting these impactful episodes and sharing the moments that made them stand out. It’s the perfect chance to catch up on any gems you might have missed or to refresh your memory on those game-changing strategies.

And here’s a little teaser – don’t miss Friday’s episode because we’ve got a surprise guest joining us for some extra fun! Let’s celebrate this 100-episode milestone and get ready for some fantastic upcoming content, including back-to-school tips and more!

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Parenting Reflections: Connection Over Correction: My Weekend Parenting Win (Without A Power Struggle!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 12 Jul 2024 08:00:00 -0400

We've all been there... just when you thought you had things under control and couldn't be surprised again, your highly sensitive child throws challenging behaviors at you seemingly out of nowhere. In this episode, I’ll dive into how to stay present in the moment, stay curious about their behavior, and avoid power struggles, especially when these behaviors pop up unexpectedly.

Over the weekend, fresh from a trip out of town (a stressor for my kids), I faced a bedtime battle with my oldest. Refusing to get ready for bed, he was on the verge of a meltdown. With one surprising tactic, I helped him regulate and get ready for bed without a power struggle. Discover how choosing connection over punishment made all the difference.

Tune in to hear the full story and learn how you can apply these strategies in your own home. Plus, don't miss the next (milestone!) episode – it's our 100th, and I've got a special, fun-packed show planned that you won’t want to miss!

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Screens & Sensitive Kids Part 2: 5 Tips for Managing After-Screen Meltdowns

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 10 Jul 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Are meltdowns common when screen time ends for your highly sensitive child? You're not alone. This week we are diving into part two of our series on Sensitive Kids and Screens, focusing on why these meltdowns happen and how to manage them effectively.

Here’s the thing: screens can cut off emotions, which is why sensitive kids might gravitate towards them to avoid uncomfortable feelings. But when screen time ends, those emotions come flooding back. Learn why this happens and how to help your child transition smoothly.

Tune in to discover 5 practical tips for managing screen-time meltdowns and keeping your child emotionally balanced. And don’t forget to check out my revamped and totally free guide for Mastering Meltdowns, which will help you handle a meltdown step-by-step as it is happening. Click the link below for your copy today!

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Aida’s Parenting Transformation Story: From Disconnected & Overwhelmed to Empowered & Confident in Just 8 Weeks

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 28 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, you’ll meet Aida, a mom of two, who went from feeling completely disconnected and overwhelmed to feeling confident and connected with her highly sensitive daughter. Throughout the interview, you’ll hear Aida's inspiring story of overcoming challenges and finding peace of mind in her parenting approach.

Aida shares how she shifted from feeling like a failure to truly showing up for her children in a meaningful way during her time in my Chaos to Connection program. She discusses the steps she took to break the cycle of her own childhood trauma and create a nurturing environment for her family.

Tune in to hear Aida's transformative journey and discover how you can apply her experiences to your own parenting. If you are parenting a highly sensitive child while also trying to overcome childhood trauma, Aida’s story will reassure you that you are not alone. And if you are struggling in your journey, click the link below for a totally free breakthrough call with me to see if my program could be a good fit for your family.

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Screens & Sensitive Kids Part 1: 5 Tips to Help You Set Your Child Up for Screen Success in 2024

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Is screen time taking over your child’s routine? In this episode, we're diving into part one of a two-part series on setting up your highly sensitive kids for success with screens. It's easy for screen time to increase (especially during school breaks!), but don't worry – I've got 5 tips that can help you manage it effectively.

Screens can suppress emotions and sensory processing, cutting off feelings while we scroll – and kids are no different. Learn how to navigate this tricky terrain to ensure your child stays emotionally balanced and engaged, even during screen time.

Tune in to get these game-changing strategies— Plus, don’t miss next week’s part 2 episode for handling meltdowns when screen time is ending. And remember, if you're struggling with parenting your sensitive child, my Chaos to Connection program is here to support you. Book a breakthrough call and start transforming your family dynamics today!

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Parenting Reflections: Parenting Without Punishments: How It Actually Looks in Real Life (& Why It's So Important for Sensitive Kids!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 21 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Wondering what to do instead of punishing your highly sensitive child? You landed in the right place. This episode uncovers why punishment isn't the best route and shares practical alternatives for long-term success.

Here's the deal: Any approach that pits us against our child creates an unsafe environment and stunts positive development. By managing tough moments without punishment, we build safety and connection that truly lasts.

From lost soccer balls to poolside incidents, hear my personal stories on how avoiding punishment leads to better outcomes. Gain big wins with actionable tips that support your child's growth and strengthen your bond.

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“What if My Co-Parent Isn’t On Board?”: How to Navigate Different Parenting Styles Through a Divorce (& Even If You’re Still Together!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Have you felt stuck between different parenting styles in a divorced relationship? Or even in a current relationship? This week’s episode dives into a listener’s question about supporting your child when a co-parent doesn’t parent the same way. It’s a common struggle, so this episode aims to offer valuable insight.

You see, allowing each parent to parent their own way is crucial, though it can feel even tougher for a highly sensitive child. But with a little courage and a lot of validation, you can reach a point of encouraging your child to maintain their own unique relationship with each parent.

Tune in to learn how to navigate these challenging dynamics and find a balance that helps your child thrive. And if you need more support, check out past episodes where you’ll find more about co-parenting.

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Parenting Reflections: My #1 Ultimate Hack for Encouraging More Independent Play

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 14 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever find yourself relying on screen time to keep your little ones occupied? In this episode, I share the magical trick I discovered this past weekend that encouraged my 3-year-old to play independently for longer stretches. It’s all about creating an environment that supports independent play, without resorting to endless TV hours.

Creating a developmentally appropriate play space is crucial, and I dive into how easy it can be to fall into the screen time trap out of sheer desperation. But what if one simple change could transform your child's playtime and give you some much-needed breathing room?

Tune in to uncover the game-changing fix that made a world of difference in our home. This episode will inspire you to make small, impactful adjustments that foster independent play and reduce screen time, all while supporting your child's growth and creativity.

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Understanding Sibling Dynamics: 3 Game-Changing Insights for Parents of Highly Sensitive Children

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever notice how sibling dynamics shift when one child is highly sensitive? In this episode, we dive into this intricate family dance. Sibling conflict is normal and healthy, but it can get pretty triggering—especially with a deeply feeling child in the mix.

If your family has been impacted by one (or more!) child's deep feelings and sensitivities, this episode will offer fresh insights into those sibling dynamics. I’ll reveal three eye-opening ways a highly sensitive child can alter sibling relationships and share practical tips for managing the big emotions.

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Parenting Reflections: My Story of Navigating a Meltdown in Real Life (Even the Messy Parts!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 07 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Picture this: One hot afternoon, my kids and I were playing outside when an argument erupted, causing one of my sons to storm inside in a fit of rage. Have you been there before too? It can be so hard trying to remain calm while managing HUGE emotions, and keeping your child from doing any real harm.

But, we were able to get through this with one silly game, and two ice pops. Tune in to this personal episode about the effect of transitions, sibling rivalry, and regulating anger. Here’s the thing: Even meltdowns are an opportunity for creating connection, and I’ll let you in on how I did it.

And if this sounds all too familiar and you’re desperately seeking change within your family, schedule a Breakthrough Call to see if my Chaos to Connection program would be a good fit for your family. We’ll talk through all things raising sensitive kids together and I’ll point you in the right direction. Click the link below to hop on my schedule!

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Addressing Unkind Words to Friends: A Listener’s Question About Highly Sensitive Kids

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Recently, a thoughtful listener sent in a question about their child being unkind to a friend. Seeing kids be mean to their friends can be incredibly triggering, stirring up fears about their ability to maintain friendships in the future or even worries about them being alone. But it’s important to remember that kids are still learning. They might not have enough life experience to predict how someone will react without trying it out.

You see, sometimes kids will say things like "I hate you" out of curiosity rather than anger, just to see what happens. Instead of shaming them, or telling them not to do it again, we can instead ground ourselves in a developmental perspective. We can get curious about why a child said those words and ask questions to understand their experience.

Because here’s the thing: when we validate our highly sensitive child’s experience and emotions, they feel much more comfortable to continue talking about these experiences in the future. There is always room for compassion! And, don’t forget to check out my brand new resource: “10 Things Your Highly Sensitive Child Needs You to Know” (linked below), if you want to get even more inside the brain of your highly sensitive child.

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Parenting Reflections: Why Fun Outings Can Lead to Stressful Evenings with Highly Sensitive Kids (+ a New Resource!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 31 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever taken your kids on a fun outing, only to face meltdowns once you get home? In this episode, I share my personal experience with this all-too-common scenario amongst highly sensitive children.

Recently, I took my 3 kids to an off-Broadway production of The Lion King. We had an amazing time, but on the car ride home, traffic hit, and chaos ensued. It was frustrating and triggering, especially after such a fun day. This experience reminded me that even the best outings can be stressful for our highly sensitive kids. They often hold it together during the excitement but release all their pent-up emotions once it's over.

Tune in as I share a couple of tips to make your outings feel more successful and enjoyable for everyone. Plus, I introduce a new free resource: "10 Things Your Highly Sensitive Child Needs You to Know." This guide is a game-changer, helping you understand and support your highly sensitive child like never before. Click the link below to download your free copy right away!

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3 Tips for Managing After School Moods (& Reconnecting With Your Highly Sensitive Child!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 29 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Feeling dread when it’s after school pick-up time? If you’re a parent of a highly sensitive child, you know exactly what I mean. The meltdowns, snarky responses, and tears can feel inevitable. It’s because, as their safe attachment figure, your child feels secure enough to let out all their pent-up emotions from the day once they see you.

I recently shared an Instagram reel about this very struggle, and it hit home for so many parents. Highly sensitive kids often get stuck in a dysregulation cycle, where they’re overwhelmed and end up releasing all those big emotions right after school.

In this episode, you’ll hear 3 tips that are tried and true for preparing for and managing school pickup with your highly sensitive child. These strategies can make this transition smoother for both you and your child, turning after-school dread into a more manageable part of your day. And if you feel your struggles are reaching new levels, let’s connect! Book a free breakthrough call below and we will discuss what’s working and what’s not in your parenting journey.

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Parenting Reflections: From Chaos to Peace: Shilpa's Transformation Story

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 24 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Shilpa was an overwhelmed mom of 4 kids under 5 who had tried everything — even quitting her job — to fix what wasn’t working in parenting (especially with her highly sensitive oldest child). From negative self-talk to beginning to dread each morning, Shilpa felt she had exhausted all her options, and she began to desperately seek change.

In this week's episode, I interview Shilpa about her family’s experience in my Chaos to Connection program. Hear her share how her home now actually feels peaceful, and she’s happy about how she’s parenting for the first time ever.

Shilpa’s story will help you realize you are not alone. If Shilpa’s story resonates with you and you are tired of the daily struggle, let’s talk! Click the link below and schedule a free Zoom session with me where we’ll talk about what’s working in your parenting & what might not be, and how Chaos to Connection might be a good fit for your family.

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3 (Totally Normal!) Thoughts You Might Be Afraid to Share Out Loud as a Parent of a Highly Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 22 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we dive deep into three shame-inducing thoughts that many parents of highly sensitive children experience. Drawing from my program and countless conversations with parents, I share the common worries and fears expressed by those seeking support.

It’s true, many of us didn't have our emotional needs met as children, leaving us unsure of how to help our own kids regulate their emotions. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and the misconception that we're the only ones struggling with these dark thoughts. I discuss the three main thoughts I frequently hear during initial calls with prospective clients and how these thoughts often make parents feel like they're held hostage by their child's emotions.

You see, here’s the thing: this does not have to be your reality. This episode will show you that you are not alone. I've been there too, and I know that resilience and healthy communication skills can transform your family dynamics. And if you are struggling and this sounds like you - book a free call. We will come up with a plan of action together so you feel better able to handle any thoughts coming your way.

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How We Conquered Disney with Highly Sensitive Kids (& Had the BEST Time!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 17 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

In this Parenting Reflections episode, I share a candid account of my family's recent trip to Disney World. With three highly sensitive kids in tow, we made extra efforts to ensure their comfort and enjoyment. From splurging on Genie+ to booking separate rooms for better sleep, every decision was made with their needs in mind.

Flexibility was key as we embarked on each day, knowing that plans might need to shift or a child might require a break. I discuss the steps we took to anticipate and manage potential meltdowns, from recognizing triggers to providing downtime when needed.

Listen in as I recount the highs and lows of our Disney adventure, including sibling squabbles, thrilling new rides, and the heart-wrenching loss of a beloved stuffed animal. And don't forget to check out my previous episode on vacationing with kids for more tips and insights!

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The Power of Rough & Tumble Play: Nurturing Resilience in Sensitive Kids

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 15 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered if rough and tumble play is right for your highly sensitive child? In this episode, we dive into why it's not only okay but also crucial for their growth and development. I share four ways rough and tumble play can benefit highly sensitive children, from building resilience to fostering social skills.

But safety first! Of course it is important to monitor play sessions, ensuring boundaries are respected, and promptly addressing any injuries. With the right supervision, rough and tumble play can offer invaluable opportunities for physical, emotional, and social growth.

Tune in to hear practical tips on setting up your home environment to encourage this type of play, including choosing age-appropriate toys and creating safe spaces for exploration. Don't miss this episode on why rough and tumble play is an essential part of childhood, especially for highly sensitive children.

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Parenting Reflections: Discovering Your Own Sensitivity as a Parent of a Highly Sensitive Child (& How to Embrace It!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 10 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Did you ever realize that your child's high sensitivity might be a mirror reflecting your own? In this episode, I take you on a personal journey back to my own childhood, where I grappled with being highly sensitive, often feeling overwhelmed by emotions and retreating to my room to cry when things felt too intense.

I share the shame and isolation I felt growing up, feeling too much and too deeply, and how these experiences initially left me confused and easily hurt. It wasn't until I became a parent to a highly sensitive child that I began to truly understand and appreciate the depth of my own feelings.

In this episode, we'll explore how recognizing your own sensitivity can illuminate your parenting path and deepen your connection with your child. Here’s the thing: it’s important to recognize sensitivity not as a burden, but as a superpower. I’ll let you in on a secret – when we recognize sensitivity as a superpower, we can pay more attention to how we respond to big feelings, which equals a more nurturing and supportive family environment.

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Navigating Public Meltdowns With Your Highly Sensitive Child (& a Giveaway!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 08 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever been in the middle of a store when your child suddenly has a meltdown? It's tough, right? In today's episode, I share a personal story about my own son's public meltdown and how I managed to navigate that situation.

You see, there’s a difference between a child giving you a hard time, and having a hard time. The shame and anger you may feel during a public meltdown are valid, but what if we could shift those feelings all together, and instead think ahead to handling the meltdown more efficiently?

For this, I’ll provide three practical strategies to help you prepare for and handle public meltdowns. And listen further for a chance to win a sensory kit of your choice from Young, Wild & Friedman!

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Parenting Reflections: Breaking the Cycle: Confronting the Role of the ‘Default Parent’

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 03 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Do you feel like all the parenting responsibilities just automatically end up on your plate? You're not alone. In this episode, I dive into my own journey as the 'default parent,' a role I slipped into almost without noticing when we had our first child. As I stayed home and stepped away from my career, I found myself managing everything from night feedings to daily outings, never having a moment to myself.

I quickly became overwhelmed and exhausted with the weight of parenting on my shoulders. I even felt resentful towards my husband. But, this one realization allowed me to recognize that it wasn’t either of our faults, and there was a way to shift the dynamic.

Here’s the thing: You can continue silently bearing the weight of parenting for both partners. Or, you can begin to shift and make lasting changes. Addressing the default parent syndrome earlier can transform your relationship with your partner, and enhance family life for everyone involved. Tune in to learn how to start this essential conversation and take steps towards a balanced parenting partnership.

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Rethinking Child Therapy: 5 Reasons Why It May Not Be the Best Approach for Highly Sensitive Children

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 01 May 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever considered therapy for your highly sensitive child, hoping it might be the key to managing their meltdowns and aggressive behaviors at home? If so, this episode offers a different point of view along with 5 reasons that may change your mind.

As a former play therapist and owner of a private practice, I've worked with many highly sensitive children who behaved picture perfect during sessions. And yet, the stories I'd hear from their parents painted a very different picture, one filled with emotional outbursts and challenges. This led me to a crucial realization about therapy and highly sensitive children.

Here’s the bottom line: traditional child therapy might not be the best approach for highly sensitive kids. Why? It all comes down to the parent-child relationship. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear my opinion on the best route of intervention, and why being your child’s safe figure can help set your child up for long-term success.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Rediscover Yourself with Solo Travel (& 3 Key Benefits for Parents!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 26 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever dreamed of taking a trip alone, stepping away from the daily grind of parenting to just breathe and be yourself? If the idea sounds like a distant fantasy, this episode is for you. Last weekend, I took a life-changing solo trip across the country—yes, just me, no kids, no parenting responsibilities—and it was nothing short of magical.

In today’s episode, I dive into why taking time for yourself isn't just a luxury—it’s essential. We'll explore 3 crucial benefits of having a solo break for yourself as a parent. It’s true the rejuvenation that comes from taking that break from parenting duties gives you space to recharge and reconnect.

And most importantly - you’ll hear why reconnecting with yourself as an individual and a whole person can be life-altering. Because let’s face it: parenting is hard, and parenting highly sensitive children can feel challenging. But the enormity of parenting does not have to feel overbearing. This episode could be your sign that adventure is waiting, and it can be transformative!

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How to Navigate Sibling Jealousy During Birthdays (& 3 Strategies to Support Your Highly Sensitive Child!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 24 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever noticed your highly sensitive child getting jealous when it’s a sibling’s birthday? You’re not alone - it’s tough to see them struggle during what should be a fun family celebration.

In this podcast episode, we get personal about sibling jealousy, especially around birthdays. We’ll explore why these feelings aren't actually about selfishness, but rather deep, complex emotions, and I’ll share 3 practical strategies that have worked in my own family to help manage these big feelings.

Here’s the thing: Your highly sensitive child is actually craving connection in these jealous moments -- and once you understand that & have strategies that center connection, you'll be able to both support your child in these tough moments and also teach valuable skills for handling big emotions in the future.

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Kelsey & Cody’s Story: How a Family Turned Chaos, Meltdowns & Prior Medical Trauma Into a Peaceful Home Life

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 19 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Kelsey and Cody were desperate for help with their four-year-old daughter and two-year-old twin boys. After their daughter dealt with medical issues at a young age, their twins were welcomed during the pandemic and their home quickly felt overwhelming and chaotic.

In this Friday’s episode, I interview Kelsey and Cody about their family’s experience in my Chaos to Connection program. They both share their experiences beginning the program and seeing immediate changes in their family system, and finding connection with their children that they felt they lost a long time ago.

Kelsey and Cody’s story will inspire you and show you that you are not alone. As a family with a history of medical trauma and multiple kids all at young ages, their story provides hope that things can get better, and change is waiting to happen. And if you relate to the struggle in their story - let’s talk! Click the link below to schedule a free 45-minute Zoom session with me where we will talk about your current parenting issues and if this program could be a good fit for your entire family.

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How to Stop Walking on Eggshells When Saying “No” to Your Highly Sensitive Child (And the 3 Alternatives You Can Do Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 17 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever noticed how it can be really difficult for your highly sensitive child to hear the word “no”? If you are nodding along, you are not alone! In this podcast episode, we tackle this parenting challenge by talking about the 3 things you can do to help your highly sensitive child accept “no” as an answer.

Highly sensitive children often struggle hearing “no” because it brings disappointment. This is a tough and uncomfortable emotion! But here’s the thing: by creating a structured boundary around the word “no”, you can break free from the cycle of meltdowns and arguments following a “no” response.

It is possible to stop feeling as if you are always walking on eggshells, attempting to protect your child from the word “no” and the emotions it brings. Following these 3 alternatives can help transform those challenging moments into opportunities for growth and connection.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Decode Your Highly Sensitive Child’s Meltdowns & Get to the Root Cause of Huge Reactions to Trivial Triggers

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 12 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Ever wonder why your highly sensitive child loses it over seemingly trivial things? You are not alone. In this podcast episode, we get to the bottom of your child’s meltdowns, and what you can do to avoid frustration and help yourself and your child regulate when feeling tough emotions.

Picture this: your kids spend the night at Grandma and Grandpa’s, only to return and have a simple swing session turn into a full-blown meltdown. Hear the full story AND a practical solution to a problem that might be taking over your home.

Because, here’s the thing: meltdowns exist when your child tries to hold in their big emotions, and they reach a point of not being able to hold it in any longer. You CAN change this - discover a way to reassure your highly sensitive child without dismissing their emotions as excessive or “too much”, but instead as welcome and a natural part of their experience.

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Navigating Perfectionism in Highly Sensitive Children: 3 Invaluable Tips for How to Respond to Your Child’s “I Want to be Perfect” Voice

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 10 Apr 2024 14:25:18 -0400

Ever found your highly sensitive child in tears over a small mistake, convinced they've ruined everything? It's a tough spot, right? In this podcast episode, we're diving deep into perfectionism in highly sensitive kids. Picture this: your child ripping up their artwork because they believe they've made an irreparable mistake. Sound familiar?

Listen as we explore three invaluable strategies for responding to these moments with grace and understanding. You will learn how to validate your child's feelings of perfectionism while also guiding them toward a healthier perspective on mistakes and imperfections.

Here’s the thing: highly sensitive children are even more prone to experiencing feelings of wanting to be “perfect.” Through this episode you can learn how to acknowledge your child’s desire for perfection without letting it overshadow their self-worth. You’ll hear tips for fostering resilience and self-compassion, allowing you to navigate perfectionism with confidence.

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Parenting Reflections: Navigating Parental Anger: Here’s My Simple but Powerful Tool to Regulate After Losing Your Cool

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 05 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

If you've ever found yourself losing your temper with your children, then this podcast episode is exactly what you need. We've all been there, right? Moments where frustration boils over, and we end up yelling at our kids because they simply won't cooperate, like refusing to go to sleep at bedtime.

But here’s the good news: in this episode you’ll hear how I experienced losing my cool with my daughter last week, and how I was able to gather myself after; all because of one simple but powerful tool. And the even better news, it’s more simple than you would think!

What’s important to understand is that anger is a normal and valid emotion. Our nervous systems should not always be regulated - but rather, they should be able to regulate again after an intense emotion. This tool will not only teach you how to bring your nervous system back to its norm, but to handle future anger with compassion, and foster a healthy relationship with your highly sensitive child along the way.

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Does Your Highly Sensitive Child Worry Constantly? Why Reassuring Your Anxious Child Is the Worst Thing You Can Do (& What to do Instead to Master Anxiety!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

If you're grappling with your child's anxiety and feeling lost in how to support them, this podcast episode is a must-listen. It's tough knowing how to handle our children's worries, especially when we feel like we're supposed to fix everything, right?!

Wrong. Most of us feel as if we need to immediately fix feelings of anxiety, but in actuality, we are perpetuating and invalidating those emotions. In this week’s episode, hear a refreshing perspective on dealing with childhood anxiety: instead of rushing to eliminate it, we're encouraged to validate and understand it.

Let’s take a deep dive into the importance of acknowledging and accepting a child's anxiety as a natural part of life. By creating a safe space where their feelings are validated, you can help your highly sensitive child build resilience and learn healthy coping mechanisms that last a lifetime.

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Parenting Reflections: “Why Are You Being So Mean?!”: How to Get Curious About Even the Most Challenging Behaviors

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 29 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Sometimes our kids say or do things that seem downright MEAN, and it’s really tough to know how to respond. In these moments, it’s easy to lose sight of the good kid underneath the challenging behavior, and it’s easy to react in big and unhelpful ways.

In this week's episode, I share a story from my own parenting where I had to get curious and really look for the need underneath challenging behavior. I share my own struggles and how, once I was truly able to get curious, I uncovered the REAL reason for the behavior.

Here’s the thing: When our kids say and do things that seem mean or manipulative or otherwise hard to understand, there’s always a reason – and it’s never just that you have a mean-spirited, bad kid! When you can truly get curious, you’ll open up a whole new reality in your relationship with your highly sensitive child.

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Trying to Get Your Child to “Calm Down” or “Stop Overreacting”? Here’s Why That’s Actually Making the Meltdowns Worse

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 27 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

When your child is constantly getting upset over the smallest things, it can be hard to truly welcome their feelings. And so often, we *think* we’re welcoming and validating – but we’re actually making things worse and creating even more meltdowns.

In this week's episode, I share 3 not-so-obvious ways we inadvertently make meltdowns worse with our highly sensitive kids. I dive into each of these and help you understand why they’re unhelpful and shift into a more helpful mindset and approach.

Here’s the thing: It can feel challenging to truly allow your highly sensitive child to feel their feelings – and we can worry that those feelings will become a bottomless pit if we do. But in truth, allowing your child to feel all their feelings is the key to moving past the cycle of constant meltdowns..

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Parenting Reflections: Are Your Kids Fighting Constantly? My #1 Tool for Diffusing Sibling Conflict (Without Going Into Referee Mode!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 22 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

If your kids are constantly arguing (like mine are), this is an episode you won’t want to miss. It can be so hard to know how to help our kids work things out when they’re screaming at each other across the room and getting more upset by the second, right?!

In this week's episode, I share a tool that we’ve been using in my family for awhile now – and it’s so simple it’s impossible to do it wrong. It’s called The Perspective Game, and there’s literally just one rule. And as a bonus, this is a game that will help build skills your kids will need for life.

Here’s the thing: Sibling conflict is super normal and even healthy … but there are a few things our kids do need from us in these tough moments to help them learn conflict resolution skills, build emotion regulation, and ultimately be able to handle tough moments in relationships someday when they’re out in the world on their own – and that’s exactly what this game will help you do!

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“Go Away, Mommy!”: How to Respond Effectively When Your Highly Sensitive Child Pushes You Away When They Need You Most

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 20 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Has your child ever told you to “go away!” … but then gotten super upset when you actually tried to give them space? Yep, mine has too. It’s so hard to know what you’re supposed to do in those moments!

In this week's episode, I unpack why highly sensitive kids tend to push us away when they need us most – and what we can do to respond effectively in these moments. I also show you how to know the difference between the times when your child needs you to stay despite their pushing you away … and the times where your child actually does need some space.

Here’s the thing: Highly sensitive kids WILL push us away when they need us most – it’s a self-protective unconscious response. But when we know how to respond effectively, we can avoid triggering their worst fears and making the situation harder than it needs to be.

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Natasha’s Story: How An Overwhelmed Mom Helped Her Highly Sensitive 4-Year-Old Ditch Meltdowns and Aggressive Behaviors & Get Her “Spark” Back

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 15 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Natasha and her family were really struggling; their 4-year-old highly sensitive daughter was having daily meltdowns, showing aggressive behaviors toward her baby sister, and resorting to destruction (like slamming a door and breaking a spice rack full of glass) in really tough moments.

In this week's episode, I interview Natasha about her family’s experience in my Chaos to Connection program. She shares how, almost immediately, the dynamic in her family started to shift, and she started to “see a spark” in her child that she hadn’t seen in literal years.

Natasha’s story will inspire you and help you see that you’re not alone. And if your highly sensitive child is struggling like her daughter was, let’s talk! Click the link below and schedule a free Zoom session with me where we’ll talk about what’s working in your parenting & what’s not – and we’ll figure out together whether my program is a fit for your family.

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Constantly Yelling at Your Child? Why Trying to 'Stay Calm” Is Setting You Up to Fail (& What to Focus on Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 08:00:00 -0400

As parents – especially in the gentle, respectful, conscious parenting space – we’re constantly told that we have to “stay calm” in order to be effective with our kids. But sometimes staying calm feels unreachable, and it’s easy to feel like you’re failing in those moments.

In this week's episode, I unpack why it’s so hard to stay calm in the face of your child’s dysregulation and why focusing on this alone sets us up to fail. I then share what to focus on instead and how to set yourself up for success with realistic expectations.

Here’s the thing: There’s a lot working against us as parents when it comes to staying calm, and it can be a LOT. If you shift your focus just a little, you'll be setting yourself up to feel effective and connected as a parent, even in the hard moments!

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Parenting Reflections: 'Go Away and Die, Mommy!': How to Respond to Mean Words from Your Highly Sensitive Child (Without Losing Your Cool!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 08 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0500

“I hate you!” “You’re the worst!” “I don’t love you!” These words are SO hard to hear … especially when they’re coming from your child!

In this week's episode, I walk you through how I handled it when my daughter recently told me to “go away and die.” I share my knee-jerk reaction and also how I shifted my mindset to show up more effectively for her.

Here’s the thing: Our kids will say mean things sometimes as a way to push us away or to help us understand the depth of their anger. Once we understand what’s really going on in these moments, we can respond effectively, and the unkind words will diminish over time.

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Raising a Strong-Willed, Anxious, or Perfectionistic Kid? What These 3 Kids Have in Common (& How to Understand Your Child Better!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 06 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0500

What do strong-willed, hesitant / anxious, and perfectionistic kids have in common? It might seem like nothing at face value … but actually, all three of these behavioral patterns have the same roots.

In this week's episode, I share how being a strong-willed child, a child who tends to hesitate or be slow to warm up, and a child who tends toward perfectionism are all connected. I give examples of what each of these behavioral patterns looks like and then also help you understand how these patterns are all connected to being highly sensitive.

Here’s the thing: Human beings will go to great lengths to avoid discomfort – and this is especially true for our highly sensitive / deeply feeling kids. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to identify how your child is coping (or not!) with the discomfort of big emotions.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Respond When Your Highly Sensitive Child's Feelings Don't Make Logical Sense

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 01 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Have you ever said something to your highly sensitive child, but your child heard something completely different than what you meant? These miscommunications are tough no matter what, but they can lead to huge emotions for highly sensitive kids.

In this week's episode, I bring you behind the scenes of my own parenting life and share a miscommunication I had with my son and things unfolded for us that morning.

Here’s the thing: Our kids’ feelings might not always make logical sense to us, but it’s our job to trust those feelings and trust that they matter, even when we don’t get it.

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Why Your Highly Sensitive Child’s Sensitivity is Actually Their Superpower

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 28 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

If you’re stuck in a cycle of meltdown after meltdown, it’s probably tough to see that your child’s sensitivity can have an upside. But I promise you it does!

In this week's episode, I uncover the many positives of being highly sensitive, and I help you think about how to nurture these wonderful qualities in your child – while also working to help lessen the meltdowns.

Here’s the thing: Being highly sensitive is a wonderful thing – it’s just that most kids don’t know how to hone and nurture their secret superpower. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how to help them do just that.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Handle Birthday Meltdowns with Your Highly Sensitive Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 23 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Have you ever had a wonderful, special day planned for your highly sensitive child – maybe for their birthday or a holiday – but they end up having meltdowns all day long?

In this parenting reflections episode, I share how I navigated my daughter’s big feelings on her birthday. I also reflect on the grief inherent in parenting and watching our kids grow into new versions of themselves each year.

Here’s the thing: Birthdays and special days can be tricky for highly sensitive kids; the excitement and fun can quickly spell overwhelm. But with the right mindset and preparation, you can still have a great day with your child!

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The #1 Reason Your Highly Sensitive Child Has Meltdowns

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

If you’re parenting a highly sensitive child who’s struggling, you know how hard it can be. But have you ever wondered WHY your child might be struggling?

In this week's episode, I share the one common key idea underneath most struggles highly sensitive children face. So even if your child has a meltdown over something different every day, this common idea is always at the root of it.

Here’s the thing: Once you understand the WHY behind the meltdowns, you’ll be so much better able to help your child in tough moments, and today’s episode will help you do just that.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Regroup When You’ve Had a Rough Parenting Day (Yelling, Losing Your Cool, and Feeling Shame)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 16 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Have you ever had one of those parenting days where you just keep messing up and making parenting mistakes? You yell at your child, you lose your cool, and you feel guilt and shame and like you don’t know how to get back on track?

In this week's episode, I bring you behind the scenes of my own parenting life and walk you through a day where I yelled, called my son “mean” and “a terrible brother,” and ultimately just felt off my parenting game. I share what happened, why I was actually primed to make these mistakes that day, and how I recovered and got my family back on track.

Here’s the thing: We ALL have those days where we get it wrong more than we get it right, and knowing how to recover from those days is EVERYTHING. Because when we know how to recover and repair after yelling and losing our cool, we leave our relationship with our highly sensitive child even stronger than it was before our mistakes.

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Managing Separation Anxiety: Expert Tips for When Your Highly Sensitive Child Won't Let You Leave

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

We’ve all been there: You’re desperate for a date-night with your partner or some time to yourself … but your highly sensitive child won’t leave your side without a massive meltdown – complete with hitting, kicking, and screaming – at the mere mention of you going out.

In this week's episode, I share 3 game-changing strategies to help your highly sensitive child tolerate the distress of separating from you. These tips are simple, effective, and easy to implement – so get ready for that much-needed date night!

Here’s the thing: Highly sensitive kids often struggle with separation; they have a tough time tolerating the distress of being away from you. But with the right strategies, you’ll become a pro at helping your child feel safe & connected to you, even when you’re apart.

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Parenting Reflections: How to Handle it When Your Child Says “I’m a Bad Kid”

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Fri, 09 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

What do you do when your highly sensitive child insists that they’re “a bad kid” or that they’re “stupid?” How do you handle it without making things worse?

In this week's episode, I share a story from my own real-life parenting where my child insisted that he was a bad kid, and I initially handled the situation in a way that made things worse. I also share what I did to repair my mistake and how I eventually helped him with these uncomfortable feelings.

Here’s the thing: Our highly sensitive kids often feel intense shame, especially when they make a mistake or feel as though they’ve disappointed us. Helping them tolerate their feelings of shame often requires us to go against our instincts – but once you understand what to do in these moments, you’ll be so much better able to support your child and build real resilience.

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5 Not-So-Obvious Signs Your Child is Highly Sensitive

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 07 Feb 2024 09:00:00 -0500

After a much longer break than I planned, Raised Resilient with Dr. Hilary is back! Moving forward, my focus is going to be on helping you parent your highly sensitive / deeply feeling / emotionally intense child effectively.

In this week's episode, I share five not-so-obvious signs that may indicate your child is highly sensitive and help you understand why highly sensitive children often present in these ways.

Here’s the thing: Recognizing these signs of high sensitivity in your child is key to parenting them effectively, helping them thrive emotionally, and building resilience. And if you're still not sure, click the link below to take my FREE quiz!

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Why I’m Taking a Short Break from Podcasting (& Why You Should Take a Break from Something Too!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 08:00:00 -0400

I can’t believe it’s been almost *exactly* a year and a half since I started this podcast. It’s been an absolute honor & a super fun adventure so far. And honestly, I’m really proud of the fact that I’ve delivered a new episode every Wednesday morning without fail for 18 straight months while raising 3 kids and running a therapy practice!

In this week’s episode, I share why I’m taking a short break from podcasting, when I’ll be returning, what exciting things you can expect from this show once I return, and why taking a break is sometimes the most important thing we can do.

Here’s the thing: Sometimes we need to slow down in order to speed up, and that’s exactly what this break is allowing me to do. I’ll miss being here with you these next few weeks, but I cannot wait to come back refreshed & ready to share some exciting new episodes and adventures with you!

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Practical Tips to Make Time for Exercise as a Busy Parent with Lauren Chante

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 02 Aug 2023 08:00:00 -0400

As busy parents, we’re all trying to fit in self-care around the 24/7 job of caring for our kids. It’s not easy, and sometimes it can even feel impossible to make time for things like exercise when you’re raising little kids.

In this week’s episode, I talk with Lauren Chante – wellness strategist, former celebrity personal trainer, and mom of 3 – about how you can ensure that you move your body each day, even if you feel like you have zero time and no childcare.

Here’s the thing: We can’t care for others if we’re not taking care of ourselves. As busy parents, we absolutely have to find ways to prioritize ourselves, and after listening to today’s episode, you’ll have practical ideas for making your fitness a priority (without spending hours in the gym or having to have childcare).

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How to Know if Your Child is Kindergarten Ready (& Why “Kindergarten Readiness” is Probably Not What You Think It Is!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Kindergarten readiness has become a whole thing. There are flash cards, online programs, and books all designed to ensure that your child is ready for kindergarten (and the messaging is that you should get started pretty much as soon as your kid can walk). It’s enough to make your head spin!

In this week’s episode, I tell you why you actually don’t need books, programs, or flash cards – and I share 3 things you DO want to focus on during the toddler and preschool years to ensure that your child is truly ready when it’s time to start kindergarten.

Here’s the thing: Most of what your child needs to be “kindergarten ready” is happening naturally through play and exploration. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how you can support these already-unfolding processes (and what you can stop worrying about!).

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4 Reasons You Should Let Your Child be Bored (& How to Deal With Boredom)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Most parents dread the inevitable “I’m bored” from our kids. Those words can conjure up feelings of guilt for us as parents, and we might feel compelled to jump in and suggest a list of activities or organize a craft or put on a movie.

In this week’s episode, I share four reasons why you should resist the urge to jump in and instead just let your child be bored. I also talk about how to hold space for the discomfort of boredom and how to support your child through it.

Here’s the thing: Boredom is – despite the discomfort it brings! – actually a good thing! Kids need to feel bored sometimes, and after listening to this week’s episode, you’ll know why that’s true, and you’ll also have a game plan for the next time your child is bored.

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4 Tips to Encourage Your Child to Play Independently More Often (& For Longer!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0400

As parents, we all want our kids to be comfortable with independent play – but how do we actually get there, especially if your child is resistant to the idea of playing alone?

In this week’s episode, I share four tips to help you encourage your child to play independently more often and for longer. This is a wonderful thing, not only because it’s exactly what your child needs for healthy development – but also because it gives you a much-needed and well-deserved break!

Here’s the thing: Kids need independent play, but sometimes it can take some getting used to, especially at first. After listening to today’s episode you’ll feel ready to support your child in playing alone more often and for longer!

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Traveling with Kids: 5 Tips to Make Your Next Family Trip Less Stressful

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 05 Jul 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Traveling with kids can be amazing … but it can also be stressful. Long car rides, plane trips with strangers, schedule changes, busy days, and later bedtimes can spell challenges, especially with toddlers and preschoolers.

In this week’s episode, I share five tips to make your next family trip feel less stressful and flow more smoothly. I talk about how to prepare yourself and your child – and how to shift your mindset so that even hard moments don’t feel quite so hard.

Here’s the thing: Family trips can be exciting and full of amazing memories, and with a little planning and the right mindset, you’ll be able to enjoy traveling with your kids (almost!) as much as a child-free vacation.

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The Benefits of Unstructured Outdoor Play (& How to Get Your Child Outside!) with Allana Robinson

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 28 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Getting kids outside is truly magical. Fresh air can calm a fussy baby, support emotion regulation, and provide the context change you need on a long day of parenting. And letting kids explore the outdoors *without* structured activities has SO many benefits!

In this week’s episode, I talk with Allana Robinson – registered Early Childhood Educator and Developmental Specialist – about the many benefits of unstructured, independent outdoor play. We cover the logistics of getting kids outside (including weather & safety concerns), how to embrace unstructured outdoor exploration, and why it’s so important to let your child play outside as often as possible.

Here’s the thing: Outdoor play is amazing for children’s growth, development, and learning – and the less we intervene & structure our children’s outdoor adventures, the better.

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Water Safety for Kids: 5 Tips to Keep Your Child Safe (& Why This Topic Is So Important to Me!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 21 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Summer is here (in the northern hemisphere at least!), and for a lot of families, summer means swimming! But we can’t talk about water play without also talking about water safety. It’s not fun to think about, but drowning is the leading cause of death for children 4 and under – so it’s really important that parents know how to keep kids safe in & around water.

In this week’s episode, I share my family’s story – the reason I’m so passionate about water safety. I also share 5 tips to help you keep your child safe in the water this summer.

Here’s the thing: Thinking about water accidents can feel scary, but there’s actually a lot we can do as parents to keep our kids safe. I hope this episode feels empowering to you and you feel ready to be around water safely with your child after listening!

Infant Swimming Resource (ISR) Find an Instructor Near You: https://www.infantswim.com/lessons/isr-lessons.html

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How to Get Your Child to Talk to You (Even About the Hard Stuff!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 14 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0400

We all want our kids to feel safe coming to us when they’re struggling. We want them to talk to us about their problems, tell us how they’re feeling, and generally keep us up to date on their lives. But how do we create the sort of parent-child relationship where our kids feel safe sharing even the hard stuff with us?

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s wondering exactly this, particularly as her pre-teen sons inch closer to adolescence. I uncover the single most important thing we can do to foster a relationship where our kids feel safe sharing even the hard stuff with us – and I share my 5 tips for becoming the kind of listener that will keep your child talking to you, even about the hard stuff.

Here’s the thing: Our kids need us, especially when they’re struggling. But sometimes as parents we inadvertently do things that make our kids feel hesitant or even unsafe sharing tough stuff with us. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how to listen so your child will feel comfortable talking!

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What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Child’s Friend

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 07 Jun 2023 08:00:00 -0400

What should you do when your child comes home from school and tells you that her “best” friend ignored her today? Or that his long-time buddy said unkind things to him? Or that nobody wanted to play with them during recess? These are tough moments for parents; we often want to step in and fix the situation – but there’s a more helpful way to respond.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener struggling with how to best support her 7-year-old daughter, who has a friend who’s kind one day and mean the next. I dive into how we can best support our kids through difficult friendship dynamics – and I share the one thing we should NOT do if we want our kids to keep talking to us about their friendships.

Here’s the thing: Each and every friendship our child has is a learning experience. When our kids tell us about their friendships and we offer our support – instead of advice, ultimatums, or solutions – our kids will have the space to notice (in their own bodies!) how different friendships feel. Only then can they truly decide which friendships to keep and which ones to let go.

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How to Find Balance in Parenting, Life & Hormones with Dr. Brooke Kalanick

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 31 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Parenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do … and it’s almost impossible to show up to parenting the way we want to if we’re not prioritizing ourselves & our own wellness. But how do we do this in the midst of the busyness of raising kids?

In this week’s episode, I talk with naturopathic medicine doctor and women’s hormone expert Dr. Brooke Kalanick about how to figure out your priorities, how to balance parenting and other parts of your life, and how to know when your hormones are out of balance (it’s easier than you might think!) and what to do about it.

Here’s the thing: Taking care of ourselves IS taking care of our families, and in order to truly care for ourselves and our families, we have to take on some necessary stress. The key to living in balance is having an understanding of your priorities and knowing how to manage your stress in a healthy way – and in this episode, we talk about how to do just that.

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Dr. Brooke’s Podcast (The Dr. Brooke Show): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-brooke-show/id1124755635

Get Your Copy of Hangry: https://www.amazon.com/Hangry-Simple-Balance-Hormones-Restore/dp/1250620732/

How to Introduce Your Baby / Child to a New Pet: 4 Tips for a Smooth Transition

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 24 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

We just got a new puppy, and it’s been amazing … but there have also been challenges – especially when it comes to introducing our toddler to her new furry friend. This transition in our family inspired me to record this episode to help YOU should you decide you’re ready to adopt a new pet!

In this week’s episode, I share 4 tips for introducing your baby or child to a new pet. I talk about how we’ve navigated the transition with our kids – ranging from 2 to 8 – and how to ensure a safe and healthy beginning … and the foundation for a beautiful friendship between your child and your new pet.

Here’s the thing: Getting a new pet is a wonderful experience, but it can also be stressful and challenging at times – and it can bring up ALL the feelings in our kids. This transition – like all family transitions – will be so much smoother if we know what to expect and how to handle it.

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The #1 Negative Thought Pattern that Keeps Parents Feeling Stuck & Disconnected

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 17 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

I talk all the time about how our mindset affects our parenting; the lens through which we view ourselves and our child in tough moments makes the difference between a reactive power struggle and a connective learning opportunity.

In this week’s episode, I share the #1 negative thought pattern that I’ve seen in my work with parents. This negative thought pattern keeps parents stuck in blame and shame, makes us feel disconnected from our child, and renders it nearly impossible to parent effectively. Sounds pretty undesirable, right? Well, don’t stress – in this episode, I teach you how to identify when you’re in this negative thought spiral and how to pull yourself out of it!

Here’s the thing: It’s easy to get pulled into negative thinking, especially when you’re a stressed out parent! The key is knowing how to identify, stop, and replace these negative thoughts with more helpful, true thoughts – and in this week’s episode, I’ll show you how to do exactly that!

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4 Practical Ways to Manage Parenting Stress with Elizabeth Andreyevskiy

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 10 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Parenting is stressful. But what if we could widen our window of tolerance for parenting’s most stressful moments? What if we could tolerate more … while reacting LESS? What if we could implement strategies ahead of time to help us show up the way we want to as parents?

In this week’s episode, I talk with Elizabeth Andreyevski, a stress coach who helps overwhelmed parents reduce their mental stress so they can respond to their kids with patience & calm. We talk about why parenting feels so stressful, and Elizabeth shares 4 proactive ways to feel less stressed & prioritize our own needs without guilt.

Here’s the thing: Parenting is always going to be stressful – kids are always going to be loud, push back on our limits, and test our patience. We can’t change kids being kids … but we CAN actively fill our cups so that we can tolerate the hard moments without reacting in ways that don’t feel good. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how to do that!

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Emotionally Healthy Legacy Podcast: https://www.emotionallyhealthylegacy.com/podcast

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How to Respond to Aggressive Behavior in Older Kids

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 03 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Hitting, kicking, and other aggressive behaviors can be super challenging for parents – but when your child is too big to pick up, handling these behaviors gets even trickier.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s struggling to know how to help her 7-year-old son when he’s angry and hitting; he’s too big for her to easily pick him up, and his behavior is frustrating for the whole family. I talk about why aggressive behaviors in our older kids can feel especially challenging – and how we can respond effectively.

Here’s the thing: Aggressive behaviors can happen at any age; kids of all ages can get so overwhelmed that their feelings fly out of them in the form of hits, kicks, and pushes. And responding effectively to these behaviors starts with having the right mindset.

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Connecting with “Big Kids”: How to Build & Sustain Healthy Relationships with Older Kids, Tweens & Teens

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0400

We talk a lot about connecting with our little kids – our babies, toddlers, preschoolers, and young kids. But as our kids grow, changing developmental needs & behaviors can sometimes make it feel more challenging to connect with them.

In this week’s episode, I dive into how your relationship with your child changes (and how it stays the same!) as your child grows. I share tips for connecting with your older kid, preteen, or teenager and help you shift your mindset so that you can show up for your “bid kid” in a way that feels good for both of you.

Here’s the thing: As our kids grow, it can seem like they don’t need us as much – and that perception can create unnecessary distance in the parent-child relationship. But actually, our older kids, tweens, and teens need us just as much (and maybe even more!) … just in different ways. And once you understand what your child really needs from you, you’ll be that much more able to meet those needs.

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Responding to Fears of the Dark & Other Common Bedtime Struggles

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0400

How should parents respond to common bedtime struggles like children refusing to stay in their rooms, continually begging for one more story, or sharing that they’re suddenly afraid of the dark? Why is bedtime such a struggle for some families? And what can we do to help?

In this week’s episode, I answer all of these questions and then some. This deep dive into toddler and big kid bedtime struggles will help you understand why bedtime is such a struggle sometimes, what kids really need at bedtime, and how to respond to fears of the dark.

Here’s the thing: When our kids go to sleep, they’re embarking on the longest separation they have from us all day. It’s a big deal! But with the right perspective, tools, and strategies, you can make bedtime more peaceful for everyone involved.

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Beyond Sleep Training or Co-Sleeping Forever: Finding the Baby Sleep Middle Ground with Rachael Shepherd-Ohta

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0400

“How do I get my baby to sleep?” If you’ve ever Googled that question at 3am, you’re not alone. Sleep (or lack thereof!) is one of the most stressful parts of becoming a parent. It doesn’t help that the conversation around sleep is incredibly polarized; it can feel like you’re stuck with either “cry it out” or co-sleeping forever.

But actually, there’s so much middle ground when it comes to baby sleep! And in this week’s episode, I talk with Rachael Shepherd-Ohta – certified sleep specialist and the voice behind Hey, Sleepy Baby – about exactly that. Rachael shares tips for more sleep, how to know what’s normal when it comes to babies and sleep, and when to see your pediatrician.

Here’s the thing: Baby sleep is a developmental milestone, and every baby is different when it comes to how they progress in their sleep journey. But if you’re currently in a situation where no one’s sleeping, you don’t have to stay stuck there! There are sleep solutions that will feel good for you AND your baby.

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Gentle Parenting with Babies: 5 Tips to Build Emotion Regulation from the Start

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 05 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0400

The days are long when you’re caring for a baby; the first year can feel like a blur of rocking, bouncing, and singing (and very little sleep!). But the work you’re doing during that first year is SO important … and YOU are so important to your baby!

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s wondering: How do you co-regulate with a baby? How do you implement gentle / respectful / conscious parenting with our tiniest humans? I share 5 tips to help you make sense of the many ways we’re co-regulating and building emotion regulation – literally from birth.

Here’s the thing: You’re doing the super important work of building emotion regulation from the moment you first hold your baby. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll have a solid understanding of the many ways you’re connecting and co-regulating, even when you might not realize it!

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Talking to Kids About Hard Things episode: https://www.raisedresilient.com/podcast/bonus-episode-talking-to-kids-about-hard-things-supporting-children-in-the-aftermath-of-a-school-shooting

“Mom Rage” episode: https://www.raisedresilient.com/podcast/36-lets-talk-about-mom-rage-parenting-rage-4-reasons-youre-losing-it-constantly-amp-what-you-can-do-about-it

Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/

Welcoming a New Baby: 6 Tips to Help Your Older Child Adjust to Their New Sibling

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 29 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Welcoming a new baby is a HUGE transition for everyone involved – especially for older siblings! As parents, we all want to support our older child in bonding with their new baby sibling – but a new baby is a LOT of work, and we often feel unprepared for exactly how hard this process can be.

In this week’s episode, I share six tips to support you as you help your older child adjust to having a new sibling. I share the reasons this transition is SO hard on our older kids and how you can support them now and as their sibling grows.

Here’s the thing: Growing your family can be a wonderful thing, but your older child might not feel great about it right away. Your older child (and your family as a whole!) will adjust with time & the right support, which you’ll know how to provide after listening to this week’s episode!

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“How Do I Get My Partner On Board with Gentle Parenting?” with Bryana Kappadakunnel

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 22 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Do you ever feel like you and your partner are on two totally different pages when it comes to parenting? Maybe you’ve fully embraced gentle / conscious / respectful parenting, but your partner feels strongly about using punishments. Maybe you’re arguing constantly about how to handle tough parenting moments.

If you can relate, you’re not alone! In this week’s episode, I talk with fellow licensed therapist Bryana Kappadakunnel about how to get on the same page with our partners when it comes to parenting. We talk about why it can feel so triggering when our partners make parenting mistakes, how to handle it when we disagree, and the single most important thing we can do each day to get aligned with our partners around parenting.

Here’s the thing: It’s not our job to get our partners “on board” with our way of parenting. We can’t control anyone else, and when we try to do that, we don’t model a healthy relationship dynamic for our kids. When we can instead get curious and lean into connection in these moments (sound familiar?!), we can see massive shifts in our partnerships and our parenting.

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Bryana’s website: https://www.consciousmommy.com/

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”Does Gentle Parenting Actually Work?” Responding to a Skeptical Partner

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 15 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0400

If you’re like most parents, you entered parenting knowing only the punishments-and-rewards approach your own parents used. But along the way, many of us have learned about gentle / respectful / conscious parenting. We’re intrigued, but we also wonder: Is gentle parenting actually effective? And when we raise our kids without punishments, are we preparing them for the real world?

In this week’s episode, I respond to a listener whose partner is asking these exact questions (which makes this a fantastic episode to share with anyone in your life who’s skeptical about gentle parenting!). I normalize this skepticism in the context of how most of us were raised – and I share why gentle parenting will absolutely prepare our kids for real world challenges.

Here’s the thing: It can be really hard – and even downright painful – to give our kids what we weren’t given, and we’re bound to get triggered in the process. But if we understand what’s actually happening in these moments (and that it has nothing to do with our kids!), we can better meet their needs and raise them in a way that actually prepares them for the real world.

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Why Play is Your Child’s Most Important Job (& How it Supports Healthy Child Development!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Jean Piaget said that “play is the work of childhood,” and he was definitely right about that. Play is literally your child’s most important job. We often place more importance on academics, but the truth is that kids learn SO much more through play than through structured learning, especially when they’re really little.

In this week’s episode, I dive into why play is so important and give examples of how you can support your child’s need to explore the world through play. I talk about how to prioritize play, how to respect your child’s need to play, and how to use play to support your child during tough moments.

Here’s the thing: Play truly is your child’s most important work. And in order to truly support that work, we need to understand, respect, and allow space for it to happen regularly – all of which you’ll be totally prepared to do after listening to this week’s episode!

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Intuitive Eating for Kids: How to Help Picky Eaters & Heal Food Trauma with Bekah Groop

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 01 Mar 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Is your child a picky eater? Are mealtimes the most stressful part of the day? Do you worry about whether your child’s nutrition is adequate or whether they’re getting enough veggies? If this is you, you’re not alone! Feeding kids can feel really stressful sometimes … and that’s even more true if you’ve got your own issues with food.

In this week’s episode, I interview Bekah Groop – fellow peaceful parenting educator / content creator, mom of 3, and eating disorder survivor – on how to ditch the mealtime stress and instead teach our kids to be intuitive eaters who tune into & listen to their bodies when they eat. Bekah’s insight will have you stressing less about meals and feeling empowered to feed your child in a simpler, more joyful way.

Here’s the thing: Most of us carry our own food struggles – influenced heavily by diet culture – into parenting, and that can make feeding our kids feel heavier & more difficult than it needs to be. But we can heal our own food trauma and nourish our kids at the same time by tuning into our bodies and embracing intuitive eating.

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3 Invaluable Parenting Truths I’ve Learned Through Creating a Parenting Podcast (One Year Anniversary Episode!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Raised Resilient with Dr. Hilary officially turns ONE this week! This means that it’s been a full year since I started this podcast. I wasn’t sure where this journey would take me (and I had no idea what I was doing), but I trudged ahead anyway, with a makeshift recording studio in my closet, a mic, and some serious passion for parenting & supporting parents.

In this week’s episode, I reflect on the journey that creating this podcast has been, and I share 3 invaluable parenting truths that I’ve learned along the way. I also give a preview of what you can expect from season two, including the introduction of guest episodes (and I’ve got some good ones lined up, so stay tuned!).

Creating this podcast has been one of my proudest accomplishments and favorite things I’ve done to date, and I’m so grateful that you’ve been a part of it! At the time of this writing, the podcast has already amassed 30,000 downloads and counting. And best of all, making this podcast each week has made me a better mom and a better person. So thanks for being here, and stay tuned for season 2, which starts next week!

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“My Child Won’t Share Her Toys on Play Dates”: Responding to Challenging Behaviors After a New Sibling is Born

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 15 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

I get so many questions about challenging behaviors – not wanting to share, hitting and kicking, “clingy” behaviors, refusing to listen – that occur in the days, months, and years after a child becomes a big sibling. And while most parents acknowledge that getting a sibling is a big deal, we often don’t realize that our child’s challenging behaviors are connected to this major life shift.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who wants to know how to help her young daughter, who’s struggling on play dates. She doesn’t want her peers to play with any of her toys, and that often causes friction. I offer thoughts on how to handle these tough moments – and I also offer some perspective and thoughts about how our listener can reconnect with her older daughter.

Here’s the thing: Getting a sibling is a really big deal for kids, and it’s a big deal for a lot longer than most of us think it should be a big deal. Many, many times, challenging behaviors are connected to this huge life transition, and we can best support our kids by reconnecting with them and helping them process and regulate the tough emotions that come with being a big sibling.

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Do Kids Actually Need Play Dates & Preschool? An Overview of Social Development for Toddlers Through Teens

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 08 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Meeting your child’s social needs can feel confusing. Parents often feel pressured to create a full schedule of play dates starting in babyhood … and then we feel frustrated when our older kids – especially our teens – only want to spend time with their friends. So what do our kids *actually* need in terms of social development and peer interactions, especially as they grow and change?

In this week’s episode, I give an overview of healthy social development from toddlerhood through the teen years. I talk about why young kids don’t actually need playdates (and what we need to focus on instead!) and help you think about your child’s most pressing social needs, no matter their age.

Here’s the thing: Social development starts from birth – but what our kids need most depends on their developmental stage. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know what YOUR child needs most right now (and in the future!) to support healthy social development.

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“Why Is My Child’s Behavior Good at School and Bad at Home?!”: Unpacking This Common Dynamic

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 01 Feb 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Your child is a star student – literally a teacher’s dream. But then she comes home from school, and it’s a totally different story; it’s meltdowns and tantrums and refusing to cooperate from carpool until bedtime. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and you’re probably wondering why on earth your child only has meltdowns at home.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener’s question about the huge difference between her child’s behavior at school versus at home. I unpack this super common dynamic, explain why it happens (and why it’s actually a good thing!), and give you strategies to better support your child when they’re struggling at home.

Here’s the thing: It’s super normal and actually healthy for our kids to hold it together at school and then fall apart at home. And once we understand WHY this happens, we will be so much better able to effectively support our kids in managing tough emotions and challenging behaviors after school.

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How to Stop Sibling Teasing (& Why It Happens in the First Place)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 25 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

If you’ve got more than one child, you already know how infuriating it can be when one kid starts picking on the other, seemingly out of nowhere. It might seem purposeful and mean, and it can be super tricky to meet both kids’ needs in these tough parenting moments.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to stop sibling teasing. I dive into the many reasons and complicated dynamics that cause one child to seemingly intentionally provoke the other, and I share both strategies to intervene in the moment and to help you feel prepared before things ever get to that point.

Here’s the thing: It’s super normal for siblings to fight, tease each other, and otherwise struggle sometimes. The conflict we see on the outside is just the manifestation of how our kids are feeling – both in general and towards each other – on the inside. Understanding what’s really going on in these moments is key to supporting our kids effectively.

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How to Get Kids to Clean Up: Pro Tips to Help You Teach This Important Skill (Without All the Stress!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 18 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

“All I do all day is go from room to room cleaning up the messes my kids make!” Sound familiar? If it does, you’re not alone! The constant tidying we do as parents is exhausting. It makes so much sense that you’d want your child to start cleaning up their own toys & messes as soon as humanly possible.

In this week’s episode, I talk about how to actually get your child to clean up after themselves (I promise you it IS doable!). I share what to do (& what not to do) and what to expect as you teach your child the important skill of cleaning up what they’re not using.

Here’s the thing: Children can absolutely learn to clean up, but like most things in parenting, this isn’t something we can force, and it’s definitely a process that doesn’t happen overnight. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll feel prepared to teach your child the art of cleaning up (without all the stress!).

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Parenting With Trauma: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Reparent Yourself While You Simultaneously Raise Your Own Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Most of us arrive at gentle / respectful / conscious parenting for a reason: We want to do things differently than they were done when we were kids. And the parts of our own childhoods that we leave behind as we become parents ourselves – the punishments, developmentally inappropriate expectations, criticisms, etc. – have often left us with unmet needs & unhealed wounds.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who wonders how to deal with guilt around not having fully healed her childhood trauma before becoming a parent. I talk about how and why we can let go of that guilt, share my own story of recognizing childhood wounds through becoming a parent, and give you concrete ideas of how to heal that trauma – to reparent & heal your inner child! – WHILE also parenting your own kids.

Y’all, this is a powerful episode. We ALL have unhealed wounds coming into parenthood, and it can be freaking painful to parent with what can feel like gaping, vulnerable holes where our inner child peeks through when it’s least convenient. Here’s the thing, though: You will NEVER be fully healed; healing is a PROCESS – it’s ongoing. And when you listen to this episode & hear all the ways (big and small) that you’re healing as you go, you’ll realize that you are already DOING the work. And that’s what truly matters.

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Parents, Stop Doing These 3 Things Today to Simplify Your Parenting & Feel More JOY!

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 04 Jan 2023 09:00:00 -0500

"Parenting is the hardest job we’ll ever do." It's literally the first line of my podcast intro, and that’s because it’s the truth. But we often make parenting even harder than it needs to be; we take on responsibilities that were never ours to begin with … and then we feel like failures when we’re unsuccessful.

In this week’s episode, I share three common but unnecessary “jobs” we take on as parents …. and I encourage you to LET THEM GO! You’re probably working harder than you need to, friend.

Here’s the thing: While I can’t make parenting easy for you (no one can!), I CAN help you parent in a way that feels *lighter*. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll have 3 things you can stop doing TODAY to lighten your load and feel better about how you’re parenting.

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Why You Should Forget the New Year’s Resolutions & Do This ONE Thing Instead for Lighter, More Joyful Parenting in 2023!

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 28 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Ah, New Year’s Resolutions. According to the research, most of us make them … and most of us also give up on them before the end of January. I think this is because we often think of our resolutions in all-or-nothing terms (read: I resolve to NEVER yell at my kids again) … which sets us up to fail.

In this week’s episode, I give you another option: Ditch the all-or-nothing thinking connected to New Year’s Resolutions and instead build more (real, actual) gratitude into your life. Research tells us that gratitude is literally life-changing when it’s a regular part of our daily lives, and in this week’s episode, I share ways you can work on inviting more gratitude into your life so that parenting as a whole feels better. You can do these things even if you’re busy, stressed, and struggling to make ends meet. Seriously.

Here’s the thing: We don’t have to make some huge all-or-nothing shift every January. But we can use the energy and momentum of the new year to propel us into bite-sized, sustainable change that actually feels good. And inviting more gratitude into our lives is an excellent way to do this.

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From Toddler Tantrums to Big Kid Struggles: How to Manage Holiday Meltdowns Like a Pro

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 21 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

The holidays are magical for children. There’s a constant stream of fun activities, sugar, and presents. But all of that excitement and schedule changes can also bring tantrums, meltdowns, difficulties with impulse control, and lots of big feelings.

In this week’s episode, I give you actionable strategies to support your child through the holidays by paying attention to their schedule and cues, making a plan ahead of time, and knowing when to cut your losses and head home.

Here’s the thing: It’s not if your child will have a meltdown this holiday season – it’s when. If we expect that our child will struggle at some point during all of the holiday excitement, we’ll be so much better prepared to support them when it actually happens. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be ready to do just that.

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How to Deal When Someone Criticizes Your Parenting (& Navigating Holiday Gatherings With People Who Aren’t Into Respectful / Gentle Parenting)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 14 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

What do you do when you’ve made the decision to parent differently … but your family and friends aren’t exactly on board? How do you deal when your own parents criticize your parenting? How do you navigate gatherings with relatives who don’t get gentle / respectful / conscious parenting? These questions come up all the time … but especially during the holidays when we’re gathering with friends and family.

In this week’s episode, I dive into how to handle it when you’re spending time with others who don’t parent like you do. I give you scripts for challenging moments, help you shift your mindset around criticism, and empower you with strategies to set everyone – you, your child, and your relatives – up for success at this year’s holiday gatherings.

Here’s the thing: Most of us were raised in a way that literally wired our brains to care what others think. But the truth is that you don’t have to justify or convince anyone to accept your parenting choices. The more convicted YOU feel about how you’re choosing to parent, the more you can stand in your power knowing that you’re doing what’s best for your child … no matter what anyone else thinks. You’ve got this.

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“Should I Lie to My Kid About Santa Claus?”: Answers to Your Santa Questions (& How to Do the Santa Thing Respectfully!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 07 Dec 2022 09:00:00 -0500

If you’re a parent who celebrates Christmas, you’ve probably been wondering: Is it really okay to “lie” to my child about Santa Claus in order to keep the holiday magic alive? And what do I do when my child comes to me & asks me directly: “Is Santa Claus real?”

In this week’s episode, I answer these questions & share my thoughts on how to do Santa (& the Elf on the Shelf!) in a way that feels respectful, kind, and aligned with our values as parents trying to raise resilient, confident kids. I also offer ideas on how to handle it when your child asks you directly whether Santa is real (and what to do when a child who knows the truth encounters others who still believe).

Here’s the thing: The magic of Santa Claus can absolutely be part of your holiday celebrations. But there are a few things we want to avoid doing (and some things we want to make sure we do) in order to carry out these fun traditions in a way that’s respectful & honors your child’s needs and development.

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Why the Holidays Are So Stressful for Parents (& 6 Tips to Reclaim Your Joy & Stress Less This Holiday Season!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 30 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

There’s so much pressure on us as parents to curate the perfect holiday experience for our kids. Five minutes on social media can have you scrambling to create traditions you didn’t even know existed or feeling like a failure by comparison. You might work so hard chasing joy and creating magic that you don’t even get to really enjoy the holidays.

In this week’s episode, I explore the many reasons why the holidays are so stressful on parents and how our own childhood experiences and society’s influences play into our stress. And then I empower you with six tips to reclaim your joy and stress less this holiday season.

Because here’s the thing: Your child doesn’t need fancy holiday celebrations, expensive gifts, or 35 magical traditions. Even during the holidays, your child only really needs YOU – and the connection, co-regulation, and comfort YOU provide.

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”Am I Raising An Ungrateful Child?!”: How to Get Your Child to Say “Thank You” (Without Forcing It!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 23 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

We all want our kids to be polite & kind, and this includes saying “thank you” when appropriate. In fact, many of us were raised to believe that “good kids always say ‘thank you,’” so we might feel triggered when our child can’t, won’t, or doesn’t thank someone. We can start to wonder: Am I raising an ungrateful child??

In today’s episode, I dive into what it looks like to help our kids recognize, connect with, and (eventually!) express feelings of gratitude. I talk about our role as parents in helping our kids tap into their gratitude (spoiler alert: It’s not forcing them to “go say thank you!”) and how we can do this in a way that doesn’t leave us (or our child) looking ungrateful at the holiday gift exchange.

Here’s the thing: Gratitude is a feeling. And we can’t force our kids to feel anything. What we can do is model noticing & verbalizing things we feel grateful for and help our kids learn to recognize when they’re feeling grateful. If we do this, our kids will eventually start to express real, honest gratitude all on their own.

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Self-Care for Parents: Why It’s Necessary & How to Make It Happen

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

As parents, we give SO much of ourselves. Parenting is HARD. And parenting differently than how we were parented can take a lot out of us; we’re reparenting ourselves while we’re coregulating with our kids, even when we’re not really feeling it. And when you add to all of that the stress of the holidays, it can be really hard to show up the way we want to unless we’re taking good care of ourselves.

In today’s episode, I talk about self-care for parents – and why it’s the necessary foundation upon which we build everything else we do as parents. I explore why we often struggle to care for ourselves the way we do for others, why seeking “balance” can actually make things even harder for us, and how we can fit in self-care around our kids and amidst our busy lives.

Here’s the thing: Self-care as a parent is necessary – it’s never selfish or something that’s “nice to have if we can fit it in.” If we’re not taking care of ourselves, we will struggle to show up as the parents we want to be. Self-care has to be a priority, full stop.

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Why I Love Parenting Without Punishments: 3 Reasons to Stop Punishing Your Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 09 Nov 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Most of us grew up being punished when our behavior didn’t please our parents: We were spanked, sent to time-out, sent to our rooms, or grounded. This was just how people parented when we were kids. And now that you’re a parent yourself, you might struggle as you decide whether to use punishments with your own child.

In today’s episode, I tackle the topic of punishments. Are punishments actually effective? Are punishments harmful? If we’re not using punishments with our child, what else can we do when challenging behaviors show up? What’s the difference between a punishment, a boundary, and a consequence? I answer all of these questions and more in this week’s episode – and I share three reasons why I don’t recommend using punishments with children.

Here’s the thing: If we’re trying to raise connected, resilient kids with a solid foundation of emotion regulation, then punishments go against everything we’re working toward. And there are better, more effective ways of shaping behavior in the long-term. These other ways of dealing with behavior take more effort on the front end, but they are worth it in the long run!

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The Hidden Dangers of Using Rewards to Motivate Children (& What You Can Do Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 02 Nov 2022 08:00:00 -0400

One of the earliest pieces of parenting advice I got was this: “You just have to find your child’s currency, and then ‘good’ behavior will follow.” And at the time, I thought it was decent advice; sticker charts and treats are pretty innocent, right? And rewards are better than punishments, aren’t they? Well, as it turns out, rewards aren’t as innocent as they seem.

In today’s episode, I dive into using rewards with our kids. Do rewards really work to change a child’s behavior? What are there risks associated with using rewards in parenting? And if you’re not going to use rewards to motivate your child, what can you do instead? I answer all of these questions and more in this week’s episode.

Here’s the thing: Rewards aren’t as harmless as they seem; they’re actually very similar to punishments, and in the long-term, they aren’t very effective. But the good news is that you can absolutely motivate your child in other, more organic ways (that don’t cost you anything and actually work long-term!). And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know how to do that.

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Let’s Talk About “Mom Rage” / Parenting Rage: 4 Reasons You’re Losing It Constantly (& What You Can Do About It!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 26 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0400

“Mom rage”: We don’t really talk about it, do we? There’s so much shame in our society around anger in general – and parenting rage feels even more unspeakable. But even though it feels unspeakable, parenting rage is SO common, and you’re definitely not alone if you’ve experienced it!

In today’s episode, I unpack “mom rage” (including why we call it “mom rage” even though any parent can experience it). I break down what “mom rage” really is & share four of the most common reasons we get ragey in parenting & simple action items to address each root cause. This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered: Why do we go through seasons where we’re losing our ish constantly? And what can we do to support ourselves and move away from rage and intense, frequent anger in parenting?

Here’s the thing: Rage in parenting is super common, and you’re still a good parent if you’re experiencing it. It’s not your fault, and you’re not alone. But you don’t have to stay in a place of feeling ragey / intensely angry all the time! You CAN feel better! I share four action items to help you move out of this place of constant parenting rage so that you can parent in a way that TRULY feels good. You’ve got this!

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Talking to Your Child About Death: How, When & What to Say to Broach This Difficult Topic

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 19 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Talking to kids about death feels hard, doesn’t it? It’s a tough subject for us as adults. And we’re often talking about it while grieving a fresh loss, which makes it all the more challenging. Sometimes it feels so hard to broach this topic that we just don’t … until we have to.

In today’s episode, I empower you with everything you need to know to have a conversation about death with your child starting today, even if you’re not grieving a fresh loss. I share how to broach the topic, what to actually say (& what not to say!), and how to deal when you’re grieving & sad and simultaneously having to support your child through a tough loss.

Here’s the thing: Death is a natural & inevitable part of life. When we approach it as such with our kids, we create space for them to integrate death as a concept into their world long before they actually need to understand it. Talking about death with your child is important, and after listening to today’s episode, you’ll feel ready to start that conversation.

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It’s Not Always About Limit Setting: How to Give Your Child Independence & Influence (& Why You Should!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 12 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0400

We talk a lot about setting boundaries with kids – and this is for good reason! Boundaries make kids feel safe, and it’s important that we show up as the sturdy leaders our kids need us to be. But sometimes our limits are less about safety and more about our own personal preference, which introduces some “gray area” into the equation of when to set a boundary with a child.

In today’s episode, I talk about how, while boundaries are super important in parenting, it’s also equally important that our kids feel like they have a voice. Our kids need to be able to express their needs and wants, share their opinions, and sometimes have influence in the parent-child relationship, and in today’s episode, I share ways to do this while still maintaining safety and sturdy leadership.

Here’s the thing: We don’t want our kids to grow up feeling like they always have to cave to what someone else wants. We don’t want them to feel like they have to do something just because someone else tells them to do it. We want our kids to know they have the right to take up space, and after today’s episode, you’ll understand what it means to give your child influence in the parent-child relationship without sacrificing safety or wavering in your leadership.

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Supporting Kids as They Explore: Finding the Sweet Spot Between “Helicopter Parenting” & Hands-Off Parenting

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 05 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Your child is climbing up high on a play structure, and you’re feeling nervous. What are you actually supposed to do? Should you be sipping coffee nonchalantly on a park bench nearby, letting whatever happens happen? Or should you be right there next to your child, setting limits around how high she climbs?

In this week’s episode, I help you understand the importance of supporting your child as they explore the world around them. I talk about scaffolding their experience to support developing skills, setting up the environment for success, and finding the balance between hovering and completely checking out.

Here’s the thing: Supporting our children as they explore is literally half of what it means to build a secure attachment relationship, so as much as we might want to, we can’t just keep our children right next to us all the time. But after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know how to support your child in safe, healthy, developmentally appropriate exploration.

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When Gentle Parenting Isn’t Working: Shift Your Energy & Watch Your Child’s Behavior Change

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 28 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0400

You’re validating all the feelings. You’re saying all the right things. You’re pretty sure you’re doing everything right … and yet you don’t feel any more connected to your child. In fact, you feel pretty frustrated. And your child’s challenging behavior isn’t changing. What gives?!?

In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the most common reasons why gentle / respectful / peaceful / conscious parenting might be falling flat: The energy you’re bringing to the situation doesn’t match the goals you have or the words you’re saying. I give examples of how to shift your energy in these moments so you can shift the dynamic between you and your child.

Here’s the thing: The energy we bring to any given moment in parenting is SO much more important than any strategy, script, or tool. When you can shift your energy to a calmer, more present, more patient vibe, connection just happens – and from there, behavior shifts.

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“It’s MINE!”: What To Do When Your Child Won’t Share (& Why You Shouldn’t Force It!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 21 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Sharing is caring … or is it? Most of us grew up thinking that sharing was kindness – and that good kids always share. And now as parents, we wonder: Why isn’t my child sharing? How do I get my child to share? And should I force my child to share if it’s not happening?

In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & sharing: What’s really going on when kids won’t share? Is it normal for kids not to share? And how should parents respond when kids won’t share? I share the perspective shift required to respond effectively in these moments – and why I don’t recommend forcing kids to share.

Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child won’t share is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!

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“Why Do I Lose It When My Child Won’t Listen?!”: Making Sense of & Working Through Parenting Triggers

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 14 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Parenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do. Parenting differently than how we were parented is especially hard because we’re being asked to give what we weren’t given. As we do this, our kids trigger our own past hurts & unmet needs … and the next thing we know, we’re losing it in an angry spiral.

In this week’s episode, I help demystify parenting triggers – how they develop, why they’re so hard, and what we can do to begin to shift how we show up in these really hard moments. I use the example of getting triggered by “defiant” & “disrespectful” behavior, but you can apply these ideas to any triggers you experience in your own parenting.

Here’s the thing: We get triggered by our kids because we’re choosing to break unhelpful generational cycles. And that’s amazing! But in doing so, we need to heal, too, and that’s not always easy. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know the next steps to take to begin that healing process and show up differently in your hardest parenting moments.

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“Why Is My Child So Defiant!?”: What’s Really Going On (& Why Labeling Children Isn’t Helpful)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 07 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0400

If you spend just a minute Googling, you’ll see hundreds of results on how to deal with a "defiant” child. By “defiant”, we typically mean a child who’s purposefully digging her heels in & outright refusing to comply. We think of this child as difficult and problematic, and most of the Google results suggest punishment as a remedy.

In this week’s episode, I offer a different perspective. I don’t believe in calling kids defiant; I think doing so puts us in a mindset where we can’t parent effectively. I share why I think this term is harmful – to our kids and to us as parents – and why labels in general aren’t helpful in parenting.

Here’s the thing: If our ultimate goal is to raise resilient kids and to parent in a way that genuinely feels good, then we need to pay attention to the language we use. We need to think & talk about our kids in a way that prioritizes connection and holds onto a sense of their inherent goodness, even in the most difficult moments.

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The Truth About Kids & Lying: Why Kids Really Lie (& What Parents Should Do About It!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Parents often feel frustrated, confused, and angry when kids tell lies. For most of us, this was a hard line for our parents; we were punished or made to feel like we were bad. And now as parents, we wonder: Why is my child lying? And how am I supposed to respond?!?

In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & lying: Why do children lie? Is it normal for kids to tell lies? And how should parents respond when kids lie? I share why lying is actually a good thing and 6 common reasons lying happens. I also share exactly how to respond in each situation.

Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child tells a lie is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!

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How to Deal With After School Meltdowns: Why Children Have Meltdowns After School & What Parents Can Do to Help

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Your child is so excited (and maybe also a little nervous!) to go to school; you send them off, and you can’t wait to hear all about their day when they get off the school bus. But come 3pm, instead of being greeted with hugs & stories about your child’s day, you get a grumpy attitude and a meltdown when you arrive back home. What gives?!?

In this week’s episode, I unpack the dreaded after-school meltdown and give you a step-by-step plan to support your child in the hours that follow their school day. I reveal why children tend to have meltdowns after school, what we can do to help, and why these meltdowns are so, so normal.

Here’s the thing: School requires a lot of our kids; they have to follow rules, inhibit impulses, learn new things, and navigate new & unfamiliar situations (especially at the beginning of a new school year!). It’s stressful, and children need to release this stress once they’re reunited with their safe attachment figures. Once we understand what’s really happening when our kids have meltdowns after school, we can respond in a way that wires our kids for resilience & healthy emotion regulation!

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What Should I Do When My Child is Having a Meltdown? 3 Pieces of Bad Advice (& What to do Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 17 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the most challenging parts of parenting. It can be so hard to know how to respond when a child is screaming, throwing toys, hitting, kicking, crying, and unable to access logical reasoning. And because meltdowns are so challenging, there’s no shortage of advice on how to handle them … but not all of this advice is good!

In this week’s episode, I share 3 pieces of bad advice most of us have probably gotten when it comes to navigating children’s meltdowns. I share why these ideas are bad advice and what we can do instead.

Here’s the thing: Meltdowns are a normal, healthy part of childhood; all kids have them, and that’s a good thing! And when you know how to respond to your child’s meltdowns, you can feel confident and calm instead of overwhelmed and lost in these tough parenting moments.

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Are Meltdowns Normal? 4 Myths About Your Child’s Meltdowns (& the Truth Behind Them!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 10 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the hardest parts of parenting. We often wonder: Is it normal for my child to have meltdowns? Why is my child having a meltdown? What in the world am I supposed to do during my child’s meltdowns? And why is it so hard to stay calm during my child’s meltdowns?

In this week’s episode, I answer all of these questions by debunking 4 common myths about children’s meltdowns. I also talk about the difference between tantrums and meltdowns and how one might lead to the other … and why it’s important that children have both.

Here’s the thing: It’s so, so normal for kids to have moments of complete dysregution, sensory overload, & emotional overwhelm – which is what meltdowns really are. After today’s episode, you’ll know why meltdowns happen and why ideas like “meltdowns are bad behavior” or “meltdowns need to be stopped” are myths!

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(* Please note the date change from the 27th to 29th of August for the workshop!)

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When Your Child “Only Wants Mommy!”: Navigating Parental Preference with Confidence

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 03 Aug 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Parental preference is really challenging; it’s so hard when your child only wants mommy or only wants daddy. Either you can’t get a break because your child seems to need you constantly, or you feel rejected because your child seems to want nothing to do with you.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who asks: Why does my toddler only want Mommy? And how should we respond? I dive into why kids go through phases of preferring only one parent, what it means (hint: it’s not what you might think!), and how to handle these tough moments and the difficult feelings that can arise as a result.

Here’s the thing: It’s so, so normal for kids to go through phases where they prefer one parent over the other – and how parents respond can mean the difference between entrenching this pattern … or moving through it! After today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how to respond in these moments to strengthen your child’s relationship with both parents.

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The Power of Storytelling: A Tool to Use When Your Child Gets Hurt (& in Other Stressful Moments)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 27 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0400

One of your most important jobs as a parent is helping your child make sense of the world around them; children are born knowing nothing about the world that surrounds them, and we slowly help them understand what’s happening and where they fit.

In this week’s episode, I share why storytelling is SO powerful and how to use it to support your child’s healthy development & deepen the attachment relationship.

Here’s the thing: Storytelling is one of the most powerful tools we have as parents to help our kids make sense of things that are difficult, scary, confusing, or just new for our kids. And it’s so simple & easy to do! And after listening to this week’s episode, you’ll be ready to use this tool with your child, too!

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Making Sense of “Clingy” Behaviors: What’s Really Going On When Your Child Won’t Leave Your Side

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 20 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Sometimes our kids go through phases – days, weeks, or even months – where they seem to need to be near us constantly. This can be challenging for us as parents; it’s hard to show up the way we want to when we’re struggling to get our own needs met because we’re constantly tending to our kids.

In this week’s episode, I unpack what’s really happening in these difficult seasons – including why our kids stay close, common reasons our kids need us more than usual, and what children are really seeking when they won’t leave our side.

Here’s the thing: As parents, we’re both the secure base from which our children explore the world and the safe haven to which they return when they need to feel safe, protected, and connected. When we understand what’s truly happening in “clingy” moments, we can show up as the safe haven our children really need.

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What to Do When Your Child Interrupts: Why it Happens & How to Respond

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 13 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0400

You sit down to eat dinner after a long, exhausting day. You’re ready to enjoy your meal and chat with your partner … when your child interrupts with something they have to say right now. And then a few minutes later, your partner is telling a story … when your child interrupts again.

In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who asks: Why do kids interrupt? And how should parents respond? I dive into what’s often happening when kids interrupt, how to handle these tough moments, and a trick that’s helped my own kids navigate the need to connect with us while we’re involved in other conversations.

Here’s the thing: Our kids need to feel included and know that they can access us when they need us, even when we’re talking to someone else. When we can meet those needs, kids are way less likely to interrupt and will be increasingly able to engage in conversation with us!

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Why Are My Kids Always Fighting? Strategies to Set Siblings Up for Success (& Why You Don’t Need to Stress!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 08:00:00 -0400

If your kids are constantly fighting, you’re not alone. It can be SO challenging to know how to respond to constant arguments, teasing, and physical conflict. You might start to wonder: Is it normal for siblings to fight this much? How can I stop my kids from fighting? If you’re wondering these things, you’re not alone; it can be SO hard to see your children struggling with each other.

In this week’s episode, I explore sibling dynamics & strategies to set siblings up for success. I also talk about sibling conflict (spoiler alert: it’s normal!) and how to intervene when things get heated.

Here’s the thing: It’s normal, healthy, and expected for siblings to struggle with each other sometimes. But when you have the right mindset & tools – which you totally will after listening to this episode! – you’ll start to see these tough moments as opportunities to build healthy conflict resolution skills, which will ultimately strengthen your children’s relationship with each other!

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The Magic of Independent Play: 4 Steps to Getting Your Child to Play Alone (& Why You Should!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0400

How many times a day do you hear: “Mommy, come play with me!”? You might be in the middle of putting the dishes away or working or just (finally!) having a moment to yourself … and then this request pulls at your heartstrings – and you either say yes begrudgingly or say no with heaps of guilt. But what if I told you that there was another option?

In this week’s episode, I talk about why it’s actually really important & healthy for children to play alone – and I share tips to help you encourage more independent play from your child. I also talk about why it’s okay and actually a good thing to say no to your child’s requests to play when you’re not available or not really feeling it.

Here’s the thing: Children get the most out of play when they can fully enter their world of imagination – uninterrupted & without adult influence – and parents need time to do life, run the household, and care for themselves. This episode will show you exactly how to encourage more independent play so that everyone’s needs are met in the most developmentally-appropriate way possible!

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Kids & Screens: Tips for Healthy, Balanced Screen Use When Technology is Everywhere

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Screens are everywhere in 2022, and kids love them – but parents often use them with reluctance, guilt & anxiety. Maybe you can relate: Have you ever felt bad about using screens with your child? Have you Googled: “How does screen time affect kids?” or “Are screens safe for toddlers?” or “How much screen time is too much?” or “Why does my child melt down every time we turn off the TV?!”

In this week’s episode, I answer these questions and share best practices for kids & screen use. This episode will empower you to use screens in a way that works WITH your child’s development so you can pave the way for healthy, balanced relationships with screens in your home.

Here’s the thing: Screens have definitely gotten some bad press in the parenting & child development realms. But screens aren’t all bad – and they aren’t going anywhere, so we’ve got to learn to live WITH them and use them in a way that works for our kids & families.

This week’s episode is the second episode in my 4-week summer series, where I share the tools, strategies & perspective you need for an awesome summer with your child! Next up: encouraging more independent playtime!

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4 Tips for Managing Summer Boredom (& Why You DON’T Need to Push Academics Over the Summer!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 15 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0400

If your child’s on summer break, you’re probably already hearing the dreaded “I’m bored!”. When our kids beg us to entertain them, we can feel pulled to come up with an endless stream of ideas & activities, which is exhausting. But here’s the thing: entertainment is not what your child actually needs when they’re feeling bored.

In this week’s episode, I share my strategies for managing summer boredom (hint: they’re not me telling you to “just play with your child all day long”!). I also tell you why you don’t need to push academics over the summer & give you permission to let go of your worries about “kindergarten readiness” and the “summer slide”.

It can be uncomfortable to allow your child the space to struggle through boredom. But when we remind ourselves that being boredom is simply a feeling – and that we don’t need to fix it – it empowers us to just let it be. And from there flows creativity & independent play (and – bonus! – more time to ourselves as parents!).

This week’s episode is the first episode in my 4-week summer series, where I share the tools, strategies & perspective you need for an awesome summer with your child! Next up: screen time!

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How to Get Your Child to Listen: 3 Steps to Gain Cooperation & Build Collaboration

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 08 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0400

We all want our kids to LISTEN, right? We want them to clean up their toys, get their shoes on when it’s time to go, and stop teasing their siblings when we ask them to. If you’re feeling this, you’re not alone; I get asked allllll the time “How do I get my child to listen?!”

In this week’s episode, I talk about the mindset shift required to get kids to listen, and I share my 3-step process to engage children in smoother, simpler cooperation – without nagging. (I’ll even share my special trick for getting kids to listen that I pull out when all else fails!)

Here’s the thing: If we want our kids to cooperate, taking the time to connect is key. When we connect first, we create an atmosphere & an attitude of community & collaboration – which will serve our kids for a lifetime (and make them SO much more likely to do the thing we’re asking!).

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Why We Shouldn’t Call Kids Shy (& How to Help a “Shy” Child!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0400

You’re at the store, and a kind stranger says hi … but your child freezes & says nothing. You take your child to the playground, but he won’t leave your side. What should you do when your child acts shy? And does it mean something’s wrong?

In this week’s episode, I share why I don’t think it’s helpful to call our kids shy. I’ll help you reframe how you see “shy” behaviors & empower you with ways to support your child in these moments.

How we think & talk about our kids really does matter. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll understand why calling kids shy isn’t helpful – and you’ll know how to think about & respond to behaviors we typically think of as “shy” so that you can raise confident & resilient kids.

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(BONUS Episode) Talking About Hard Things: Supporting Children in the Aftermath of a School Shooting

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 25 May 2022 19:17:22 -0400

In the aftermath of the school shooting at Robb Elementary in Uvalde, TX yesterday, we're all grieving. We're heartbroken & outraged at the same time. And in the midst of all of these feelings, how do we support our kids?

In this bonus episode, I talk about how to take care of our kids (and ourselves!) in the wake of a tragedy. I break down the important considerations around talking to your kids about yesterday's events and creating space to grieve as a family.

If you're feeling lost in the wake of yesterday's shooting, you're not alone. You're not supposed to know how to navigate something like this. But hopefully this episode gives you some tools and scripts to use to make supporting your child a little easier in the midst of a really, really unthinkably hard thing.

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How to Help a Child with Anxiety: Strategies for Building Resilience

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 25 May 2022 10:39:17 -0400

It can be so tough to know how to support our kids when they’re feeling anxious. Sometimes we can start to feel anxious about their anxiety, and this can lead to everyone feeling even more anxious.

In this week’s episode, I answer a question from a listener whose 11-year-old daughter is struggling with anxiety about riding in the car. I explore why our children’s anxiety is tough for us as parents, and I provide tools, strategies, and new ways of thinking about anxiety to help us support our kids.

Understanding what’s really happening when our kids feel anxious and allowing space for the anxiety to exist is key if we want to wire our kids for resilience, even when anxiety shows up.

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How to Deal with Your Child’s Frustration: 6 Tips to Build Frustration Tolerance

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 18 May 2022 08:00:00 -0400

As parents, we all want to help our kids build frustration tolerance. It can be so tough – for us and for them! – when our kids shut down before they even give something a chance. But sometimes the things we do to try to help our children tolerate frustration better only make things harder. (Frustrating, right?)

In this week’s episode, I share why it’s so, so normal for kids to get frustrated easily – and I give you six actionable tips to help you support your child in learning to tolerate frustrating moments a little better!

Allowing space for frustration and approaching tough moments with curiosity & patience is key to growing your child’s ability to tolerate frustration. And this week’s episode will help you do just that!

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“Shepherding Through”: How to Handle Meltdowns When Life Gets in the Way

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 11 May 2022 08:00:00 -0400

If we want to help our children develop emotion regulation, allowing them to express their feelings is key. But what do you do when you have to be somewhere, but your child is having a tantrum? Or what about when you have multiple kids who all need you at once – like when your toddler is crying, but your baby needs a diaper change? How do you meet your child’s emotional needs in those moments?

In this week’s episode, I’m answering a listener who wrote in asking exactly this. I talk about how to show up for our kids in their hard moments while still getting to our appointments on time & meeting everyone’s needs (including our own!). I dive into why these moments are so hard & share my step-by-step “shepherding through” process.

Here’s the thing: The world can’t stop every time your child has a feeling. Sometimes life gets in the way, and you’ll have to hold space for the feeling while also moving on to wherever you need to be next. And that’s okay! The key is doing this in a way that builds emotion regulation & connection … which you’ll be able to do after listening to today’s episode!

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Expert Tips On How To Deal With Your Child’s Aggressive Behaviors

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 04 May 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Dealing with hitting, kicking, biting, pushing, scratching, spitting, and other aggressive behaviors in our children is one of the hardest parts of parenting. If you struggle in these moments, you’re so not alone! Aggressive behaviors during tantrums and meltdowns can be SO triggering and tricky.

In this week’s episode, I dive into why these aggressive behaviors happen, why they’re SO hard on us as parents, and how we can effectively and lovingly deal with these behaviors so that hopefully they happen less over time.

Here’s the thing: Aggressive behaviors – as tough as they are to deal with – are a normal part of healthy child development. And if we want these behaviors to happen less often, we need the tools, strategies, and perspective to show up with confidence and calm … which will make these tough moments feel lighter for everyone involved!

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Praising Children: How to Praise Your Child in a Healthy, Confidence-Building Way (& What to Avoid!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 27 Apr 2022 13:55:59 -0400

Most of us grew up hearing “good job” or “I’m proud of you” when we did things that pleased our parents. And because we grew up hearing these things, it probably comes naturally to say them to our own kids – which seems innocent enough, right?

In today’s episode, I explore the effects of different ways of praising our kids – and I talk about which ones build REAL confidence (and which ones leave our kids hungry for more, constantly seeking approval from others).

We all love our kids, and it’s natural to want to tell them how amazing they are. And when we can do this in a way that’s about THEIR process versus OUR expectations, we can praise our kids while also allowing them to grow REAL, inside-out, deep-down confidence … which is key to raising empowered and resilient children!

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Emotion Regulation for Kids: 4 Reasons Validating Your Child’s Feelings Isn’t Working (& What to do Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever sat with your child in a tough moment and said ALL the “right” things … but your child only seems to get more & more upset? It can be SO hard! I’ve been there, too.

In this week’s episode, I talk about what our kids need MOST from us in difficult moments & explore four common mistakes we make when trying to validate our children’s feelings – complete with real life examples to help you do things differently!

Here’s the thing: In order to truly validate your child’s feelings, you have to first access genuine empathy for their struggle, no matter how trivial it might seem. When you can do that, the rest will follow; your child will feel seen & safe to show up exactly as they are, which builds confidence, resilience, and emotion regulation.

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Respectful Parenting Isn’t Permissive Parenting: How to Set Healthy, Effective Boundaries That Will Set Your Child Up for Success

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0400

One of the most common misconceptions about parenting in a way that allows children to express all feelings is that kids basically get to do whatever they want. But that could not be further from the truth; allowing all feelings never means allowing all behaviors! The truth is that boundaries are essential in parenting … but actually setting them can be exhausting! If you’ve ever asked your child repeatedly to stop jumping on the couch only to have them ignore you, you know what I’m talking about; the struggle is real.

If setting boundaries with your child feels frustrating, this week’s episode is for you. I’ll empower you with answers to questions like: What is a boundary (and what isn’t)? Why are boundaries necessary? Which common boundary-setting mistakes might you be making? And if boundaries are so important, WHY do our kids push back on them so much?

Setting healthy, effective boundaries is essential to raising healthy kids. And after today’s episode, you’ll know how to do this in a way that feels good for you and your child, which is a game changer. You’ve got this!

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Parent’s Responsibility: What Do Our Kids ACTUALLY Need From Us? (& 3 Things They Don’t Need!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0400

I talk a lot about how our children’s behaviors are actually a window into what’s going on for them “under the surface”; their behaviors communicate skills that they haven’t yet developed, impulses they can’t yet control, and sometimes needs that haven’t been met.

And that last one – the part about unmet needs – can be really triggering to think about as a parent! You might feel like it means you’re not doing your job or you’re not enough – but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our kids have needs constantly, and we’ll never meet them perfectly. But having a “roadmap” of the possible things your child might be needing when behavior goes downhill can be a game changer.

In today’s episode, I share this roadmap with you so that you can feel empowered to decode even the trickiest behaviors by considering whether your child might need something from you in that moment. (And I’ll also share 3 things our kids DON’T need & that you can let go of today!)

Being a parent comes with SO MUCH pressure to do what’s best for our kids. It’s easy to get stuck in a tornado of worry over whether we’re really meeting their needs – but with this roadmap, you can feel empowered to focus on the things that really matter … and let go of the rest!

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Learning to Say Sorry: Why You Shouldn’t Force Your Kids to Apologize (& What to Do Instead!)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 30 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Most of us grew up being told to “say sorry!” if we did something wrong. And maybe we learned to say the words … but I would argue that in saying these words, we didn’t actually feel remorse or learn how to repair our mistakes in any real way.

In this episode, I share why I don’t force my kids to apologize (& why I recommend you don’t, either). I explore the downsides of forcing apologies, and I share what we should do instead.

Allowing children the space to feel & act on genuine remorse is the key to teaching them healthy repair – a skill they’ll need in every single relationship they’re a part of for the rest of their lives!

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”Sitting With Big Feelings”: What It Really Means & How It Builds Emotion Regulation

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 08:01:00 -0400

One of the most important jobs we have as parents is helping our children learn to regulate their emotions ... but HOW do we actually do this? The answer seems so simple: We do this by allowing ALL of our children’s feelings to exist in our safe presence. But what does that actually mean? What does it look like in practice?

In today’s episode, I unpack the phrase “allowing space for feelings” & share real life examples to help you understand what it REALLY looks like to sit with your child’s big feelings. Because doing this consistently is the SINGLE BEST THING we can do to help our kids learn to regulate their own emotions!

If we want to raise resilient kids, it’s KEY to help them understand that they’re capable of tolerating and moving through even the most uncomfortable feelings – so encourage your child to share their feelings with you, and sit with them in their discomfort. You’ve got this!

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What to do When You Mess Up: How to Repair & Reconnect with Your Child

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 16 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever lost your cool with your child? Have you yelled, said things you didn’t mean, or given in (when you know you shouldn’t) just to avoid a meltdown? The guilt we feel in these moments can be SO heavy. And sometimes that guilt makes it hard to know how to move forward.

In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through the process of repairing your relationship with your child when you (inevitably!) mess up – why it’s important and how to do it.

Here’s the thing: There’s no such thing as perfect parenting. You WILL make mistakes! And healthy & genuine repair is the KEY to having a solid relationship with your child despite the ruptures.

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“You’re the Worst Mommy Ever!”: Navigating Children’s Mad Feelings

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 09 Mar 2022 14:18:20 -0500

Anger is one of the trickiest emotions we deal with as parents. When our kids are angry – especially *at* us – it can be SO tough to stay calm and regulated and to respond in a way that feels good!

In today’s episode, I explore WHY anger is so tricky (hint: it’s related to our OWN feelings!), and I share some ideas to help you navigate your child’s angry moments with confidence.

Here’s the thing: Anger is a normal and healthy part of life. The goal is for ALL of us to be able to feel our anger … and then to regulate it so that we can do the right things, even when we’re mad. The only way out of any feeling – including anger – is through.

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Respectful Parenting: What Does That Actually Mean?

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 02 Mar 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered what terms like “respectful parenting”, “gentle parenting”, and “peaceful parenting” actually mean?

In today’s episode, I share why I’m not a fan of labels – and then I talk about the major ideas that define MY approach to parenting. (Hint: They all come back to parenting in a way that feels good – for you AND your child.)

If parenting isn’t feeling good for YOU right now, that’s okay! You can change things, starting today; it’s never too late. And it always comes back to two things: Building a strong connection with your child, and making sure you’re caring for yourself, too.

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Ready to Raise Resilient Kids (with Less Stress and More Joy)?

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 09:00:00 -0500

We all want to parent in a way that feels good. But raising kids is HARD, and there’s no instruction manual! It’s easy to find yourself struggling & wondering if you’re getting it right.

Today, in the very first episode of Raised Resilient, I'm sharing my own journey into the world of respectful parenting – and the 3 ideas that have empowered me to become the parent I always hoped I’d be.

We were raised to think that emotions are something to be avoided – that the goal is to stay happy all the time. So when our kids share their feelings, we often find ourselves trying to shut those feelings down as quickly as possible. But allowing our children’s feelings – and our own! – is the key to raising truly resilient kids.

FREE Mindset Shifts to Transform Your Parenting: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/

Welcome to Raised Resilient with Dr. Hilary! (Trailer)

drhilary@raisedresilient.com (Dr. Hilary Mandzik - Psychologist) — Thu, 10 Feb 2022 00:59:56 -0500

Parenting: It’s the hardest job we’ll ever do. Most of us are tired, stressed, struggling through meltdowns, and counting the minutes until bedtime.

But what if raising kids could feel just a little lighter? What if you could end even the hardest day feeling good about how you’re parenting?

I’m Dr. Hilary Mandzik – a licensed psychologist and mama of 3 changing the way we do parenting, so there’s less stress and more joy, even in the hardest moments!

Join me each week on the Raised Resilient Podcast as we explore tough parenting topics, from managing meltdowns to building self-esteem (and everything in between!).

I’ll help you understand your child’s behavior (and your reactions to it!) so that even the really hard moments make more sense. I’ll empower you with tools, strategies, and scripts to navigate those really hard moments with connection and confidence. (And I’ll remind you that no tool, strategy, or script is as powerful as your parenting ace – your relationship with your child!)

I’m passionate about parenting differently – parenting in a way that sees all kids as good, even when they’re struggling. I’m passionate about breaking unhelpful generational cycles and putting a hard stop to spanking, time outs, shaming, and yelling. I want to help you stop worrying about whether you’re “raising them right” and feel confident that your kids will grow up trusting themselves and feeling comfortable in their skin … because they were raised resilient.

And that’s big. Because raising our kids resilient can literally make this world a better place.

Listen, parenting is hard no matter how you do it. You won’t “enjoy every moment”, no matter what that lady at the store says. But I’m here to help you go from just barely surviving to parenting in a way that genuinely feels good, for you and your child.

So, warm up your coffee and grab your ear buds. It’s time to raise resilient kids!

FREE Mindset Shifts to Transform Your Parenting: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset

Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/